David Ndii Dresses Down Men Who Don't Cook

Ndii bashed young men for expecting their wives to cook with the aim of preserving African cultural traditions. He labeled such men as "idiots" with serious self-esteem issues.

David Ndii Dresses Down Men Who Don't Cook

Celebrated economist and political strategist Dr. David Ndii on Thursday, February 11, was ripped apart by Kenyans after he gave his opinion on who should cook in a marriage setting. 

Ndii bashed young men for expecting their wives to cook with the aim of preserving African cultural traditions. He labeled such men as "idiots" with serious self-esteem issues.

"Who is lying to young men that toxic masculinity is an African cultural badge of honour? If you expect you can date a career woman, marry, and the next day you’ll be putting your feet up as she keeps house, you are delusional," he stated.

The Oxford-University student went on to reveal that he cooked more often than his wife, Mwende Gatabaki, and added that his own mother was not a housekeeper when he was growing up. 

Mwende served for over eighteen years in the government as well as the public and private sector organizations at national, continental, and global levels. She has also worked as President Uhuru Kenyatta's advisor on Digital Transformation in government operations.

"Even my mother who is close to 80, let alone my wife, was never a housekeeper. My father cooked. My grandfather cooked. Idiots, go to the village or ask your aunties to find a class 8 graduate bimbo you can impress with your mtumba Toyota," he added.

His remarks sparked a civil war on Twitter with some in agreement and others against the idea.

"The "housewife" model came from colonial education. They were educating girls to become suitable wives for the African men graduating from European schools," lecturer Wandia Njoya stated.

"This thread is full of nonsense, no way David Ndii tweeted this. Men, stop giving your Twitter logins to your 19-year-old delusional girlfriends. NO SIMPING." responded @iamjoseh.

Sharon (not her real name), a psychologist, spoke to Viral Tea and sided with Ndii's sentiments while highlighting the demands women have in their careers in recent times.

"I completely agree with him because how can you expect her to have time to "serve" her husband while she maintains a career effectively, it's not possible at all.

"Men who expect such are the ones who convince their educated wives that they can be a housewife and he'll "take care" of her", she stated.

Marriage is a sacrifice, where two people come together for a better life. It is not a competition and any sign of competition, whether, with school documents or bank accounts, can be detrimental and bring about the absence of teamwork.

Ir is even worse with the current crop of marriages relying on social media and soap operas to survive. Also, longevity in a marriage is almost non-existent as one member of a couple would rather dump the other instead of fixing the situation affecting them.

Human rights activist Betty Murungi, who is married to Siaya Senator James Orengo, however, advises women not to abandon the traditional female roles, arguing that they do not in any way take away the power of women. 

“All of a woman’s experiences, including childbirth, childbearing, taking care of the family cooking, being a career woman. All of those are experiences that you must have and demand as a woman.”

“There is nothing to say that if you are an educated professional woman, if you are at the top of the corporate ladder, somehow the kitchen becomes taboo. Nothing could be further from the truth!" she noted.