With rising food prices, transport costs, and overall expenses squeezing disposable income, traditional date options such as fine dining and luxury experiences are becoming less accessible for a large section of city residents. As a result, a growing number of couples are turning to creative, low-cost alternatives that prioritise connection over extravagance.

Below are some of the most practical and romantic Valentine’s date ideas in Nairobi that can comfortably fit within a Ksh 1,000 budget.

Picnic Dates Gain Popularity

Urban green spaces such as Karura Forest are emerging as go-to spots for couples seeking affordable yet intimate experiences.

With entry fees ranging from Ksh 100 to Ksh 200 per person, couples can enjoy expansive greenery, quiet picnic sites, and walking trails. Many are opting to carry homemade meals and drinks to cut costs further.

The setting offers privacy and a break from the city’s fast pace, making it an ideal location for meaningful conversations and relaxed bonding.

Couples Flock to Ngong Hills for Scenic Views

Ngong Hills continues to attract couples looking for a more adventurous yet cost-effective date.

The site, known for its sweeping views and strong winds, offers opportunities for hiking and sunset watching at relatively low cost. Entry for residents is approximately Ksh 232, with additional spending mainly going towards transport and light snacks.

For many, the experience delivers a premium feel without the associated expense.

Home Movie Nights Replace Costly Cinema Dates

A noticeable shift is also being seen in how couples consume entertainment, with many opting to recreate cinema experiences at home.

By using streaming platforms and preparing simple meals, couples are managing to stay within budget while still enjoying a curated, intimate atmosphere. The trend reflects a broader move towards personalised experiences over commercial outings.

Cultural Dates on the Rise

Cultural venues such as the Nairobi National Museum are also gaining traction among couples seeking affordable yet engaging date options.

With entry fees averaging Ksh 200 to Ksh 300, visitors can explore exhibitions on Kenya’s history, art, and heritage. The experience often extends to the surrounding botanical gardens, offering added value at minimal cost.

Street Food Culture Redefines Romantic Dining

In a departure from traditional restaurant dates, many couples are embracing Nairobi’s vibrant street food scene.

Areas within the Central Business District (CBD) offer a variety of affordable options, including smokies, mutura, roasted maize, and chips. The informal setting allows couples to share meals and spend time together without the pressure of high bills.

Game Nights Offer Low-Cost Entertainment

Game-based dates are also becoming increasingly popular, particularly among younger couples.

Whether at home or in budget-friendly arcade spots, activities such as board games, cards, and video games provide interactive entertainment at little to no cost. The approach is seen as both engaging and effective in strengthening social bonds.

Affordable Café Dates Remain a Staple

Despite the shift towards low-cost experiences, café dates continue to hold appeal, particularly in smaller, less commercial establishments.

With a budget of between Ksh 300 and Ksh 700, couples can enjoy coffee and light snacks in a relaxed setting. The simplicity of the date often allows for extended conversations without significant financial strain.

Public Parks Attract Budget-Conscious Couples

Public spaces such as Uhuru Park and Central Park remain key destinations for couples seeking completely free or low-cost outings.

These locations provide open spaces for walks, casual seating, and shared moments, with optional spending limited to snacks and drinks. Their accessibility makes them particularly attractive during peak occasions like Valentine’s Day.

Cooking at Home Emerges as a Romantic Alternative

More couples are also embracing do-it-yourself (DIY) cooking dates as a way to combine affordability with creativity.

By preparing meals together using ingredients costing between Ksh 500 and Ksh 800, couples are able to create personalised dining experiences that rival restaurant outings.

Bookstore Visits Offer a Quiet Escape

Bookstore dates are carving out a niche among couples looking for calm and intellectually engaging experiences.

Locations such as the Text Book Centre allow couples to browse, share recommendations, and occasionally purchase affordable titles, all within a controlled budget.

Shift Reflects Changing Attitudes Towards Romance

The growing preference for low-cost Valentine’s date ideas reflects a broader shift in how Nairobi residents approach relationships.

Rather than focusing on high spending, many couples are prioritising intentionality, creativity, and shared experiences. Analysts note that this trend is likely to persist beyond Valentine’s Day, as economic pressures continue to shape consumer behaviour.

Ultimately, the evolving dating culture in Nairobi suggests that meaningful connections are increasingly being defined not by financial investment, but by the quality of time spent together.

According to figures recently released by Spotify, heartbreak-related listening in Kenya has increased by 62 per cent between 2023 and 2025, underscoring a growing shift away from traditional, celebratory expressions of Valentine’s Day.

At the same time, love-themed listening rose by more than 80 per cent, pointing to a dual reality where romance and heartbreak are unfolding side by side.

The trend suggests that while some Kenyans are celebrating love, many others are navigating its aftermath, with music emerging as a key outlet for emotional expression.

Spotify logo on a phone. /BRITANNICA

Playlist Culture on the Rise

The emotional shift is further reflected in how listeners are preparing for the season. Between January 1 and February 4, 2026, playlist creation increased by 58 per cent, as users curated music to match different emotional states ahead of February 14.

In Kenya, playlists containing the word “yearn” rose by approximately 302 per cent over the same period, significantly higher than the global increase of 170 per cent.

Globally, Valentine’s-related playlist creation has nearly quadrupled over the past three years, while “Galentine’s” playlists alone have grown by 389 per cent between 2022 and 2025.

The data indicates that Valentine’s Day is no longer confined to a single day but has evolved into a longer emotional period, with listeners actively preparing for both its highs and lows.

Gen Z Leading the Shift

Young people, particularly those aged between 0 and 29, are driving these trends. This group has emerged as the most emotionally engaged, using music to navigate modern relationships, including undefined connections often referred to as “situationships.”

Since 2023, love song streaming among this demographic has increased by 84 per cent. They also dominate playlist creation, accounting for 78 per cent of “simp” playlists, 89 per cent of “rizz” playlists, and 92 per cent of “yearn” playlists on the platform.

Their preferred artists reflect a more introspective tone. Acts such as Billie Eilish, Lord Huron, and Tate McRae are among the most streamed, with music that leans towards subdued, reflective storytelling rather than high-energy breakup anthems.

Even Split Across Genders

The data also shows that emotional listening is not confined to one gender. Women account for 51 per cent of heartbreak streams, while men account for 47 per cent, with love-related listening showing a similar balance.

This near-even split highlights that emotional engagement during Valentine’s season is widely shared.

Romance Becomes More Measured

Despite the surge in heartbreak content, love remains present but is increasingly expressed in more subtle ways.

Among older listeners, genres such as Quiet Storm and Vocal Jazz have become the most streamed in 2026, suggesting a shift towards calmer, more intentional expressions of romance.

Locally, Bien’s Chikwere is among the leading love tracks, while international artists such as Celine Dion and Westlife are seeing renewed interest, indicating that listeners are turning to familiar music to navigate complex emotions.

Spotify Launches ‘The Blend Date’

In response to the changing dynamics, Spotify has partnered with Kenyan content creator Kevin Maina (MainaMind) to launch “The Blend Date,” a short-form digital series built around shared music experiences.

The series features Maina interacting with artists, creators, and fans to explore compatibility through Spotify’s Blend feature, with guests including Njerae, Wixx Mang’utha, and South African creator King.grrrr.

Episodes will be released weekly on Instagram Reels and TikTok.

A Changing Valentine’s Season

The data points to a broader cultural shift in how Valentine’s Day is experienced in Kenya.

Rather than being defined by grand gestures, the occasion is increasingly becoming a period of reflection, where music plays a central role in helping individuals understand, process, and, in some cases, move on from love.

As a result, Valentine’s Day is evolving from a single-day celebration into a multi-week emotional season, beginning in early January and peaking around February 14.

A man surprising a woman on Valentine's Day. /NAIROBI NEWS

In a public notice dated February 2, 2026, the Bank highlighted that folding, gluing, taping, stapling, or pinning banknotes damages the currency and renders it unfit for circulation.

CBK explained that such practices interfere with the operation of ATMs, cash-counting, and sorting machines, leading to increased rejection of notes and the premature withdrawal and replacement of currency at a cost to the public.

Central Bank of Kenya (CBK) building in Nairobi. /FILE

"In many instances, banknotes are folded, rolled, glued, taped, stapled, pinned, or otherwise affixed using adhesives and fastening materials. Such practices compromise the integrity of Kenya Shilling banknotes and render them unsuitable for circulation," stated CBK in part.

"The use of adhesives, pins, staples, and similar materials damages banknotes and interferes with the efficient operation of cash-handling and processing equipment, including automated teller machines (ATMs), cash counting machines, and sorting equipment. This results in increased rejection of banknotes during processing and leads to the premature withdrawal and replacement of currency, at an avoidable cost to the public and the Bank."

CBK clarified that while the use of cash as a gift is acceptable, any action that alters or defaces banknotes is prohibited under Section 367 of the Penal Code.

The regulator urged the public to adopt non-damaging methods when presenting monetary gifts to safeguard the integrity of the national currency.

"CBK wishes to remind the public that Section 367 of the Penal Code (Cap. 63, Laws of Kenya) prohibits the defacement, mutilation, or impairment of currency notes. Any person who willfully defaces, mutilates, or in any way impairs any currency note issued by lawful authority commits an offence under the Penal Code," added CBK.

"CBK therefore urges the public to refrain from practices that compromise the integrity of Kenya Shilling banknotes and to adopt alternative, non-damaging methods when presenting monetary gifts."

CBK's statement comes barely two weeks before Valentine's Day, marked on February 14 every year, and which is a celebration of love, affection, and thoughtful gestures.

Money bouquets have emerged as one of the most eye-catching Valentine’s Day trends, reflecting a shift in how couples are choosing to express affection.

Instead of traditional flowers, partners are gifting bouquets made from folded currency, often paired with chocolates, perfumes, or personalised notes. Florists and small businesses have increasingly offered the arrangements in the days leading up to February 14, citing growing demand from younger consumers.

The trend points to a more practical approach to romance, with many viewing cash gifts as both thoughtful and useful amid rising living costs.

While some critics argue that the gesture commercialises love, supporters maintain it reflects financial awareness and changing social values around relationships and gift-giving.

The orders on Thursday, December 11, came as a significant personal triumph for Lemaletian, bringing a much-needed closure to a breakup that had escalated into fear, anxiety, and public scrutiny.

The case, presided over by Magistrates Terer, arose from what had initially been a hopeful engagement between the senator and Musa Hussein Lenyumpa—a relationship she had once embraced openly before her family advised her to end it earlier this year.

She subsequently returned the Ksh 100,000 traditional courtship token, believing the matter would quietly fade away. Unfortunately, she was wrong.

A photo of the Milimani Law Courts in Nairobi. /FILE

The senator had disclosed to the court that the breakup led to harassment, threats, and defamatory remarks that made her feel unsafe in spaces that should have offered comfort—her home and workplace. Close associates noted the heavy emotional toll, particularly for a young leader juggling public responsibilities alongside a deeply personal heartbreak.

In a ruling that visibly relieved her supporters, the court issued permanent orders restraining Lenyumpa from threatening, harassing, assaulting, or interfering with Senator Hezena’s peace.

This includes barring him from approaching the senator and accessing her residence or office. He was also prohibited from spreading false or defamatory statements about her, directly or via social media.

The Milimani Law Courts’ decision ensures her safety and protects both her personal and professional life. Known nationally as the “Queen of the North” and celebrated for advocating for women, youth, and pastoralist communities, Senator Hezena now has formal affirmation of her right to safety and dignity.

While her public persona has often appeared unshakable, this case revealed a vulnerable side of a leader who faced private challenges with courage.

With the orders in effect, Senator Hezena can finally reclaim her peace, set boundaries, and return focus to her legislative duties—carrying the quiet strength of someone who fought for her safety and won.

In October 2024, Lemaletian revealed her engagement during a traditional ceremony and shared the happy news on social media. She had praised Lenyumpa as “a fine top brain” and affirmed her dedication to their relationship, a social media post she had revealed on May 16, 2025, that she deeply regretted.

At the time of the announcement, Lemaletian, nicknamed the most beautiful Kenyan politician, posted a video from her engagement ceremony, featuring a convoy of luxurious cars heading toward a stunning mansion nestled in a peaceful, tree-lined village. 

She had openly declared her love for her partner, vowing to honour and respect him. She playfully described him as one-of-a-kind, joking that he was made from a fabric that did not even exist.

Lemaletian first teased details of her relationship during a 2023 interview with NTV, where she responded to a comment on how men were willing to slide in her Direct Messages (DMs), saying, "Just keep throwing those pickup lines. The good thing is it won't be me reading my inbox...the password is out there somewhere."

Since exploding into the limelight on December 10, 2021, during her public address at the Azimio La Umoja National Convention held at Kasarani Stadium, she has won over thousands of men countrywide, among others who have been instrumental in her rise from the Queen of the North to the Senate seat.

The Head of State stirred nationwide debate on Saturday, November 29, through his remarks made during the wedding ceremony of Qillian Ndeso Saiya and Moses Budamba Mudavadi, Prime Cabinet Secretary Musalia Mudavadi's son. It was here that Ruto urged young men not to shy away from marriage and taking up family responsibilities.

"The foundation of a nation is the firm foundation of a family. A nation is as strong as the families we put together, and therefore, as parents, we must do whatever it takes, encourage our children, as I do here, all the men in this room, those of you who are above the age of 25, get married," Ruto said amid laughter from the audience.

Those of you who are above the age of 25, get married. Stop club-hopping- President Ruto#ViralVideos pic.twitter.com/aaAhUsMaWK

— Viral Tea Ke (@ViralTeaKe) November 29, 2025

"Wacha kuzunguka hapa, unatoka kwa club hii inaingia kwa club hiyo, unatoka kwa club hiyo unaenda kwa club hiyo ingine (stop hopping from one club to another)." 

Ruto further criticised single men in Kenya for being afraid of courting women in the country for the purposes of marriage, particularly the women they love.

However, Gachagua, who spoke on Wednesday, December 3, while unveiling the newly elected DCP MCAs in Nairobi, accused the Head of State of being out of touch with reality.

According to the former Deputy President, the current state of the economy has made it difficult for young men to acquire their own residences where they can live and thrive comfortably with the women of their dreams...happily ever after.

"I heard William Ruto shouting at our youth and insulting them, 'oh these young people, they are cowards, they want to marry girls, ooh, they are fearing girls, why can't they marry', these boys cannot marry because they have nowhere to take the girls," Gachagua ranted.

"How do our young people marry a girl, and he has no salary, no job, no home to take the girl? I think our young people are very responsible for saying, 'I cannot take somebody's daughter anywhere'. How do you marry a young girl and you have no food to feed the young girl?"

Gachagua challenged President Ruto to "give them jobs. Fix the economy, these young people are ready to marry, but where will they take the girls?"

The President's remarks rattled the country to the point that some government officials came up with suggestions. Nairobi County’s Chief Officer for Citizen Engagement and Customer Service, Geoffrey Mosiria, urged President Ruto to roll out a dedicated “Starter Life Kit” to help Kenyans aged 25 and above get married and establish themselves during their first year of family life.

Mosiria appealed in a social media statement dated November 30, 2025, expressing support for President Ruto’s call encouraging young people to marry. 

He argued that financial constraints remain the biggest barrier preventing many youth from taking that step, and asked the President to channel the proposed support fund through the Ministry of Youth.

Mosiria argued that such support would steady young adults, push them toward more responsible lifestyles, and help curb the growing nightlife culture.

He also reflected on his time in the Nairobi County Environment Department, where he regularly carried out night inspections in clubs across the city. According to him, the number of women frequenting the nightlife scene far outnumbered the men.

"This is something I personally witnessed during my late-night operations back when I served in Environment. I went to nightclubs. While the boy child is at home, the girl child is in the club dancing like she discovered Nairobi Night Economy," Mosiria wrote.

A man putting a wedding ring on a woman's finger. /FILE

The agency on Thursday, November 13, reported a rising trend in cases where criminals pose as romantic prospects on dating apps and social media, build trust with victims, and then lure them into private homes or unfamiliar locations.

Once there, many victims — including both Kenyan citizens and foreign nationals — are ambushed, robbed, and in some instances physically assaulted.

According to investigators, the scheme typically involves emotional manipulation, rapid trust-building, and carefully crafted profiles designed to mask inconsistencies.

The DCI warns that individuals who appear “too perfect” or whose stories do not add up should be treated with suspicion.

"Avoid sharing any sensitive details, particularly financial information, with individuals you've only met online. Fraudsters are particularly skilled at creating emotional connections, which they then exploit to extract personal data that could lead to financial or personal harm," DCI stated in part.

The DCI further advises that all first meetings should occur in public, well-lit locations such as cafés, restaurants, or shopping centres, noting that private residences and secluded areas significantly heighten the risk of attack.

Members of the public are encouraged to inform a trusted contact of their movements before meeting someone from an online platform and to keep their phones charged and location-sharing enabled.

"Before you head out to meet someone, inform a trusted friend or family member about your plans, including whom you are meeting, where you will be, and the time of your meeting.

"Additionally, keep your phone charged and, if possible, share your live location with someone you trust," added DCI.

The DCI also urges anyone who feels unsafe or encounters suspicious behaviour to disengage immediately and report the incident to the nearest police station.

"The DCI remains deeply committed to the safety of all citizens, residents, and visitors in Kenya. Our teams are actively pursuing individuals and groups involved in these crimes, and we urge anyone with relevant information to come forward," added the statement.

The suspect, identified as Samira Mumbi Kiarie, alias Samira, had reportedly spent weeks charming the foreigner on social media, painting a picture of love, luxury, and loyalty, DCI said in a statement.

But when the Brit finally jetted into Mombasa to meet her in person, he had no idea he was walking straight into an elaborate setup.

According to investigators, moments after the man arrived at Samira’s posh apartment for their “dream date,” the door burst open. Two men stormed in — one pretending to be her enraged husband, the other posing as a police officer.

The so-called husband accused the foreigner of “ruining his marriage,” while the fake cop threatened to arrest him for adultery. Cornered and terrified, the man was forced to transfer Ksh800,000 to mobile numbers dictated by the gang.

"Once the cash landed, the trio calmly escorted their victim out before vanishing into Mombasa's humid night like ghosts after payday," stated DCI.

"But the honeymoon didn't last. Acting on forensic intelligence, detectives launched a stealth pursuit, arresting Samira and one of her accomplices, Paul Webster Mangeni, aka Paulo."

Preliminary findings revealed that the two are part of a wider romance scam syndicate that targets foreigners on dating apps, lures them to Mombasa, and robs them inside rented Airbnbs.

Both suspects are now in police custody, with authorities closing in on their third accomplice, who remains on the run.

Police are warning tourists and locals alike to be extra cautious when meeting online partners, saying “love scams” like this are on the rise across Kenya’s coastal region.

Cases of Kenyans running romance scams against foreigners have surged in recent months, especially along the Coast. Back in April, another British national reportedly lost Ksh14 million in a “bride scam.”

The victim, a 69-year-old man from Leiston, Suffolk, opened up to the BBC about how he wired his entire life savings to a Kenyan woman known as Anita, believing she was his future wife.

He said he had fallen in love for the first time since losing his wife, Pauline, in 2019, after meeting Anita online.

Convinced their love was real, he agreed to relocate to Nairobi to marry her and began sending money for what he thought was their new home. But when he finally arrived in Kenya, Anita had vanished — along with his savings.

While the word “girlfriend” might make some people think of romantic partners, this unofficial holiday is all about the platonic bonds shared between women, whether it's your childhood bestie, your college roommate, or your favourite co-worker turned soul sister. In simple terms, National Girlfriends Day is not about romantic love between couples.

As society increasingly recognises the importance of emotional support networks, mental health, and authentic human connection, National Girlfriends Day is more relevant than ever. It’s a reminder that not all love is romantic and that friendship deserves to be honoured, too.

The Origins of National Girlfriends Day

Despite its growing popularity, National Girlfriends Day is not an official public holiday. It doesn’t have government recognition or historical roots in political or religious movements. As a matter of fact, its exact origin is a bit murky.

A group of women posing for a photo. /BLUSHING BLACK

Most sources trace the beginning of National Girlfriends Day to around 2004, with credits often going to authors Kathleen Laing and Elizabeth Butterfield, who co-wrote a book titled Girlfriends Getaway. While there’s no definitive proof that the authors created the holiday, their book and message—encouraging women to cherish and prioritise their friendships—align closely with the spirit of the day.

Other sources claim the day was started in 2004 by Mistress Susan, known for her luxury website, as a way for women to show appreciation for one another. However, the most commonly accepted origin traces it back to Allie Savarino Kline and Sally Rodgers, who are credited with launching the celebration in 2006.

Since then, the holiday has gained traction mostly through social media, blogs, and word of mouth. Platforms like Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok have helped catapult it into mainstream culture, where every year on August 1, thousands of women post appreciation messages, share throwback photos, or plan outings to commemorate their bonds with the women who make life more bearable—and more fun.

It’s Not About Romantic Relationships

Let’s get one thing clear: National Girlfriends Day is not Valentine’s Day Lite. It’s not about romantic couples or dating milestones. Instead, it focuses on the sisterhood between women—those ride-or-die connections that withstand time, distance, and even drama.

In a world where women are often pitted against each other—especially in pop culture or media—days like this are essential to reclaiming and reframing what it means to be a woman who supports other women. Think of it as an antidote to the stereotype of "mean girls" or "frenemies." National Girlfriends Day is about genuine connection, not competition.

That means it’s not a day to post about your romantic partner or celebrate a dating anniversary (although you're free to do that another day). Instead, it’s an opportunity to reach out to your girl gang, your sisters from other misters, and remind them that they matter.

Why Female Friendships Matter

Female friendships aren’t just emotionally fulfilling—they’re scientifically beneficial. Numerous studies have shown that strong social ties among women can:

• Reduce stress and anxiety levels

• Boost immunity and overall health

• Increase life expectancy

• Improve self-esteem and resilience

Psychologists often talk about the phenomenon of “tend and befriend”—a pattern of stress response in women that involves nurturing behaviour and building social alliances, particularly with other women.

This contrasts with the more commonly known “fight or flight” response. Essentially, when things get tough, women often lean into their friendships as a form of emotional regulation.

Plus, let’s be real—some of the most iconic moments in pop culture history were rooted in female friendships: Sex and the City, Girlfriends, Broad City, Insecure, and even real-life squads like Michelle Obama and Oprah. These friendships demonstrate the power of mutual upliftment, shared experiences, and unconditional support.

How to Celebrate National Girlfriends Day

The best part of National Girlfriends Day is that there are no rules! You can celebrate it however you want, as long as the spirit of appreciation and connection is there. Here are some fun and meaningful ways to mark the day:

• Send a heartfelt message to your closest girlfriends, reminding them why you’re grateful for their presence.

• Plan a girls’ night in or out—think spa day, wine and movie night, brunch, or even a weekend getaway.

• Share a social media tribute with photos, memories, or inside jokes that capture your bond.

• Write a handwritten letter or note if you want to go analogue and nostalgic.

• Do something thoughtful, like treating your friend to coffee or running an errand for them.

You don’t have to spend a lot of money or do anything extravagant. Sometimes, a simple "thank you for being in my life" can go a long way.

Debunking the Misconceptions

One of the biggest misconceptions about National Girlfriends Day is that it’s a “romantic” day, similar to Valentine’s Day or Sweetest Day. That confusion usually stems from the term “girlfriend,” which in common use can mean either a romantic partner or a female friend.

However, in the context of National Girlfriends Day, the term is used in the platonic sense, which has roots going back decades. In fact, before the rise of modern dating culture, women often referred to their close female friends as “girlfriends,” with absolutely no romantic connotation. Over time, the term evolved, but the original meaning still holds cultural weight.

Another myth is that the day is “just for teens” or a “Hallmark holiday.” While yes, brands and marketers have jumped on the trend in recent years, the heart of the day remains authentic. It's not about buying stuff—it's about celebrating emotional intimacy, loyalty, and shared history between women.

The Role of Social Media in Popularising the Day

National Girlfriends Day may have started with a book or a blog post, but social media is what gave it life. On August 1 every year, hashtags like #NationalGirlfriendsDay, #GirlGang, and #BestiesForever start trending. Users flood platforms with tributes, TikToks, Instagram reels, and nostalgic collages dedicated to the women who’ve seen them through the ups and downs.

This annual digital celebration has created a kind of cultural reset—a reminder in the middle of the year that friendship matters, and that we shouldn’t wait for birthdays or crises to express love and gratitude. It’s a powerful counter-narrative to the often individualistic, hustle-focused culture we live in.

Why It Deserves Recognition

In a society that puts a lot of emphasis on romantic love and nuclear families, friendships often get sidelined, even though they’re foundational to our mental health and sense of identity. National Girlfriends Day offers a rare moment to put friendships front and centre, and say: “Hey, you matter. You’re seen.”

This is especially important for women who are single, child-free, or navigating life outside traditional roles. For them, friendships are often the main support system—the chosen family that helps them weather life’s storms.

Acknowledging and celebrating these bonds isn’t just cute; it’s necessary. In a post-pandemic world where loneliness is rising, friendship is more than fluff but a lifeline.

Photo of a group of women at a past event. /THE NEST COLLECTIVE

While speaking to a group of clergy in the U.S., the former Second Lady dismissed the claims, saying it would be nearly impossible to control someone like Gachagua, whom she described as a strong political force in the country.

She went on to explain that Gachagua often let her speak first at public events because they operated as a united team.

According to her, there was nothing unusual about their close collaboration, as it reflected the family values they consistently promoted.

Pastor Dorcas and her husband Rigathi Gachagua during a past engagement. /NTV

“That is why sometimes, when he allows me to speak first, it is not because I heard I 'sit on him'. How can you sit on a man like this, who is causing the whole nation not to sleep?” she quipped.

“A man whom the President, the Deputy President, and MPs hardly stop talking about. I keep hearing them say Wamunyoro. Is that the kind of man you think your claims could apply to? You are such liars,” she stated.

Pastor Dorcas Rigathi reaffirmed her unwavering support for her husband, stating that no amount of public scrutiny would stop her from loving him, praying for him, or backing his vision for the country.

Her comments came shortly after National Assembly Majority Leader Kimani Ichung’wah publicly attacked her during a political rally, igniting widespread criticism.

In his remarks, Ichung’wah—while continuing his usual jabs at Gachagua—implied that the former Deputy President was facing marital issues and being controlled by his wife.

The remarks sparked backlash from Kenyans across the political spectrum, with many urging Ichung’wah to keep his criticisms focused on Gachagua and avoid dragging Pastor Dorcas into political disputes.

The situation escalated further when women leaders allied to Gachagua united in condemning the MP's remarks and even called on the Directorate of Criminal Investigations (DCI) to take legal action against him.

“We have information that you are targeting women, and as women in DCP, we are not happy. We want the DCI to apply the same energy they're using to pursue women in DCP to arrest Kimani Ichung’wah,” one of the leaders stated.

During the same press conference, Njeri Kahiga, a close ally of Rigathi Gachagua, slammed Ichung’wah’s remarks, calling them irresponsible and disrespectful.

She lauded Pastor Dorcas as a revered national leader, widely recognised for her compassion and her advocacy work in mental health, support for widows and orphans, and empowering the boychild.

So far, Ichung’wah has not issued an apology, even as the backlash surrounding his comments continues to grow.

In a joint announcement on Thursday, July 17, the couple revealed that they had mutually agreed to end their marriage, emphasising that the decision was made with mutual respect.

“After careful consideration and much reflection, we, Silas Jakakimba and Florence Adhiambo, have made the difficult but certain and oftentimes extremely considerate decision to separate.

“This decision was reached mutually and, with respect for one another, noting with deep appreciation and gratitude, the immense love and support from both sides of our Innermost Families and Spiritual Leaders as we sought to make this decision public,” read part of the statement.

City lawyer and political advisor Silas Jakakimba and his wife, Florence Adhiambo during their wedding. /THE STAR

Jakakimba and Adhiambo affirmed their dedication to protecting their family’s privacy and welfare during this period of transition.

They also appealed to the public to respect their privacy, stating that they do not intend to issue any further comments regarding their separation.

“We ask that our privacy be respected as we navigate this personal matter. We will not be making any further public statements whatsoever regarding this matter at this or at any other time - and we do appreciate your understanding,” the statement concluded.

Jakakimba and Adhiambo got married on October 16, 2021, in a vibrant ceremony hosted at Nairobi’s Safari Park Hotel.

The high-profile event drew several notable guests, including lawyer Donald Kipkorir, Lang’ata MP Phelix Jalang'o and his wife Amina Chao, Ugandan artist Bobi Wine, Babu Owino, Akothee, Ken Mijungu, Trevor Ombija, and Milly Odhiambo, among others.

On October 16, 2022, the couple marked their first wedding anniversary. Marking their special day, Jakakimba made sure to appreciate Florence in the most thoughtful way.

He shared a wedding photo alongside a heartfelt message to celebrate both his wife and their anniversary. Additionally, he invited Florence to choose any destination she wished, promising to fly her there as part of her anniversary gift.

Jakakimba formally joined President William Ruto’s United Democratic Alliance party (UDA) on March 26, 2024, after defecting from the Orange Democratic Movement (ODM) party.

Before his defection, Jakakimba had also resigned as the legal adviser to Homa Bay Governor Gladys Wanga in July 2023, just nine months into the position.

He was also provoked to resign from the post in March 2023 by insults from Raila's daughter, Winnie Odinga.

Silas Jakakimba received by UDA Secretary-General, Cleophas Malala at the party headquarters in Nairobi on March 26, 2024. /CLEOPHAS MALALA

Hezena, on Friday, May 16, stated that she found it necessary to formally communicate the developments following "continuous malicious media attacks on me despite my silence and respect to both families."

"I recently, DEEPLY REGRETTABLY, posted that someone went to ask for my hand in marriage in what Samburu would call an ambush (siamu), as you all saw. The due procedure of the Samburu culture is that a background check must be conducted before the marriage. And so it was, and THOROUGHLY," she wrote in part.

However, the results of the background check would spell doom for the engagement, even though she did not specify what exactly prompted the elders to cancel the marriage process altogether.

"The elders of my family, therefore, halted the whole process after the background check and refused to accept dowry from that person, and as such, the whole process was immediately cancelled as of January 2025. All necessary steps were taken to ensure the conclusion to a COMPLETE final, including the return of the 100k that the elders were handed at the meeting," she added.

She went on to clarify that, contrary to recent claims, she is not married and has no intention of marrying the person in question. Nonetheless, Lemaletian thanked her family elders for their guidance and support, saying their role felt like that of a father figure and adding that her late father would have been proud.

She also asked for privacy for her family during this time and warned that any future attempts to tarnish her reputation would be met with legal action.

"Therefore, allegations that I was married are false and unfounded, and I shall also not be married to that person whatsoever. I deeply thank our elders. No amount of words can express my gratitude for being involved in my life like my father would if he were here with us today. 

"I respect the decisions of our elders and I hold them in very high regard and esteem(my fathers). My family and I request total privacy moving forward on this matter. Anything else that will slander my name out of failure to accept these decisions and move on will be handled legally," she concluded.

At the time of the announcement, Lemaletian, nicknamed the most beautiful Kenyan politician, posted a video from her engagement ceremony, featuring a convoy of luxurious cars heading toward a stunning mansion nestled in a peaceful, tree-lined village.

She had openly declared her love for her partner, vowing to honour and respect him. She playfully described him as one-of-a-kind, joking that he was made from a fabric that doesn’t even exist.

Lemaletian first teased details of her relationship during a 2023 interview with NTV, where she responded to a comment on how men were willing to slide in her Direct Messages (DMs), saying, "Just keep throwing those pickup lines. The good thing is it won't be me reading my inbox...the password is out there somewhere."

Since exploding into the limelight on December 10, 2021, during her public address at the Azimio La Umoja National Convention held at Kasarani Stadium, she has won over thousands of men countrywide, among others who have been instrumental in her rise from the Queen of the North to the Senate seat.

In a statement issued on Tuesday, April 15, Kang’ata clarified that the initiative is part of Kang’ata Care, a health insurance programme designed to support vulnerable households in Murang’a County.

He stressed that these benefits are exclusive to registered Kang’ata Care members and not available to the general public. The program currently offers three key benefits: Ksh100,000 in the event of a family member’s death, Ksh10,000 for newlyweds, and an additional Ksh10,000 childbirth gift.

Murang'a Governor Irung'u Kang'ata speaking on March 22, 2025. /IRUNG'U KANG'ATA

"Clarification: The aim of the programme is not to increase the population of Murang’a. The benefits are open only to Kangata Care members," he responded on X.

"Not every Muranga resident is a Kangatacare card member. This is an insurance for vulnerable families that has 3 benefits- last expense 100k after a member passes on; a 10k wedding, and a childbirth gift."

The clarification came in response to comments by media personality Maina Kageni, who had raised concerns over the program’s intent.

"Have you seen 'Kang'ata Care' in Murang'a County? Paying sh.10,000 for couples to marry and a further sh.10,000 for every child they get. How good is this incentive? How many children should married couples have?" he earlier posed.

Kang’ata urged that the scheme not be misrepresented, insisting it is a health-based support initiative, not a tool for population engineering.

This follows a post made by the governor on April 14 via his official X (formerly Twitter) account, inviting newly married Kang’ata Care beneficiaries to collect their respective gifts.

“Are you in Kang'ata Care, and have you officially wedded? Claim your gift in our Muranga office located at Muranga Level 5. It is your right, paid for under insurance arrangements. Congratulations to the happy couple, Kanyenyaini Kangema Ngoeini Village,” the post read.

Murang'a County has been in the headlines before as far as relationships are concerned. A report by the Kenya National Bureau of Statistics (KNBS) on January 17, 2023, put the county at the top of the rankings of the average number of sexual partners in their lifetime, across both genders.

Men in Murang'a County were found to have an average of 14.1 sexual partners while women had an average of 3.3 sexual partners, for a county with a population of over 1 million, based on data from the 2019 census. In comparison, the number of men in the county with sexual partners was deemed to be more than that of the entire country, with the average revealed to be 7.4 over women's 2.3.

The county also topped in the percentage of women with multiple sexual partners, more than anywhere else in Kenya, with a cumulative of 11 per cent. It was followed by 6.5 per cent from Kericho County and 6.2 per cent from Busia County. 

With these statistics, Murang'a was deemed to be the serial cheating capital of the whole country, making Kang'ata's monetary incentive as of now a bit hard to come by.

A couple in bed. /FILE

In a statement on Thursday, April 10, the DCI discovered that some of these reports, upon thorough investigation, have been revealed to be fabricated claims rather than genuine cases of missing persons, indicating a concerning trend of conspiracy.

Their statement simply insinuates that some of these so-called "missing" people were never actually missing — they just made up stories, which points to a bigger issue of planned deception.

To prove this finding, the investigative agency shared a case study of how a woman reported that her nephew went missing on April 3, 2025, only for the nephew to resurface and claim that he was kidnapped. But...

"Rashid reappeared on April 9, 2025, claiming he had been abducted by two men and held against his will. Upon investigative interviewing, detectives uncovered the truth: Rashid had actually eloped with his girlfriend, whom his uncle is not happy with him marrying," stated the DCI in part.

Another case on April 4 involved Nusu Roba Wako, who was reported missing. A special detective unit tracked her down with her boyfriend, Doyo Gufu. They were both found holed up together and taken to Lang’ata Police Station. Turns out, she’d ghosted everyone to be with him.

"A crack team of detectives smoked Wako out of her hideout with her boyfriend, Doyo Gufu, and were subsequently taken into custody at Lang’ata Police Station. Investigations have since revealed that Wako had also eloped with the boyfriend and gone incommunicado," added DCI.

The Mohamed Amin-led agency revealed that the fabricated missing persons cases turned out to be so credible that they have made headlines on media platforms, leading to rapid dissemination of information to the public to which the DCI deemed as fake.

In light of these incidents, members of the public are urged to refrain from filing false missing persons reports, as such actions divert attention and resources from real cases. "Individuals found perpetrating these hoaxes will face the full extent of the law," warned DCI.

Abductions have been a matter of massive national concern, with the recent cases targeting youths critical of the Kenya Kwanza government and its policies.

Recent statistics released by the  Human Rights Watch (HRW) revealed that 83 young individuals were recently abducted, with 26 missing, deepening concerns over the erosion of human rights and the rule of law in Kenya.

DCI's statement today is not the first time they have highlighted cases of fake abductions. Back on September 30, 2024, the sleuths uncovered a case of three 17-year-olds who orchestrated a sham kidnapping in Kainginyo, Thimbiri location, before audaciously demanding Ksh6 million ransom from the "victims'" family.

In a classic case of misguided get-rich-quick mentality, the three, two males and a female, faked the kidnapping of the female, then called her parents with the demands lest their daughter disappear for good.

On receiving information of a missing child on September 24, officers at Meru Police Station geared up for a scrupulous manhunt within the locality, reassuring the distraught family whose negotiations with the kidnappers and frantic search for their kin had resulted in futility.

Joining in the investigation, Imenti North detectives uncovered a sinister plot. The supposed victim, Jane (not her real name), had conspired with the two male accomplices to stage her own kidnapping, aiming to extort the hefty sum from her own family.

Following a forensic trail, Jane and her accomplices were smoked out of their hideout in Kainginyo, where a discovery of 20 rolls of Marijuana was also made.

Between February 3 and 19 this year, Mwelekeo Insights conducted a study among women aged 18 to 30 in Nairobi, exploring their views on marriage, with a focus on the ideal age, education, and career influences.

The research also examined other factors such as personal fulfilment, polygamy, societal expectations, and religious beliefs.

According to the report released on Tuesday, February 25, women's personal aspirations are reshaping their approach to marriage, with many either embracing polygamous unions or choosing to remain unmarried altogether.

A man putting a wedding ring on a woman's finger. /FILE

Specifically, the study found that 51 percent of respondents were open to polygamous marriages if it would improve their economic situation. This challenges the traditional belief that polygamy is purely a patriarchal system that disadvantages women.

For more than half of those surveyed, polygamy is seen as a viable alternative to singlehood, offering financial stability, particularly in a challenging economy where single-income households face difficulties.

"51 per cent of Nairobi women are open to entering polygamous marriages provided it comes with economic advantages, while 49 per cent are opposed to polygamy under whatever terms and forms," the report outlined.

Moreover, the report revealed that 60 percent of Nairobi women fear marriages, stating it would negatively impact their freedom. The remaining 25 percent view marriage as a positive life change, while 15 percent hold a neutral stance on the subject.

Additionally, 59 percent of participating women believe that marriage is not essential for a fulfilling life, while 41% see it as a key milestone toward fulfilment.

Among highly educated and career-driven women in Nairobi, 67 percent do not consider marriage a priority, whereas 33 percent of those with lower education levels are more likely to prioritize marriage.

Additionally, 70 percent of non-religious women are more likely to view marriage as unnecessary, while 30 percent of religious women continue to value it. 

62 percent of urban women place less importance on marriage, whereas 38 percent of rural women still prioritize it, reflecting the influence of traditional values in rural areas.

When asked about societal pressure to marry, responses were evenly split: 50 percent felt pressured by traditional expectations, while the other 50 percent did not experience such influence.

Overall, the report indicates that most Nairobi women prioritize financial stability and career advancement over marriage. 

This report came on the back of a report done in December 2024 by the Kenya National Bureau of Statistics (KNBS) revealing that Kenyan female workers earning Ksh100,000 per month outnumbered male workers in the country's formal sector, with more highly educated women making their way into the male-dominated club of top earners.

92 percent or 14,268 of the 15,252 new six-figure earners in 2023 were women. This aligned with the intention to narrow the gender pay gap at the top level amid the push for salary parity in the workplace.

Love can be sweet until it’s not. One moment it’s “Meet my person” and the next it’s “How did I end up with you?”

For Kenyan men, the heartbreak seems to be hitting harder. Whether it’s ghosting, unreciprocated love, or just bad luck in the dating game, one thing is clear – the boy child is feeling it.

Spotify has confirmed this, and in the intriguing data, Kenyan male listeners are streaming heartbreak songs more at 107%, compared to their female counterparts at 105%.

Spotify logo on a phone. /BRITANNICA

You broke me first

The choice for the ultimate heartbreak anthem in 2024 on the music streaming platform happened to be You Broke Me First by Tate McRae, the message seeming to be directed to the women who broke men's hearts.

Originally released in 2020, the track became a global heartbreak anthem, striking a chord with listeners navigating love and loss.

The track also holds the record as the longest-chart-topping song by a female artist on the Billboard Hot 100 in 2020, spending an impressive 38 weeks at number 17. Its enduring success proves that music has become the go-to for comfort during the emotional fallout of ending relationships.

"Even though everyone experiences love and loss in their own way, an 189% increase in heartbreak tracks streamed by Kenyans in the last three years says something about where they find comfort when love takes an unexpected turn," Spotify explained in a statement.

Male artists carrying Kenyans through heartache

Tracks by male artists in the top 10 most streamed heartbreak songs by Kenyans include Someone You Loved by Lewis Capaldi, Say You Won’t Let Go by James Arthur, Let Me Down Slowly by Alec Benjamin, and In The Stars by Benson Boone.

It would, therefore, appear that men are the go-to artists for Kenyan listeners going through heartbreak.

"Billie Eilish, who is holding it down for the emo girls, has made three appearances on the top 10 list at numbers 3, 7, and 10. These tearjerker tracks are ‘Lovely’ by Billie Eilish and ‘Khalid’, ‘What Was I Made For’ from The Motion Picture Barbie, and ‘When the Party is Over’," added the statement.

When did things change?

What’s interesting is how quickly things have shifted. Just a year ago, romance was still in full bloom, with Qing Madi’s American Love reigning as Kenya’s top Valentine’s song in 2024. Now, love songs have taken a backseat as heartbreak anthems dominate playlists.

Whether it’s the weight of an unsent “good morning babe” text, the sudden realisation that love isn’t what it used to be, or just the morning blues hitting extra hard, one thing is clear: 11 am is heartbreak o’clock in Kenya.

Spotify asked, "Could this be because the morning alarm stings more than the breakup or that breakfast tastes better when someone else makes it?" Either way, as the world wakes up, so do Kenyans' emotions.

Whether love is sweet or serving premium tears, experience Spotify Africa’s Valentine’s Day 2025 with all the feels by diving into the End In Tears playlist for the ultimate heartbreak songs, or set the mood going with 100 Best African Love Songs.

A person holding an armband with Kenya and a heartbreak sign engraved on it. /INSTAGRAM.SPARTAN BEADS

But is linking a life-changing moment to a holiday always the best idea? While it can make for a cinematic and sentimental experience, it also brings emotional and societal pressures that might overshadow the authenticity of the moment.

Chris Bajda, a wedding expert and the founder of GroomsDay, weighs in: “A proposal should be about the couple and their journey, not just the spectacle of the day. While holiday proposals can be fun, they can also carry extra pressure—both for the one proposing and the one answering.”

Online wedding retailer, GroomsDay, provides a one-stop shop for gifts tailored to groomsmen and wedding parties. When it comes to proposals, their experts have seen it all, from New Year's Eve surprises to getting down on one knee in the middle of a birthday party. 

Here, Chris Bajda offers his insights into why special occasion proposals can turn sour and why, sometimes, they work perfectly. 

Why Special Occasion Proposals Might Not Be the Best Idea

1. Pressure to Say Yes 

When a proposal happens in a high-stakes setting like Christmas morning with family gathered or in the middle of a Valentine’s Day dinner in a busy restaurant, there’s an added pressure to say yes. 

“With all eyes on you and your partner, the goal of having an intimate moment can turn into a stressful situation with the pressure to say ‘yes’,” warns Bajda. “Remember that your goal is not to please a crowd, but to ask to spend the rest of your life with someone, so choose your venue wisely.”

2. Festivities Overshadow the Proposal 

Holidays are already filled with traditions, emotions, and oftentimes stress. A proposal can either get lost in the shuffle or add another layer of intensity to an already busy day.

“If you or your partner are part of a big family and you are choosing to spend the holidays together, you should be prepared to have to compete with intense family activities and complex family dynamics,” says Bajda. “You may want to postpone the proposal if the holidays are shaping up to be chaotic.”

3. It Might Not Feel Personal Enough 

While Valentine’s Day or Christmas proposals may seem romantic, they don’t necessarily reflect the couple’s unique journey unless they met on one of those days or have an important relationship milestone tied to a holiday. 

“A proposal on a random Tuesday at a sentimental location might be far more meaningful than choosing February 14th or December 25th simply because they’re holidays,” notes Bajda.

4. The Big Day Should Be Yours 

Proposing at someone else’s wedding or a big family holiday event can unintentionally steal the spotlight from others. Couples who get engaged at weddings might do it because it’s a romantic setting and it feels right in the moment, but making a spontaneous decision like that could be received poorly. 

“A wedding day is one of the most important days in a person’s life, so choosing to make someone else’s wedding about yourself can create tension or even cause resentment from the friend or family member whose wedding you are attending,” warns Bajda.

The Flip Side: When Holiday Proposals Work

For some couples, special occasion proposals make perfect sense. If a couple shares a deep connection to a particular holiday, such as always travelling for Christmas together or having met on New Year’s Eve, getting engaged on that day could add even more meaning to their love story.

For instance, a couple who bonds over their love of Halloween might find a spooky-themed proposal fits them perfectly. According to Bajda, when done thoughtfully, these proposals can strengthen their love of the holiday rather than just using it as a convenient date.

“When it comes to getting engaged on holidays or special occasions, there’s no right or wrong answer, but couples should ask themselves: Am I proposing on this day because it’s truly special to us, or because it’s convenient? The most important thing is that the moment reflects your love story, not just the calendar date," Bajda remarks

“Ultimately, whether you pop the question on a holiday or an ordinary day, what matters most is that the proposal feels authentic and meaningful to both of you. Some holidays are important in the timeline of a couple’s love stories and they make sense as engagement anniversaries, but if the feeling isn’t right, you can always pop the question another day.”

Engonga is a prominent figure in the country’s efforts to combat financial crime and corruption. Little was known about him and the Central African country in the continental space until a significant sex scandal erupted on Monday, November 4 involving more than 400 sex tapes that were circulated across the African online space.

He was arrested with regard to the saga in which he was alleged to have recorded the tapes featuring him with the wives of prominent people in the country. The scandal surfaced amid an economic fraud probe into the 54-year-old economist, with the videos discovered during a fraud investigation.

The ANIF officials discovered multiple Compact Discs (CDs) that documented Baltasar Engonga’s sexual relations with prominent women. It was alleged that these women included his brother’s wife and relatives of the President of Equatorial Guinea, including the sister, and a senior police officer.

Equatorial Guinea’s Director General of the National Financial Investigation Agency (ANIF), Baltasar Ebang Engonga. /FILE

Engonga’s office was the site of some of the encounters; one scene purportedly showed him having intercourse next to the flag of the country.

Vice President Teodoro Nguema addressed the matter in a statement condemning any inappropriate conduct within government offices. “Given the abuse that has been shown on social media in Equatorial Guinea in recent days, and remembering that ministries are solely and exclusively for carrying out administrative work in support of the country’s development, sexual relations in offices are prohibited,” Nguema said.

He added that “Control mechanisms are already in place, and anyone who violates this rule again will be subject to disciplinary proceedings for indecent conduct and will be dismissed from their job.”

The Attorney General’s Office, led by Anatolio Nzang Nguema, has since opened an investigation into Engonga’s conduct and the circumstances surrounding the leaked footage. The inquiry will reportedly assess whether any health risks were knowingly posed to others involved in the videos.

Furthermore, a government statement revealed that the measures were agreed upon during emergency meetings with the Supreme Court, attorney general and others, adding that those appearing in the sex tapes would be suspended, without providing names.

Those responsible for securing the buildings in which the videos were allegedly filmed would be reprimanded for failing to do their jobs.

The court ruled in a landmark judgement that romantic relationships between employees are lawful and barred employers from implementing policies or laws that interfere with matters of the heart.

A report by the World Health Organisation (WHO) revealed that out of 90,410 cases of Mpox, 87,189 of them were men, with 96 percent getting infected through sexual intercourse. Furthermore, the virus was reported in men aged between 29 and 41.

The report was released on Tuesday, August 13 covering multiple countries and assembling case-based data on outbreaks from national authorities as of June 30, 2024.

Globally, sexual contact is the most commonly reported mode of transmission of Mpox, with 19,102 of 22,801 cases reported, followed by person-to-person non-sexual contact.

The event began as the bride, in a video seen by Viral Tea, walked down the aisle in the company of her parents as her bridesmaids followed suit.

The bridesmaids donned traditional attire with a mixture of maroon and gold for the floor-length dresses and tops respectively.

Citizen TV journalist Stephen Letoo exchange vows with his Fiancée Irene at the Methodist Church in Narok County. pic.twitter.com/0qtVN0BH6x

— Citizen TV Kenya (@citizentvkenya) April 20, 2024

The groomsmen complimented the ladies' wear with an elegant attire of Nigerian origin, Isiagu - which entails a top chain button with a maroon hat. Letoo on his part starred with his black Agbada accompanied by a dash of gold.

"I take you to be my lovely wedded husband till death do as part. I love you so much," Irene stated much to the applause of those in attendance.

Citizen TV's Stephen Letoo and his wife show off their wedding rings on April 20, 2024. /STEPHEN LETOO

"The love of my life, I give you this ring as a sign of love everlasting from today and forever, in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, Amen," Letoo committed on his part.

Following the church ceremony, the procession moved to the Ole Ntimama stadium for a social gathering which saw the stadium filled to the rafters.

The wedding was held in Nairobi, with Peter and Wambui committing to spend eternity with each other.

The Trade CS thanked families and friends who took time off their schedules to join her family to celebrate the joyous occasion.

"Celebrated love with family and friends of Peter Miano and Wambui Kibe, a beautiful couple who complement each other in admirable ways.

Cabinet secretaries pose for a photo during the traditional wedding of Peter Miano and Wambui Kibe held on April 6, 2024. /FLORENCE BORE

"Delighted to share this day with my friend and colleague CS Rebecca Miano at her Son’s Ruracio in Nairobi. I wish the couple a lifetime of joy and God’s Blessings!" remarked Labour CS Florence Bore who also attended the event.

Environment CS Soipan Tuya who was also in attendance congratulated the new couple wishing them a long life and happiness in their marriage.

Also in attendance were Public Service CS Moses Kuria, Health CS Susan Nakhumicha, Gender CS Aisha Jumwa and Water CS Zachariah Njeru.

Industry PS Juma Mukhwana, Trade PS Abubakar Hassan Abubakar, and Secretary to the Cabinet Mercy Wanjau were also present.

The bride was adorned in a wine-red outfit, complemented with a hand fan, while the groom wore a brown and white attire reminiscent of traditional Kikuyu attire. The couple were seated at the centre of the venue.

Friends and family were dressed in traditional attire ranging from the Kikuyu traditional outfits to vitenges ranging in different colours which complemented the overall theme.

The tables were decorated in bright red roses as center pieces which did not overshadow the low-hanging flower-based chandelier hanging from the ceiling.

The CSs were all given a chance to speak at the wedding and take photos with Peter and Wambui. In one instance, the couple was handed a traditional Kiondo bag containing goodies gifted to them by CS Bore.

Peter is one of Miano's children. The CS is married and lives with her husband but is reclusive in terms of her private life despite wielding a position of huge public interest.

Other photos from the wedding:

CS Rebecca Miano's son, Peter Miano, breaks into a dance with the MC during his traditional wedding on April 6, 2024. /FLORENCE BORE

CSs Soipan Tuya and Susan Nakhumicha in conversation during the traditional wedding of CS Rebecca Miano's son, Peter on April 6, 2024. /FLORENCE BORE

CS Rebecca Miano's son, Peter Miano, breaks into a dance with the MC during his traditional wedding on April 6, 2024. /FLORENCE BORE

During the mass held at Holy Family Basilica in Nairobi, Nagila fondly recalled their first encounter, to which he remarked that her beauty and hearty laughter were the characteristics that attracted him to her.

However, it was her stubbornness and her stance on what she believed in that he admired the most, aspects she carried until her last breath.

"Rita, when our paths first crossed, your beauty, hearty laughter and warm heart touched me. You were also the most stubborn person I ever met, principled in your beliefs," he stated in his eulogy.

"Nina, last Sunday, your phone stopped ringing. Your passing has left a void that cannot be filled but I’m comforted by the fact that the memories of times spent will live on," he continued.

Turning to Mia Malaikah, his daughter with Tinina, Nagila reminded her of her late mother's immense love and determination to make her happy, no matter the challenges.

"My dearest Mia, your mother loved you more than anything else in this world. You were her best friend her confidant," he added.

"And every single thing she did was centred around you and your future. Know this, You are loved so much and there is nothing we would not do for you." 

Nagila further indicated that Tinina had established her legacy in the media just shy of her 46th birthday. Nonetheless, he thanked friends and family for the overwhelming support he has received in these trying times.

However, the famous 'yule anakupea, pia ananipea (if he or she gives it to you, he or she gives it to me)' might have not revealed the real picture of Nairobi relationships until Diana Kemunto, a businesswoman and social media influencer, happened.

Kemunto, who operates famously on Instagram under the username shes_kemunto, went viral recently thanks to her chain of confessions she posted, coming from women in her Direct Messages (DMs) admitting to going to extremes with their significant other, including infecting unsuspecting men with HIV/AIDS.

It is worth noting that before posting the screenshots, Kemunto placed a disclaimer, noting that some of the stories she read in her DMs were traumatising. 

Screengrab of one of the confessions posted by Kemunto. /YOUTUBE

It's not just the women, some men have come out of their closet with their own dark experiences with one of them telling her "Dee, I have a target let me talk personally. So far so good. We have reached 31. I want to get to 50 then I can leave this life. I do not care as long as they don't want a cond** I don't force." 

"Me and my two friends were infected, and we have given it out to several people, and we always have fun while doing so. We do not see the big deal in it. People should take their meds, and life moves on," a woman revealed in Kemunto's confessions.

"Have you ever been tormented, I'm in that cage, I feel tormented, it's like I'm having demons. I'm facing this, I'm fighting that. Keyboard warriors are also saying things without reading the stories saying 'Meet Kemunto, the lady who has slept with over 50 men and spread HIV/AIDS' but that is not the story.

"The people who were there when these anonymous stories began, can tell that these are confessions from people and I was reposting the confessions, they are not my confessions. People should try to understand, not be misinformed. People are inboxing me calling me names, this doesn't hurt me but it hurts my loved ones. If you're not sure, ask. It's affecting me, I'm also human," she disclosed.

Describing the character of 'City Girls', she revealed that they prefer the thrill that comes with the wild nightlife in Nairobi and getting the bag by all means. This could include partying, drinking, travelling and sugar daddies or 'wababa' as they call it.

Kemunto said she is one of the girls who coined the lifestyle and advises women into this 'soft life' to learn how to use it to build a worthwhile future for themselves.

In her message posted on her Instagram stories, Maribe acknowledged the nature of their platonic relationship which she stated had lasted for 20 years.

In a bid to dismiss the speculations, she shared a past group selfie with other acquaintances, adding that they would play a key role in helping him find a wife for himself.

"Happy birthday @dennisitumbi The 2 solid decades of friendship have been a testament of highs and lows, and love all the same," Jacque Maribe wrote.

"This new year around the sun, this group in this picture will help you find a wife, so everyone stop assuming it's me. Happy birthday, D.I."

Jacque Maribe's birthday message to Dennis Itumbi on March 18, 2024. /INSTAGRAM.JACQUE MARIBE

However, the post itself found its way onto other social media platforms including X, sparking a variety of reactions from many Kenyans, especially men.

Many concluded that Itumbi was sentenced to the dreaded friendzone, given the numerous times they sent wagging over the nature of their relationship.

The two have in the past been caught exchanging saliva like lovebirds even though Maribe insists they are only BFFs with zero romance at play. In particular, Maribe and Itumbi set the internet on fire in February 2015 when they were caught kissing and cuddling amorously.

After the smooching incident, Maribe and Itumbi were strongly believed to be dating until Joseph 'Jowie' Irungu came into the picture.

Jowie swept Jacque Maribe off her feet with strong love and in July 2018 she accepted his marriage proposal, a relationship that would be destroyed by the murder of businesswoman Monica Kimani in September 2018.

On Friday, February 9, after the High Court exonerated Maribe of the murder and Jowie was found guilty...and later sentenced to death, Maribe and Itumbi were filmed hugging each other and walking out of the court while holding hands.

Platonic Relationship

A platonic relationship refers to a close, non-sexual bond between two individuals. It's a relationship characterized by emotional intimacy, mutual respect, and affection, but without any romantic or sexual involvement.

Platonic relationships can exist between friends, family members, colleagues, or any two people who share a deep connection and care for each other without any romantic or sexual desires or intentions. These relationships are often based on shared interests, values, and experiences, and they can be incredibly fulfilling and supportive.

Friendzone

Considered by many as the point of no return in dating and courtships, the "friend zone" is a colloquial term used to describe a situation in which one person has romantic feelings for another, but those feelings are not reciprocated, and instead, the person they're interested in only sees them as a friend.

Essentially, being in the friend zone means that one individual desires a romantic or sexual relationship with someone who only views them as a platonic friend.

Jacque Maribe and Dennis Itumbi hold hands outside the High Court in Nairobi on February 9, 2024. /PHOTO

The concept of the friend zone is often discussed in the context of heterosexual relationships, but it can occur in any type of relationship where one person desires a different level of intimacy than the other person is willing or able to provide.

Being in the friend zone can be emotionally challenging for the person with unrequited feelings, as they may experience frustration, disappointment, or sadness over the situation.

However, individuals need to respect boundaries and accept the other person's feelings, even if they're not what they had hoped for. It's also important for individuals to communicate openly and honestly about their feelings to avoid misunderstandings or hurt feelings.

The man who was accused of killing his wife in Nyeri was reported to have died by suicide after hanging himself on a tree.

The man who worked as a security guard took to social media platform X before the murder to claim that his wife, a teacher in Mathira East, had cheated on him and was planning to dump him.

Over the weekend, the man in question caught the attention of Kenyans, after he in a thread shared how aggrieved he was in the aftermath of the woman's decision, even though he sold everything to pay her school fees at the Murang'a University of Technology, thus enabling her to complete her higher education.

The entrance to the Murang'a University of Technology in Murang'a County. /AYOMA

The deceased revealed that the two had entered into a relationship in 2016 while still in school before later deciding to cohabit.

From the thread shared on X which drew widespread concern, the man claimed to have resorted to working at night and taking care of a daughter the couple had sired while the lover was attending school.

However, the man cried foul that his lover allegedly changed her behaviour once she graduated and got a good job.

He also claimed that the woman was seeing two different men behind his back and was in communication with them, terming her unfaithful.

The man went on to expose text messages showing her in conversation with the two men while questioning why the relationship ended all of a sudden.

"Rest well my queen. I loved you but you loved someone else. Choices have consequences," he wrote after his wife's death on March 7, 2024.

In a daring act, the deceased tagged not just the Directorate of Criminal Investigations (DCI) but major media houses to get a response that was not forthcoming.

The man further noted that he was documenting his experience as a lesson to other people regarding being unfaithful in a relationship.

His confession and last resort shocked Kenyans who criticised the DCI for failing to respond on time, which would have saved the lives of the couple.

Kenyans also criticised the man for deciding to go to extremes instead of simply ending the relationship, adding that a failed relationship is not the end of life.

Such cases have become common, yet in most cases, there is a solution to everything including marital wrangles.

According to marriage.com, there are 15 ways to deal with stress in marriage irrespective of age. For instance, a lot of stress in a marriage can be avoided by ensuring good communication between you and your partner. 

Kenyans also believed that the man should have simply turned himself into the police to avoid leaving the girl as an orphan.

Jeruto was giving her eulogy of the late athlete at his funeral service in Elgeyo Marakwet on Friday. 

The duo got married in 2017 during a traditional wedding but were yet to officiate their solemn vows in church.

"We were planning for a big day to tie our knots in a colourful wedding ceremony in April 2024 but God's plans are greater.

"I will still make my vows even in your rest. You will be the best husband and father of my children. Dance with angels, bye," she stated.

She further described the loss of Kiptum as a big blow for her and her children, adding that the very thought of her living without him broke her heart.

Jeruto nonetheless promised to soldier on and take care of their two children in his honour.

"My dear love, I cannot learn how to say goodbye to you. With weak fingers and pain in my heart. It is unbelievable that today I have learnt to stay with our beloved kids without you coming home again. I mourn my love. I have cried until no more. I miss you and you are the love of my life until we meet again.

"I promise to gather my strength for the sake of our children Your help in the spirit world will inspire me to stand as a pillar for our children I promise to make them smile in your honour. I will make you happy all the time," she added.

"We still cannot believe that you have left us. We will always remember you and love you. Life will never be the same without you," Kiptum's children expressed.

Kiptum died in a road accident alongside his Rwandese coach Gervais Hakizimana on February 11 along the Eldoret-Kaptagat Road.

He will be laid to rest later today in Naiberi in Eldoret, Uasin Gishu County, where the government has built a new home for his family.

A view of the completed version of the late Kelvin Kiptum's house. /VIRAL TEA KE

Speaking to the media, Edna Awuor praised Kiptum as a loving father who was always present for the baby's needs.

She claimed that the marathoner had promised to send her money to support her financially, hours before his demise in a car accident on Sunday, February 11.

"The last time I spoke with him was that Sunday when he informed me that he was coming to Eldoret and he would provide me with the cash I needed to cater to the baby's needs," she stated.

Awuor further noted that she had been living with Kiptum from the onset of the intimate relationship, the only exception being the time she had to return to her parents' home when she gave birth.

"We have been living together. The only time we didn't is when I gave birth and had to go back to my parents' home," she added.

The 22-year-old however claimed that Kiptum's relatives had failed to recognise her as well as the baby and also locked her out of the burial process. She also alleged that the family chose not to include the minor in the eulogy.

Citing her reason to move to court seeking the stoppage of Kiptum's burial set for Friday, February 23, Awuor insisted that she sired a baby with him and was at a loss in terms of who would help her take care of the child.

"I filed the petition because we sired a baby with the late Kiptum and sought legal grounds to ensure the baby's taken care of. Now that he's gone, I don't know who will be assisting me to take care of the baby. She is one year and seven months," Awuor remarked.

"It is also important that the court acknowledges the baby belongs to Kiptum."

Awuor appeared in court while in the company of the child seeking to postpone the burial. However, Justice Robert Wananda of the High Court declined to issue the orders based on the burial being a matter of national interest.

"Burial arrangements of the deceased are at an advanced stage and, therefore, stopping the burial may be disruptive, considering the resources that have been put in," the judge ruled on Thursday, February 22.

Kiptum is set to be buried on Friday, February 23 in a state-accorded funeral, which was approved by the cabinet and will be attended by President William Ruto, among other dignitaries.

On Thursday at 9:00 a.m., the marathoner's body left the morgue in a funeral procession that is expected to head on to Eldoret town for a public body viewing ceremony.

The funeral procession headed to church for a funeral service before proceeding to his home in Naiberi, Iten, where he will be laid to rest.

The producer known for his stellar works in digital video production, made the revelation while officially launching Kenya Online Media, a digital platform rebranded from Mungai's YouTube channel, hours after he stripped her of its access.

Speaking to his newly recruited reporter, Captain Nyota, Trevor revealed that the couple had called it quits in February 2023.

Screengrabs of Director Trevor announcing the end of the working relationship with Eve Mungai on February 19, 2024. /INSTAGRAM.DIRECTOR TREVOR

However, they decided to keep working together to protect their brand, hence keeping their romantic split a secret even before rumours surfaced that their relationship was going through trouble.

"We worked together last year while we were not okay romantically until February this year when we decided to officially part ways," Trevor disclosed.

Notably, when he announced that he cut professional ties with Mungai through his Instagram stories, he shared a cryptic message reading "Someone is sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago," seemingly directed at his former partner who up to now is yet to give her side of the story.

When asked if he would continue working with Mungai in the Q&A on the social media platform, Trevor made it clear that her involvement in their joint platforms was terminated.

"No! Her services are no longer needed in the following platforms: YouTube - 754K subscribers, Insta Fame - 104K subscribers, Facebook - 874K followers," he responded.

The announcement on Monday, February 19 saw Mungai stopped from earning a monthly salary of Ksh800,000 in YouTube earnings through advertisements instream as well as Facebook, something he previously termed a non-issue even if she would have been earning more than he did when they co-managed their vibrant platform. 

"We believe in equal opportunities and value each other's contributions to our family and the company. Our focus is together on working as a team, supporting and empowering each other to achieve our goals.

"We believe that financial success should not be limited by gender, and we embrace the equal earning potential that exists in our relationship," he stated during a previous Q&A.

He added that the couple tried to specialise in exclusive interviews that have a higher Cost Per Mille (CPM) and generate more revenue by providing unique content, attracting a larger audience, appealing to premium advertisers, improving audience targeting, and creating sponsorship opportunities.

YouTube cost per mille (CPM) refers to the price advertisers pay content creators for every 1,000 views an ad receives on the YouTube platform.

As fans await Mungai's response, she is set to be under pressure to announce her next course of action given that Kileleshwa Member of County Assembly (MCA) Robert Alai urged Mungai to sue her now-former boyfriend for unlawful termination.

As Kenyans celebrate Valentine's Day with all their gifts and methods of affection, culminating in the bedroom by the time you get to read this, Viral Tea takes a trip down memory lane to the stories of love that have sparked conversations. 

From hacking into the Credit Reference Bureau (CRB) and blacklisting your ex to running away with a woman's handbag, these stories at times send Kenyans reeling with laughter and others wondering 'What on Earth just happened?'

Viral Tea has picked some of the wildest stories of love and relationships we have covered over the past couple of years and came up with this:

28-Year-Old Man Hacks Into CRB, Blacklists Four Ex-Girlfriends

In August 2022, a 28-year-old man was arrested after allegedly hacking into a CRB portal and including four women on its infamous 'blacklist'.

Reports indicated that the women he had added to the CRB portal system happened to be four women he previously dated. Photos seen by Viral Tea showed him in handcuffs.

One of the women who spoke on condition of anonymity lamented that she was unable to access funds from various credit financiers because of the man, identified as Nick.

Many times she was turned down because of a negative listing that barred her from taking any loans, thus she blasted him for committing one of the country's most daring manoeuvres.

"It's so unfair what Nick did. I have been applying for loans from financial institutions and used to get turned down because of what he did.

"He is so evil let him rot in jail," she said as quoted by a local blog.

Top Cop Opens Fire After Fleeing With Woman's Handbag On Date Night 

A senior police officer based in Teso, Busia County caused a stir in Busia town after he fired in the air two times, following an altercation over a woman early on December 28, 2022.

According to the Directorate of Criminal Investigations (DCI), the altercation started earlier at around 11 pm when the officer had walked into Didis pub in the company of a beautiful woman only identified as Daisy, to unwind after a long day’s work. 

"The cop ordered for drinks and the two imbibed the frothy waters while conversing in low tones, as Daisy giggled occasionally to their private chats while leaning on the cop’s shoulder, leaving him beaming with excitement.

"All went well in the pub located at the border town with Uganda, as other revellers danced with their partners to slow rhumba tunes that set the mood for a happy ending, to crown the Christmas festivities," the DCI stated in part. 

However, at around 2:30 am, the woman spotted a man she knew sitting at an adjacent table and joined him for a brief chat. This angered the senior cop who paid for his drinks only and left in a huff, leaving the woman to her own devices.

Efforts by the woman to go after the top commander and explain that things were not as he thought fell on deaf ears, as the officer entered his car and took off towards Amerkwai, leaving with the woman’s handbag. 

The woman accompanied by the bar manager went after the cop using a motorbike while demanding for the handbag and blocked his vehicle at Amerkwai, along the Busia-Malaba road. 

Immediately, the officer took out his firearm, a Jericho pistol loaded with 15 rounds of 9mm calibre, and fired two rounds in the air, sending the duo scampering for dear life and attracting the attention of police officers from Adungosi police station who rushed to the scene. 

Man Chases Girlfriend From House, Starts Airbnb Business With Her Partner

A man kicked out his girlfriend from his house in January 2023 and resorted to starting a business partnership with another man who had been having an affair with her at his expense.

The man, Daniel Oketch, said while giving his review of Jacob Ailet's book Unplugged, that he had taken a loan to furnish the house to suit the standards of the woman he was dating, who was also his workmate.

He happened to stumble upon the other man in the house who was also footing the rental costs of the residence, and who had discovered that Oketch was the one who furnished the house.

However, instead of fighting each other on believing that he had been seeing his girlfriend, Oketch and the man teamed up to kick the woman out of 'their' house.

"I took a loan to furnish a house for a female workmate I was dating. One day I found a man in the house kumbe he was the one paying rent, he also realized I was the one who had furnished the house.

"We didn't fight, instead we resolved to kick the lady out of “our” house with her few belongings," Oketch wrote on Sunday, January 8, 2023.

The two later decided to convert the residence into an Airbnb bringing in profits, thus beginning a business partnership with a stranger whose fight between them might have had serious consequences.

The income generated from the Airbnb soon allowed them to acquire more properties for the same purpose, with Oketch revealing plans to convert a bedsitter apartment into Airbnbs.

Capital FM Boss Charged With Threatening To Kill Ex-Lover

Farida Idris Mohamed, a Commercial Director for Capital Group, which owns Capital FM, was on April 18, 2023, charged with threatening to kill her former boyfriend and ex-business partner.

Idris was arraigned at the Milimani Law Courts with seven charges of threatening to kill Hussein Aila Amaro contrary to Section 223 of the Penal Code. She however pleaded not guilty to the seven counts and was granted cash bail of Ksh100,000.

Appearing before Chief Magistrate Lucas Onyina at the Milimani Law Courts, Idris denied the seven charges of committing the said offence by allegedly sending a series of threatening messages through her mobile phone number to that of Amaro in June 2019.

"On the 14th day of June 2019 at 10:14 hours at an unknown place within the Republic of Kenya without lawful excuse caused Hussein Aila Amaro to receive a short message (SMS) through his number from the number of the said Farida Idris Mohamed to wit "Now tell me what the f*ck you will do to me and you see I will finish you and bloody Swarna combined," threatening to kill him," a charge sheet seen by Viral Tea read in part.

She was also charged with sending five other threatening messages (in total) to the complainant on June 14, 2019, and June 15, 2019, with the third count revealing that she allegedly sent an SMS threatening to finish Amaro.

Idris was also charged with a fourth count of threatening to kill Amaro and drag his body on a hot tarmac on the same date when she is alleged to have committed the three other offences.

"I will kill you with my hands and drag your body on hot tarmac until nobody can recognise that...body of yours then bury you before you proceed to hell, threatening to kill him," added the charge sheet.

Woman Dumps Lover After Husband Who Went Missing For 17 Years Returns

A middle-aged woman from Lurambi in Kakamega County was forced to send away her lover in August 2023 after her long-term husband returned 17 years later.

The woman identified as Agrippina Mulupi, a resident of Emukoyani village in Butsotso ward, reportedly lived with her lover for three years and the husband, Boniface Moi Muyeshi, according to villagers, demanded that his competitor be chased away before he could return to his wife.

Mulupi revealed that she had persevered for five years after Muyeshi disappeared in 2006 and opted to enter into a new relationship so that she could support her children.

She added that her new partner was supportive to the point of helping her buy food and pay fees for her children. Together, they had sired a child whom she stated that the now-former lover is committed to supporting.

"I had forgot and told myself that he had left. I stayed for five years and said I had tolerated enough. I found someone who was not from Kenya but from Rwanda," Mulupi told the media.

"He was helpful in my life and used to take my children to school and pay school fees and even when my child was in college he never lacked anything, the lover was the one who was sending him money. He was also budgeting well for the house."

Mulupi added that the return of her husband came as a shock to her but she had to accept the new reality.

She further noted that she had instructed her lover to leave out of respect for her husband as he was staying in their matrimonial home.

Junior Govt Employee Whose Ksh21M Frozen By EACC Was Girlfriend's Dowry

A junior employee attached to Kenya Rural Roads Authority (KeRRA) on Thursday, August 17, 2023, claimed that the Ksh21 million frozen by the Ethics and Anti-Corruption Commission (EACC) was meant for his fiancée's dowry.

Daniel Munywoki Wambua had petitioned the court to unfreeze the funds so that he could secure them for payment of dowry to marry his future wife.

Through his lawyer, Danstan Omari, Wambua claimed that EACC had incorrectly flagged his account which was set up specifically for dowry payments and to which his family and friends had contributed.

He added that he was compelled by tradition to fulfil his dowry payment promise and has yet to do so despite the celebration because of the respondent's false claim that the dowry payment account is a proceed of crime.

The memo seen by Viral Tea sparked debate amongst employees and on social media platforms, bringing to the fore yet again the inconsistencies of workplace policies in a corporate environment that has of late allowed liberal behaviour which in the past used to be frowned upon.

The company's Group Chief Operations Officer (COO) in the address to all staff members, advised them against allowing Valentine's gifts in the office, explaining that the decision was for the safeguarding of their welfare.

A memo that went viral advising employees against giving gifts at work. /FACEBOOK

To be specific, a romantic atmosphere that is commonplace every Valentine's Day can spark pressure on single individuals, thus interfering with their concentration with work-related activities.

"Please note that no Valentine's gifts are allowed within the company premises. Management has made this decision in order to safeguard other employees from unnecessary pressure and stress," read the memo in part.

The COO further instructed employees to relay the same policy prohibiting gifts to their loved ones, warning that any violation would result in disciplinary action.

"Kindly communicate with your loved ones about this instruction in time to avoid any inconveniences. Please note that this will be taken seriously and commensurate action will be taken against violators," added the memo.

On this Valentine’s Day, couples are eagerly seeking unique ways to publicly express their affection. The memo thus sparked mixed reactions on both Facebook and X, with some wondering why the company was still clinging to age-old restrictive policies.

"HR have circulated a memo saying no Valentine's gifts are allowed within the premises. Who hurt them?" Mishi Serut wondered on X.

"Aii this is silly. As an adult, if you feel some type of way because your mate is getting gifts and whatever, you should check yourself. Humans will never be equal at any point. So people should stop driving cars on the road because us legxus owners will feel stressed? Nonsense," renowned author, Sarah Haluwa weighed in.

Some however agreed that it was right for the company to safeguard the mental well-being of every employee.

"With the way things are hard not all of us can afford to buy Valentine’s gifts for our loved ones. The management has done the honourable thing by making sure that our loved ones at various workplaces don’t get tempted and demand gifts from their partners simply because their colleagues received gifts," D’Angelo D’Silva wrote.

Viral Tea was unable to independently identify the name of the company as well as the nationality, despite the memo going viral within the territory of the republic.

However, we did ask the AI platform ChatGPT, which responded by revealing that whether it's appropriate to exchange Valentine's gifts at work depends on the culture and policies of the workplace.

In some workplaces, exchanging small tokens of appreciation or friendship on Valentine's Day may be acceptable and even encouraged as a way to foster camaraderie and boost morale. However, in other workplaces, it may be considered unprofessional or could make some coworkers uncomfortable.

Before exchanging gifts at work, it's a good idea to consider the norms and expectations of your workplace.

"If you're unsure, you could check with your HR department or observe what others are doing. If you do decide to exchange gifts, it's important to keep them appropriate for a professional setting and to be mindful of any workplace guidelines regarding gifts and interactions between coworkers," states ChatGPT.

Image of a box of chocolates. /PIXABAY

Yes, you read that right – socks! While socks might seem like an unconventional Valentine's Day gift, many women have embraced this trend as a playful and meaningful way to show appreciation for their significant others. 

The humble sock, often an overlooked accessory, becomes a canvas for creativity and a symbol of warmth and comfort.

The act of gifting socks on Valentine's Day is more than just a fashion statement; it's a reflection of pure understanding and consideration.

An illustration of a couple wearing socks. /SPARKS & DAUGHTERS

These aren't your ordinary, run-of-the-mill socks either. Valentine-themed patterns, love quotes, and radiant colours turn this everyday item into a unique expression of affection.

The gifting of socks has become a playful tradition, showcasing a blend of humour and intimacy that defines modern relationships.

Beyond the humour lies a deeper sentiment. Socks are a constant piece in our daily routines, providing warmth and comfort. 

By gifting socks, women express a desire to wrap their partners in love and care, quite literally from head to toe. It's a reminder that love can be found in the simplest, and everyday gestures.

The trend of gifting socks has added a touch of whimsy to the day dedicated to love, proving that sometimes, the most unexpected gifts can become the most cherished.

So, this Valentine's Day, consider breaking away from tradition and embracing the joy of gifting socks. It's a charming way to celebrate love, laughter, and the little things that make relationships truly special. 

After all, nothing says "I love you" quite like a cosy pair of socks that warms both the heart and the toes.

Happy Valentine's Day from all of us at Viral Tea!

A graphic poster wishing all our readers a Happy Valentine's Day. /VIRAL TEA KE

A report from a survey released on Friday, February 9 by McAfee Corp., a global leader in online protection, has revealed that 30% of men (and 26% of all adults) will use artificial intelligence tools to pen a love letter this Valentine’s Day on Wednesday.

The findings were part of McAfee’s ‘Modern Love’ research report which surveyed 5,000 people in nine countries to discover how AI and the internet are changing love and relationships.

The corporation however warned that using an AI tool such as ChatGPT to write a romantic missive is likely to be a risky tactic, with 49% of respondents saying they’d be offended if they found out the note they received had been produced by a machine.

"The most popular reason given for using AI as a ghostwriter was that it would make the sender feel more confident (27%), while others cited lack of time (21%) or lack of inspiration (also 21%), while 10% said it would just be quicker and easier and they didn’t think they would get found out," a press release summarizing the report read in part.

A graphical representation of Artificial Intelligence (AI). /META

Who Will Win Your Love: Human Versus Machine

While using AI bots to help those who feel ill-equipped to express their feelings might seem like a harmless use of emerging technology, not to mention more evidence that it has become truly mainstream, it demonstrates the growing challenges people face in identifying whether information received online is from a person or a machine.

Two-thirds of adults (69%) were unable to tell the difference between a love letter written by AI and one written by a human being. 65% even preferred a machine-generated note in the style of E.E. Cummings to his original 1952 poem I Carry Your Heart With Me.

“With the rise in popularity of artificial intelligence, particularly tools such as ChatGPT that anybody with a web browser can access, the chances of receiving machine-generated information are on the rise,” said Steve Grobman, McAfee Chief Technology Officer.

“While some AI use cases may be innocent enough, we know cybercriminals also use AI to scale malicious activity. And with Valentine’s Day around the corner, it’s important to look out for tell-tale signs of malicious activity – like suspicious requests for money or personal information.

According to Grobman, to find a true match, love-seekers should stay vigilant and use security solutions that can help safeguard their privacy and identity and protect them from clicking on malicious links a scammer might send.

How to Find True Love Online: Watch for Catfishing and Other Cyber Scams

Online dating is more popular than ever, but as McAfee’s study indicated, it’s also never been more difficult to tell the difference between real and fake messages.

66% of adults have engaged in conversation with a stranger after being contacted out of the blue on social media, with Facebook Messenger (39%) and Instagram (33%) being the most popular platforms, while 51% admit to either being catfished themselves – which involves somebody pretending online to be someone they’re not – or knowing somebody who has.

Those looking for love are often more vulnerable to scams, and cyber criminals use that vulnerability to their advantage, engaging in long, sophisticated attempts to steal from their victims.

55% of respondents said they’d been asked for money by somebody they were talking to online, which is always a red flag, particularly if you’ve never met them in person, but personal details can be just as valuable to criminals these days.

Personally identifiable information, from your place of birth to your passport information, can be extracted over time and used together to access online banking or potentially even sold on the dark web.

"Of the 57% of adults who said they have been asked to share this kind of information online, 16% were asked for their date of birth, 9% were requested to reveal passwords, and 20% were asked to share intimate photos or videos, which are then potentially used for blackmail purposes," the statement added.

"Meanwhile, 55% have been asked to transfer cash and, in 20% of those cases, the amount asked for was more than $10,000 (Ksh1.6 million), which just goes to show the types of crimes that are increasingly more common on social media."

According to Grobman, Valentine’s Day is a wonderful time to celebrate love and we believe people should be free to safely pursue and enjoy all the fun and excitement that comes with online dating.

“We know it’s easy to drop your guard when chatting to a potential partner but it’s important to be on alert if you’re asked to share potentially sensitive information about yourself. We don’t want to put people off finding a perfect match online, but it’s important that they only fall in love, not for a scam," he added.

Fortunately, a lot of people are already extremely vigilant when interacting with strangers online and requests for personal info often give scammers away.

29% of respondents said that’s what made them realize that not everything was as it seemed, while 16% became suspicious when the person they were speaking to started to discuss cryptocurrency.

How to Protect Yourself:

• Avoid being fooled by AI-generated text by being on high alert and scrutinizing any texts, emails, or direct messages you receive from strangers. There are a few tell-tale signs of an AI-written message. For example, at least for now, AI often uses short sentences and reuses the same words. Additionally, AI may create content that says a lot without saying much at all. Because AI is programmed to not form opinions, their messages may sound substance-less.
• Never send money or gifts to someone you haven’t met in person—even if they send you money first.
• Talk to someone you trust about this new love interest. It can be easy to miss things that don’t add up. So, pay attention to your friends or family when they show signs of concern.
• Take the relationship slowly. Ask questions and look for inconsistent answers.
• Try a reverse-image search of any profile pictures the person uses. If they’re associated with another name or with details that don’t match up, it’s likely a scam.
• Use privacy and identity protection technology. Security solutions can protect you from clicking on malicious links that a scammer may send you online, while also steering you clear of other threats like viruses, ransomware, and phishing attacks in general. It can look out for your personal information as well, by protecting your privacy and monitoring your email, Social Security Number (SSN), bank accounts, credit cards, and other info that a scammer or identity thief may put to use. With identity theft a rather commonplace occurrence today, security software is a must.

Survey Methodology

The survey was conducted online between January 27 and February 1, 2023, by Market Research Company MSI-ACI via email inviting people 18 years and older to complete an online questionnaire.

In total 5,109 people completed the survey from nine countries including the United States, United Kingdom, France, Germany, Australia, India, Japan, Brazil, and Mexico.

With Kenyans set to mark Valentine's Day on Wednesday, gone are the days when couples used to save up for days and months to splurge on lavish dinner and lunch dates as well as luxury getaways as the current state of the country's economy is forcing couples to go back to basics.

Punitive tax and austerity measures have impacted heavily on Kenyans' salaries and very few would be willing to go out of their way financially as of now to impress their significant other.

On the bright side, budget-friendly ideas to mark the day of lovers have emerged...in a month of lovers. Some don't require excessive expenditure while others can be achieved literally for free; the goal is to create and maintain lasting connections between the couples themselves.

Image of a box of chocolates. /PIXABAY

Given that this year's Valentine's happens to fall on a working day, Viral Tea takes a look at some fun and budget-friendly ideas for you to consider:

Breakfast in Bed

Couples who live with each other can start the day off on a sweet note by surprising themselves with breakfast in bed. They prepare their favourite breakfast foods like pancakes, waffles, or scrambled eggs, along with a cup of coffee or tea.

This is also an option for couples who might have off days on Valentine's Day and spend the night with each other on the eve of the 14th.

Love Notes

Many of us used to leave small love notes for our partners to find throughout the day. Hiding them in their pockets, wallets, or lunch bags brightens their day and reminds them of our love.

While married couples might still do this, the world has gone digital, and all it takes is a love note sent to your significant other or casual partner through WhatsApp and social media platforms such as Instagram.

Do It Yourself (DIY) Lunch Date

Instead of going out for lunch, pack a homemade lunch for both of you and have a picnic in a nearby park or even at your workplace. N.B: not your office, in this case, an office block.

It is a romantic and budget-friendly way to spend some quality time together during the day. Alternatively, you can arrange for a lunch date at your favourite kibanda (small restaurant) with friendly costs compared to high-end restaurants.

After-Work Happy Hour

Skip the expensive dinner reservations as well as expensive drinks at a luxurious bar and opt for a relaxed happy hour at home.

You can shop for your favourite drinks at the supermarket after work and make some cocktails or mocktails at home. Put on some music, and unwind together after a long day.

A couple having cocktails at a bar. /COLUMBIA DISTRIBUTING

Cook Together

Again, steer clear of the expensive dinner dates and plan to cook dinner together in the evening.

Choose a simple and delicious recipe that you can prepare together in the kitchen. Cooking together can be a fun and romantic bonding activity.

Movie Night

Create a cosy movie night at home with your favourite romantic films or TV shows through streaming platforms such as Netflix. You may not need a TV for this one as both of you can watch via your laptop or phone with a pair of earphones/Bluetooth speaker and through whichever of you has an active subscription.

Bring out some snacks, cuddle on the couch or bed, and enjoy a relaxing evening together without spending a fortune.

Homemade Dessert

Create a homemade dessert together as a sweet ending to your Valentine's Day celebrations.

Whether it is baking cakes, making fruit salad, or indulging in bars of chocolates, the process of creating something delicious together can be a fun and intimate experience.

Plan a Future Date

Spend some time together planning a future date or adventure. Remember, Valentine's is on a weekend and not recognised as an official holiday even though it is celebrated by billions worldwide through the exchange of gifts and spending time together.

Whether it is a weekend getaway, a day trip to a nearby town, or trying out a new activity together, discussing and planning future experiences can be exciting and build anticipation for more quality time together.

Exchange Personalized Gifts

Instead of buying expensive gifts, exchange personalized and meaningful gifts that won't interfere adversely with your budget.

It could be a handmade card, a photo album of your favourite memories together, or a playlist of songs that remind you of each other, all of which can also be made possible digitally through photo editing platforms and your phone's gallery.

End the Day with Gratitude

Before going to bed, take a moment to express gratitude for each other and the time you spent together. Reflect on the highlights of the day and reaffirm your love and commitment to each other.

Bonus tip: End the day with lovemaking and intense bedroom activity; remember to use protection.

Remember, Valentine's Day is about celebrating love and connection, and you don't need to spend a lot of money to create meaningful memories with your partner.

Focus on spending quality time together and showing appreciation for each other's presence in your life.

Miscellaneous: Valentine's Day On Ash Wednesday

Like in 2018 and 1945, Valentine's Day 2024 happens to fall on the same day as the beginning of Lent, popularly referred to as Ash Wednesday. For either or both couples who are Roman Catholic faithfuls, Episcopalians, Presbyterians, Methodists and Lutherans who observe the Lenten season, this presents a challenge over whether to mark Valentine's or the holy day.

Ash Wednesday marks the beginning of 40 days of fasting, penitence and abstinence in the run-up to Good Friday.

Believers are encouraged to take a break from festivities and observe a solemn period of contemplation and repentance. The observance also includes cutting off most meats from the diet as believers ponder the 40 days Jesus spent in the wilderness and faced temptations from the Devil.

By consensus, priests advise faithfuls to forgo Valentine's and to give prominence to Ash Wednesday. This means attending mass to have the ashes applied to their forehead and spending most of the day in prayer and fasting...another possible date idea in the event either or both of you belong to the aforementioned faithfuls.

Luckily, there are recommendations for navigating this rare occurrence:

1. Postpone Valentine's Day: Given the diet restrictions and significance of Ash Wednesday, you can opt to celebrate the one you love on February 13th or some other day post-February 14th without having to compromise Ash Wednesday.
2. Ignore Valentine's Day completely: It is also an option to skip Valentine's this year. Since the coincidence is quite rare, it wouldn't hurt to give prominence to Ash Wednesday instead.
3. Let Valentine's Day take on a new meaning: February 14 is often also commemorated as the day Saint Valentine - the patron saint of lovers, epileptics, and beekeepers - died as a martyr. His death and that of Christ are hailed as the ultimate act of love. Valentine's this year can be dedicated to being grateful for the gift of divine love.

This article was generated by an Artificial Intelligence (AI) model and edited by the author.

Valentine's Day is here, and you can bet lovers are eagerly planning the perfect setting to celebrate each other. Enter Tripitaca, the online travel agency that promises to turn your Valentine's Day into an unforgettable adventure.

"We understand that Valentine's Day is more than just a date; it's an opportunity to create lasting memories with the ones we hold dear," says Peter Wachira, Founder and CEO of Tripitaca.

"That's why we've curated a selection of immersive experiences that capture the essence of romance and adventure, ensuring that every moment spent together is nothing short of magical."

Love is in the Air: How Tripitaca is Redefining Valentine's Day. /TRIPITACA

Valentine's Day isn't just another date on the calendar; it's a celebration of love, romance, and cherished moments shared between partners. As the tourism industry prepares to capitalize on this amorous occasion, destinations around the globe are rolling out the red carpet for lovebirds seeking enchanting experiences.

From candlelit dinners overlooking picturesque landscapes to intimate getaways nestled in secluded hideaways, the options are as diverse as the spectrum of love itself. Couples are spoilt for choice as they peruse through a myriad of enchanting possibilities, each promising to elevate their Valentine's Day to new heights of romance.

“Travel, no matter the distance, has the power to enrich our lives, deepen our connections, and create memories that last a lifetime.

"We strive to inspire and empower individuals to explore the world with curiosity, passion, and a sense of adventure. For us, every experience is an opportunity to discover and celebrate and love knows no bounds, and neither does adventure,” he says.

As couples eagerly anticipate the arrival of Valentine's Day, Wachira has unveiled a special package designed to enchant and delight.

In collaboration with The Standup Collective, Westlands Banquet Centre, and Pride Inn Westlands, Tripitaca invites them to indulge in a night filled with love, laughter, and soulful tunes as serenaded by Bensoul. As you would expect, it works best if you reserve a spot early.

If you feel so inclined, spread not just the love, but the cost with a convenient "lipa pole pole" option.

“We appreciate that love can sometimes come with financial strains, which is why instalments will ease this. Though the spaces may be limited, we would still love to have as many couples as possible enjoying each other this Valentine’s Day,” says Wachira.

If you’ve fallen in love, book your experience through Tripitaca's website or via WhatsApp at +254748666444 and create cherished memories.

Gift For Two Couples

Tripitaca will also gift two couples who love to travel together. To get the chance, tag the company on a recent photo where you travelled together and tell us why you love to travel together.

Love is in the Air: How Tripitaca is Redefining Valentine's Day. /TRIPITACA

The teacher from Nthangariri village in Mbeere North, Embu county was discovered dead in his home following a distressing post on Facebook a day before his untimely demise.

It read "Evening Members when you are stressed you just need one friend to share with, meanwhile, I invite you to my function on 14/2/2024 welcome all", the context of the invite immediately sent worry regarding what went on behind the scenes.

Mbeere North sub-county Police Commander Eric Yego revealed that concerns emerged after the teacher had barricaded himself in his house and ceased responding to calls from loved ones.

The incident which took place outside Quiver Lounge and Grill nightclub along Thika Road in Nairobi was captured in a video shared on X (formerly Twitter) in the early morning hours.

In the clip, the woman in a white-striped short dress was seen arguing with the man wearing a white jacket, to whom she later identified as her husband.

With almost no traffic plying the road, indicating that this took place way past midnight, the man began shoving the woman before slapping her on the cheek.

Here is the video:

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She was seen covering her face as the man continued shoving her to the point she retaliated in what escalated into a full-blown confrontation as the driver of the car parked right in front of them kept recording the proceedings for one minute.

The driver then stepped out to intervene, cautioning his fellow man to stop attacking his lover in his presence, ignoring the possible risk of the other man violently going after him.

However, the fighting man had shown the driver a photo of his wife and their child, while attributing to a male friend flirting with her as the cause of the altercation.

The woman, reduced to tears, claimed that the misunderstanding was caused by the man's jealousy because the woman had covered all the bills at the nightclub, including his friend whom she had invited to party with them. 

"I just said I am going to pay the bill because I am the one who told them we should come here. He got angry that I was paying all the bills including his friends.

"And I told him no, I am the one who brought him. This man, I have fed him for five years, while he was jobless. Then he is beating me because he has a job. Let him give me my things so that I go," she lamented as the driver begged the couple to return home.

The man, revealed to be working at a petrol station, then tried to defend himself saying he did not know his wife was coming as the friend called him to come over. 

The video divided Kenyans on social media, and while some thought it was wise not to intervene during couple fights, many criticised the man for his actions, especially with the recent rise in domestic violence cases that have culminated in cases of women being brutally murdered by men they were interacting with.

Meanwhile on Friday, January 19, Presidential Advisor on Women’s Rights, Harriet Chiggai led a section of women leaders in condemning the rising cases of femicide in the country, two weeks into 2024, as they vowed to pursue all legal channels in Parliament to address the intimate partner violence cases. 

“It is my commitment and that of the government to do all within our power first to nab the suspects but to also urge the judiciary to expedite cases of intimate partner violence,” the presidential advisor said.

“I also commit to working with my sisters in Parliament to push for stiffer penalties as well as recognizing that intimate partner violence cases are acknowledged for their misogynistic nature”. 

Chiggai also fired a warning shot to future rapists and women murderers as the government would crack down on them, saying “Those who are planning to rape and kill our girls, we are putting you on notice, your days are numbered!”

She also announced that the government will work with the Judiciary to expedite cases of intimate partner violence and recognize them for their misogynistic nature.

Additionally, she asked women in Kenya to stay cautious while engaging with individuals online adding that GBV was being done online. According to her, “GBV has now taken the form of technologically facilitated gender-based violence (TFGBV)."

Advisor of the President on Women's Rights Harriet Chiggai together with women leaders addressing the media on the rising cases of intimate partner violence (IPV) in Nairobi on January 19, 2024. /HARRIET CHIGGAI

According to reports, the pastor, an elder who doubled as an assistant pastor at a Seventh Day Adventist (SDA) church in Ketitui, met his untimely death while enjoying an evening in the lodging with the female companion.

The woman had discovered the pastor's body and promptly notified the management of the accommodation before she escaped the scene.

Belgut sub-county police commander Charles Kibati reportedly confirmed the incident, revealing that the pastor was found dead on Wednesday, January 17 with no visible injuries and without any clothes on.

A used condom was discovered at the scene. It was suspected that the deacon may have overdosed on sexual enhancement drugs to spice up their night.

AIKS in a statement believed that the two-year-long contracts should stipulate the marital duties including housekeeping, finances, childcare, and shows of affection for each party.

According to the organisation, each partner may decide on whether or not to renew the contracts after the expiry of the two years to avoid divorce cases which have the potential to damage the finances of the partners beyond repair, also providing an alternative to life-long unions.

“Each partner will commit to that contract during the two years. At the end of the two years, the couple can choose to renew their agreement, adjust its terms, or dissolve their marriage,” the organisation said.

Atheists in Kenya Society (AIKS) president, Harrison Mumia. /THE STAR

“Rather than staying in marriages ‘until death’, renewable marriages would allow partners to tweak their marital contract accordingly, or agree that it’s beyond tweaking and end it without the shock or drama of a contentious divorce or lingering doubts about what went wrong.”

AIKS further added that in the event brides and grooms-to-be truly want a happy marriage, then they ought to define their goals and expectations in a renewable marriage contract.

In 2023, the organisation called on President William Ruto to embrace a one-child policy to navigate the harsh economic times as well as curb the rising unemployment in the country.

He attributed this to too many Kenyans born outside wedlock, a matter that could have been avoided if the one-child policy came into force.

Mumia opined that the government could make use of the extra finances on influential development projects as well as salvage a worsening economy in the country.

"Too many births in Kenya is one reason why we are experiencing economic hardships and cultural backwardness. The population should be controlled to combat poverty in Kenya," he remarked.

After the murder was widely reported, causing shockwaves countrywide and linking John Matara as the prime suspect in Wahu's murder, several individuals who claimed to be victims of her alleged killer exposed terrifying ordeals of the heinous actions he perpetrated against them.

The majority of the chilling accounts by the victims all pointed out the genesis of their woes; they met Matara online through dating websites with the suspect splashing money on them before agreeing to meet at Airbnbs.

It is there that he assaulted them and forcefully extorted money from them, their family and friends before disappearing into thin air. Many of such cases go unreported.

CCTV footage showing Starlet Wahu with a man at an Airbnb apartment in Nairobi's South B. /K24

The dangers of online dating, as it has now emerged, have seen culprits target what modern-day social media refer to as 'baddies', attractive women who effortlessly stand out from the rest with some flaunting lavish lifestyles, especially on Instagram, which was the case in Wahu's murder, with the suspect reportedly demanding Ksh500,000 from her during their interaction preceding her demise.

While Gen Z has turned to online forums, dating and friendship apps, video games and other social media apps for connection, which has led to an abyss of options rooted in the superficiality of looks and likes, it is important to be watchful of individuals he or she meets online who use all manner of enticing tricks, including promising money and dream vacations to mask their true, dark intentions.

As such, one must be aware and cautious of potential red flags to ensure their safety, even though online dating has emerged as a convenience compared to physical meetups at restaurants, bars, social gatherings or even outside your house.

Here are some red flags to watch out for in online dating:

Too Good to Be True

Be wary of profiles that seem perfect or too good to be true. Scammers may create fake profiles with attractive photos and an idealized persona that makes it easy for their targets to easily approach them.

Limited Photos

If the person has very few photos on their profile or the photos appear overly edited or inconsistent, it could be a sign of deception.

Limited Information

If the profile lacks detailed information about the person, such as hobbies, interests, or specific details about their life, be cautious.

Unwillingness to Share Information

If your match is hesitant to share personal details or avoids questions about their background, it could be a red flag.

Fast-Paced Relationship Progression

Be cautious if someone pushes for a fast progression in the relationship, such as expressing love or wanting to meet in person very quickly. Scammers may rush to establish trust.

Asking for Money

Never send money to someone you've met online. If your match starts asking for financial assistance or tells a sob story, be sceptical.

This was one of the notorious red flags Matara's victims had during their encounters with him, with some narrating that he extorted money from her relatives and friends amounting to approximately Ksh50,000 before tying her to a chair and locking the door from outside.

Inconsistent Stories

Pay attention to inconsistencies in their stories or if details about their life seem to change. Scammers often have difficulty keeping their lies straight.

Refusal to Video Chat or Meet in Person

If the person consistently avoids video calls or in-person meetings and provides excuses, it could be a sign of deception.

Overuse of Pet Names or Compliments

Be cautious if someone uses overly affectionate language or bombards you with compliments too quickly. It could be a tactic to manipulate emotions.

In this case, if a man or woman happens to use the words 'babe' more than twice at a go, be careful. Some scammers also use pet names during an argument to make people believe that it is an altercation between couples that they would rather keep off than intervene, especially in residences.

Google Image Search

Use reverse image search to check if the profile pictures are stolen from someone else's social media or website.

On some dating apps that Viral Tea conducted spot checks on, some online users used photos stolen from other people's social media accounts and impersonated them to lure innocent targets.

Aggressive or Controlling Behavior

If your match becomes overly possessive, controlling, or exhibits aggressive behaviour, take it as a serious red flag.

It was reported that Starlet Wahu may have caught wind of Matara's behaviour but died before she could expose it to the limelight.

Multiple Profiles

If you come across the same person with different profiles or notice inconsistencies in the information they provide, be wary.

It is almost like how taxi drivers particularly in the country may use different apps but possess the same profile, or different profiles possibly to conceal their reportedly dangerous reputation.

Avoidance of Personal Meetings

If your match consistently avoids making plans to meet in person and provides vague reasons, it could be a cause for concern.

Remember, the goal of meeting online is you set up a period satisfying both parties for you to meet in person.

Always prioritize your safety when engaging in online dating. Trust your instincts, and if something feels off, take the time to investigate or distance yourself from the situation.

In 2024, the era of dating and relationships will witness a rapid shift as the world begins embracing the digital age inclusive of dating and social media apps.

Moreover, with the cost of living worsening and date ideas becoming more expensive, Kenyans, in particular, will have to shift to austerity methods in their quest to win over 'The One', amidst an exorbitant hypergamy era, that is a woman who works as a lawyer demanding that she dates a pilot.

Hypergamy: the action of marrying or forming a sexual relationship with a person of a superior sociological or educational background.

Viral Tea takes a look at dating trends we may witness in 2024:

Less Attraction to Money

The economic climate not just in Kenya but around the world will play a big part in shaping dating this year. With higher prices for everyday needs, it is expected that people will be more intentional with where they spend their time and money.

As Viral Tea previously explained, Kenyan men even while broke will have to look at aspects such as confidence and positivity, communication skills, passion and ambition, personal grooming and hygiene among others as aspects they will use to attract a woman who is even beyond their league.

Young couples will thus look into the 'joy' economy which involves special experiences that bring happiness in an uncertain future.

This will mean more free dates such as walks around a residential area or during budget events and concerts.

Digital-First Socialising

The rise in remote work which came at the cost of real-life connections has caused a seismic social shift that’s particularly impacting younger couples, many of whom came of age during the COVID-19 pandemic.

The unintended consequence of remote work is that people socialize less in real life. Spontaneity, organic relationships and run-ins are almost untenable, that is, there’s a lot less ‘let’s grab a drink after work’ or ‘I met someone interesting in a lift’ when you’re working from your sofa set in your sleeping clothes all day.

As a result, Gen Z has turned to online forums, dating and friendship apps, video games and other social media apps for connection, which has led to an abyss of options rooted in the superficiality of looks and likes.

With the advancement of virtual reality (VR) technology, there might be an increase in virtual dating experiences. People could use VR to meet and interact with potential partners in immersive virtual environments.

Also, the use of artificial intelligence (AI) in matchmaking algorithms may become more sophisticated, providing individuals with more accurate and personalized matches based on their preferences, behaviours, and compatibility.

Increased Focus On Mental Health

The emotional toll of online dating, that is the matches that don’t reply, the ones you chat with fruitlessly for a year, the ones you do meet in real life but then ghost you, is seeing many potential couples scale back their efforts or stop altogether.

Ghosting: the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone suddenly and without explanation, withdrawing from all communication

This has been coined “considered dating,” according to Bumble’s sex and relationship expert Shan Boodram.

“More than half of singles are more open about their mental health, and they’re making a concerted effort to slow down,” she states, adding “People are seeing dating as an extension of their mental health practices.”

This also means people are more likely to extend grace to someone who cancels a date because they’re having a bad mental health day of their own. According to Boodram, considered dating is not just acknowledging our own needs in dating, but extending that to other people.

Less Focus On Milestones

A phenomenon known as the ‘timeline decline’ is seeing an increasing number of people, women in particular, letting go of the tired scripts that say you need to be married by a certain age, or at all.

Every generation before the current one was on what’s called the ‘relationship escalator,’ and it moved so much quicker to the point that people are not only slowing it down but getting off it altogether.

"It’s just not that meaningful for them to couple up for the sake of coupling up," states Boodram.

More authenticity (Come As You Are)

People are growing tired of having to be skinnier, prettier, smarter and more woke, leading to a trend dubbed “Betterment Burnout.”

While personal growth is great, there’s a point where you need a break from trying to be better than before. With that comes acceptance for people not to be their ‘after,’ whatever that is.

Blurring of Relationship Definitions

“NATO” dating, meaning “not attached to the outcome”, has emerged, according to Tinder’s 2023 year-end trend report.

Instead of rushing into a ‘happily ever after,’ people are focusing on using the dating journey to accumulate a roster of new experiences and memories that enhance their personal stories, which include bad dates, good dates, and getting ghosted.

Clinging on to the old relationship definition binaries is also fading away, and embracing intentional ambiguity comes in as a replacement. Historically, relationships have very distinctly fallen into categories; you’re either friends, or you’re romantically involved.

Instead of centring a social media app around the pressure of finding someone who fits neatly into a box for you, users come with no ‘serious’ agenda. That is, they may be looking to banter, for advice, to flirt, to share a confession, or they may just be bored.

The High School/University Crush Revival

With many Kenyans complaining about how their options in the dating pool are dwindling, some are now turning to their past lives for the ones who got away. That is, you may be reading this and talking to your past primary, high school or university crush...or sweetheart.

Surprisingly, there have been many success stories on this and considering the significant changes and personal growth that occur over 20 to 30 years, some may be newly separated or have experienced transformative life events.

Reconnecting with old connections is proving worthwhile, as timing appears to be a crucial factor in these scenarios.

That being said, it's time to go back to your high school/university yearbook to look for details surrounding your crush or DM her if you know her social media handles.

Though some say that this is still an issue, the current state of the country's economy has seen the times of men amassing wealth from their ventures dwindling courtesy of punitive taxes and austerity measures that have forced Kenyans to keenly monitor what they spend, dates being one of them.

Take for example, you decide to step out of your house for a walk, at which you decide you need an essential from a supermarket. It is here that you meet a woman you find attractive and gather the confidence to approach her, talk to her and get her number as the two of you leave the supermarket.

Meanwhile, it's January and it dawns on you that you are broke. Moreover, you're met with bills to pay including rent, food, and electricity among others with your next paycheck another three weeks away...keeping in mind that you last got paid before the Christmas period.

At this point, your motivation to text that woman you like from the supermarket drops and you know well that you cannot wait that long as some other Kenyan man or foreigner might have wrapped her arms around her and you become a distant memory.

What do you do? Do you just forget it, and wait until the next great opportunity comes around because of bad timing? Is your nearly-depleted bank account or mobile money account a reason not to even bother? The answer is no.

Dating While Broke (In a Nutshell)

The truth is, at the very beginning of a romantic encounter, money has absolutely nothing to do with building attraction. Any man who says otherwise would not understand what it means to have game and is usually the one reserving a table at a nightclub, purchasing expensive alcohol for all his gorgeous women to drink and wondering why he went home alone and yet he carried a box of condoms just in case.

While financial stability can be a factor in attracting a partner, it's not the only aspect that matters, especially in a tough economy with measures that in 2024 could have more negative effects on your pocket.

Here are some tips for Kenyan men who may be facing financial challenges but still want to attract women:

1. Confidence and Positivity: Confidence is attractive, and having a positive attitude can make a significant difference. Focus on your strengths, be proud of who you are, and project confidence in your abilities and personality.

2. Communication Skills: Being a good communicator is crucial. Listen actively, engage in meaningful conversations, and show genuine interest in what the other person has to say. Effective communication can create a strong connection.

3. Personal Grooming and Hygiene: Taking care of yourself physically sends a message that you respect yourself and others. Good personal grooming and hygiene can enhance your overall appearance and attractiveness.

4. Passion and Ambition: Even if you're not currently financially well-off, having passion and ambition for your goals can be attractive. Share your dreams, aspirations, and the steps you're taking to achieve them as this can demonstrate determination and drive.

5. Creativity and Resourcefulness: Showcase your creativity and resourcefulness. Plan inexpensive but thoughtful dates, engage in activities that showcase your skills or hobbies, and find ways to make the most of what you have. 

6. Humour: A good sense of humour can be a powerful tool. It helps break the ice, creates a relaxed atmosphere, and makes you more approachable. Just be sure to keep it respectful and appropriate.

7. Shared Values and Interests: Building connections based on shared values and interests can help form a strong bond. Find common ground and engage in activities you both enjoy, whether they are free or low-cost.

8. Emotional Intelligence: Being emotionally intelligent involves understanding and managing your own emotions while being attuned to the emotions of others. This can create a deeper connection and make you more attractive as a partner.

9. Helping and Supportive Attitude: Show kindness and be supportive. Being there for someone during both good and challenging times can make a significant impression.

10. Continuous Self-Improvement: Demonstrate a commitment to personal growth. Whether it's acquiring new skills, pursuing education, or actively working on self-improvement, this mindset can be appealing.

Remember, the key is authenticity. Be true to yourself, be respectful, and focus on building a genuine connection as relationships are about more than just financial status; they thrive on emotional connection, shared values, and mutual respect.

A first date for instance is nothing more than an audition for a second date. It might end up in 'one thing led to another' but all you have to do on a first encounter is create an environment where the two of you can get to know each other, which can be a walk around a residential area or a free market fair.

The point is that spending huge amounts of money (that you don’t have) is not going to make things happen any faster as generally, women are more concerned with the traits you have as a person and what they mean for your long-term growth.

According to an article by The Social Man, real women, the kinds that are worth dating, prefer to be treated like people, and something is dehumanizing to them about treating romance as a transaction that is almost as if you’re implying that she can’t pay for her own stuff. Remember, you are her date, and she wants to see what you’re all about, not how much money you’re willing to spend to impress her.

Using Money To Attract Women

Women who rely on men to do this sort of thing for them, generally, are not the kinds that make for healthy relationships. Some men will argue that women are turned on by money and though it may be true, it’s the artificial attraction that is contingent on the fact that the money never runs out.

It’s also the kind of relationship that is constantly put to the test by other men. The fact is, you’ll never be the tallest, wealthiest, most built, most well-paid, so relying on those things to get you laid just isn’t wise.

This is also an unstable way to go about attracting women and could change at any moment. You’re much better off working on yourself as a person, and not worrying about how big the thousands of shillings in your bank account are.

Whether it’s six figures, or two, don’t let it hold you back from spending time with a new woman you meet. It just takes a bit of creativity. Find something to do that doesn’t cost much money and will still give you an opportunity to talk.

It really doesn’t have to be complicated, and if you can’t think of anything, then it’s a good opportunity to understand that this is a weakness on your part.

If you have trouble keeping a woman occupied with nothing more than a good conversation, then this is a sign of a bigger problem. If you’re broke, use it as a way to learn to keep things simple. It will be a useful exercise and force you to get better at just being an attractive choice for her without really having to try too hard.

There are plenty of men out there who are broke but still manage to attract women because they know how to use what they’ve got. They know how to keep a girl interested in the conversation and in them without feeling the need to buy her.

This should be the goal for most men while keeping in mind that when the time is right and you can afford it, it’s okay to spend on a girl you care about.

So next time you find yourself without any cash to spare, don’t be scared, you can still text that woman you met. Who knows, it may turn out to be one of the best dates you’ve ever had.

Despite a struggling economy and excessive tax measures being proposed and implemented which worsen the cost of living, some Kenyans, mostly the youth, still find the space and audacity to spend thousands of shillings impressing their significant other on their special days.

Sometimes it's not just being taken out on expensive dates, some have tried bizarre ways of doing background checks on the person they are eyeing while others have stood by outrageous courtship opinions such as 'I can never date a man who takes home packed food from a restaurant'.

Viral Tea compiled some of the wildest dating and relationship stories and opinions that have triggered debate on social media this year:

Kevin Mboya Travelling 500 km To Surprise Lover Who Ghosted Him

Kenyans took to Twitter on Friday, January 27 to express concern over social media influencer Kevin Mboya who has not posted on the platform for nearly two days. Mboya on Thursday, January 26 shared a post on Twitter (now X) revealing that he embarked on an 8-hour 35-minute journey from Nairobi to Kwale to surprise his girlfriend, who was celebrating her birthday then.

He added that he had not contacted her for the previous 24 hours, with the belief that she had forgotten that he knew when her birthday was.

Nonetheless, this didn’t stop him from embarking on the 502-kilometre journey to the coastal county, carrying a bouquet of flowers and waiting for her outside her office upon his arrival. He did not post the aftermath of the meeting as worries regarding his social media absence for close to two days grew.

Taking to his YouTube channel later on, Mboya called out his girlfriend for ghosting him.

“I told myself maybe she didn’t want to see me or maybe she had left the building with another door. I left and went back to my friend’s place in Mombasa. The next day it dawned on me that maybe this lady doesn’t want anything to do with me. I decided to come back to Nairobi," he stated.

“Up to today, she has never texted me back and even now I don’t see her status on WhatsApp, I don’t know what happened so that’s how things turned out. And that’s why I had to come back with the flowers because I never found the person I was supposed to give the flowers to so I had to come back with them. I’m yet to hear from her. Maybe one day she will come out and tell me this is what happened, as of now I know nothing."

Kenyan Woman's Surprise Of 300 Roses, Ksh56K Dinner

On Wednesday, March 1, Celine Kariuki, a video creator and brand ambassador, was treated to a dinner costing Ksh56,500 and gifted 300 roses by her boyfriend who was proposing to her to formalize the relationship.

Kariuki took to her Instagram stories to show off the huge bundle of flowers as she was led to a waiting Toyota Landcruiser Prado, with a hotel bellman holding the door for her to enter as the couple drove to their dinner location.

According to the bill which she also shared, the couple had ordered five 750-millilitre bottles of still water priced at Ksh600 each and a quantity of beef carpaccio costing Ksh3,500, an ostrich at Ksh3,500, tomahawk (steak) at Ksh9,000, ribeye at Ksh8,000, cremeux at Ksh1,800, baked white chocolat at Ksh1,200, cappuccino and caffe latte each costing Ksh5,000.

The most expensive item they ordered was a Moet & Chandon Imperial Brut Champagne which cost Ksh25,000. This is compared to some online stores which sell 750ml of the drink at about Ksh9,800 and Ksh18,500 for a 1.5 litre.

The bill as well as the date sparked various reactions on social media divided into two sides; Kenyan women wishing they would be treated like Kariuki by their men and Kenyan men being tormented with pressure to win over their women, especially after the cake contained a proposal written: "Will you be my girlfriend?"

Rapper Who Slept With 900 Women

Bendo Prussia, a rising Kenyan rapper who caused a stir on Telegram for years, stunned the whole country by revealing the intrigues of hooking up with up to 900 women, breaking it down to how after he meets one, another has her eyes on him and ends up in a hookup.

"I love women, so when you are seeing one, another wants you, so you have to have two of them in your circle. Then again, when you have two, another wants you, so you find yourself with three women.

"You find yourself with so many women, now when you get bored of the last one, you get rid of your first one and place her in 10th, when the 9th one bores you, you promote her to number 1 then you move to number 8," he told Plug TV.

The constant changing of women like he changes clothes thus led to his body count, to which he admitted to sleeping with up to 900 women in his life while using protection.

"I don't count, but maybe I've hit 800 or 900 women, but I don't count. Those people who steal from my status can count and let me know...but if you've been my fan since the first day on my IG that was hacked, you know my body count, I've hooked up with many rich women and I use protection," he went on.

Achraf Hakimi Registering Assets In Mother's Name After Alleged Divorce With Wife

Reports surfaced as early as Friday, April 14 of Morocco and Paris Saint-Germain defender Achraf Hakimi's divorce from his wife, Hiba Abouk and spread like wildfire across Kenya as well as in many countries worldwide.

French magazine First Mag reported that Abouk was seeking half of Hakimi's assets and fortune but discovered to her shock that he owns nothing, even though he earns millions of shillings with PSG and the Moroccan national football team.

Whether you come from the tough streets or live in a society filled with milk and honey, when love finds you, it is tough to leave it behind. They say the pinnacle of love itself is marriage, celebrated by weddings when a man and woman join as one through the words 'I do'.

This year has seen weddings aplenty, but there are some which have generated huge conversation owing to the glitz and glamour showcased by the bride, groom and guests who grace such occasions, using their full potential in terms of class and fashion, from pricey suits to glittering dresses that almost always accentuate the God-given curves of beautiful women.

Viral Tea takes a look at high-profile weddings that got Kenyans talking in 2023:

David Samoei (President Ruto's brother) weds long-term girlfriend Carol Kitur

The latest high-profile wedding took place on Friday, December 15 when President William Ruto's younger brother tied the knot with his girlfriend in a glamorous event held at the Fairmont Mt Kenya Safari Club in Nyeri County.

Ruto's brother David Samoei weds long-term fiancé in a glamourous event held at Mt. Kenya Safari Club in Nyeri on December 15, 2023. /VIRAL TEA KE

Donning a velvet tuxedo suit, the groom was all smiles as he embraced his new wife dressed in a white gown. Meanwhile, Samoei and Kitur's guests showed up in an array of attires.

Among the notable attendees at the wedding included President Ruto, First Lady Rachael Ruto, their eldest son Nick Ruto and his fiance, Prime Cabinet Secretary Musalia Mudavadi, and Transport CS Kipchumba Murkomen among other high-profile guests.

Kapseret MP Oscar Sudi, Nandi governor Stephen Sang, his Nyeri counterpart Mutahi Kahiga and Senator Wahome Wamatinga, among others, were also part of the guests.

However, love alone can’t foot the bills, put food on the table, or keep the landlord happy. How will you pay for that romantic dinner you desire?

How will you survive the financial adversities that come with the additional responsibilities of marriage?

Well, don’t fret. Here are 8 financial actions to take before you say ‘I do' :       

1. Schedule Regular Money Talks With Your Partner

Even though many couples shy off talking about their finances, talk regularly about money with your partner. Regular money talks can help you know each other’s financial situation. For example, how much debt both of you have. 

During the discussions, be open and honest. Discuss your income, debts, financial goals, and anything else relevant to your financial situation. 

Money talks are not a one-and-done conversation. So sit down with your partner at least once every month and discuss your finances. 

You can chat about how to save, invest, settle bills, and more! Having these conversations can help you avoid money arguments down the road.

2. Learn Your Partner’s Past and Present

You ought to know the assets and liabilities of your significant other. Ask them about their income, debts, and investments. This way, you’ll know the financial risks you’re associating yourself with.

Once you know what you’re dealing with, make informed decisions about your future finances together.

Besides, just like we have a relationship history, we also have a financial history. Our behaviour with money today is influenced by our past experiences. 

As such, when you merge your finances with your partner, you bring together years of spending and saving habits and beliefs about money.

If your partner is a spendthrift, they’re unlikely to change when you marry. Likewise, if they have nurtured good saving habits, they’re likely to stick with them. 

That said, you’ll probably have different financial priorities with your partner. If this is so, explore other ways you can compromise.  

3. Decide How You'll Manage Your Money

Both of you should play a part in managing your finances. Weigh your options and figure out how you’ll manage your finances.

Will you keep your finances separate? Are you going to have a joint account? How are you going to handle bills and expenses?

Here are some ways you can manage your money:

• Combining all your incomes and sticking to an already agreed-upon budget.
• Combining your accounts but each partner gets some money to use for whatever they wish.
• Having separate accounts.
• Sharing the bills 50/50.
• Split the bills by a percentage of each person’s income.
• Live off one income
• Split responsibility for certain bills

There’s no single best practice for managing your money. You can experiment with different strategies, combine different methods, or ditch all and develop a personalized plan. If you find what works for you, you’re setting yourself up for a successful marriage.

4. Create an Emergency Fund

Marriage comes with a lot of unanticipated expenditures. From the wedding itself to the cost of living together, there are a lot of expenses that can pop up.

So build a cash reserve to cushion against uncertainties such as:

• Loss of job
• Unexpected medical bills
• Car breakdowns

Experts recommend setting aside 6-12 months' worth of living expenses to help you during a rainy day. Where to keep this money is a personal choice. 

An image of a bundle of notes. /FILE

However, invest it where you can easily access it. You don’t want to wait for long before accessing your funds.

An ideal place to keep your emergency funds is a Money Market Fund (MMF). You can deposit and withdraw as many times as you want without restrictions. Besides, you can make withdrawals on short notice. Sometimes even within a day or two.

5. Get Life Insurance

Life is unpredictable. However, a life insurance policy gives you and your spouse peace of mind in knowing that if something happens to either of you, the other will be safe financially.

It can help to cover costs such as funeral costs, outstanding debts, and living expenses. And if you have children, life insurance can ensure they are taken care of too.

6. Create a Retirement Fund

Besides planning for your wedding and honeymoon, you also plan for your retirement as a couple. If you wait until after you’re married to start saving for retirement, you may find yourselves behind the eight ball.

A retirement fund will ensure you and your spouse enjoy a comfortable retirement. Follow these simple steps when creating a retirement fund.

1. Decide how much money to contribute to the fund each month.
2. Choose an investment vehicle for your retirement.
3. Monitor your retirement fund regularly to make sure that it’s performing well.

7. Decide Where You’re Going to Live

There are a few things to consider when deciding where to live before getting married. If you're both working, you'll need to consider your commute and whether you're okay with a long-distance relationship. 

If you have kids, think about schools, childcare, and the cost of living. You'll also need to decide whether you want to buy or rent. 

Ultimately, the decision comes down to what's best for you and your partner.

8. Set Joint Money Goals

Even before you start living together, set joint financial goals with your partner. This will help ensure that you’re moving in the same direction financially. 

However, your goals should be realistic and achievable. Otherwise, they might feel unattainable. To avoid this pitfall, figure out together how much each will cost.

Once you know, create a budget to see the impact of those goals on your lifestyle.

If adding a goal stretches your budget too much,  you can adjust your timeframe for achieving the goal. Extending the time frame will minimize the impact it has on your finances.

Wrapping Up

Marriage planning goes beyond planning for the wedding. You need to know how you’ll pay for your everyday expenses, rent, retirement, and much more. Planning for these in advance ensures you have a happy married life.

This article originally appeared on Money254. Money254 helps consumers and business owners to search, compare, and apply for financial products in Kenya.

Speaking to the media on Monday, December 11, Rono revealed that the 23-year-old bride-to-be, Nelly Chepkoech, called off the wedding hours before the D-day as she had disclosed to him her extra-marital affair.

The groom slammed Chepkoech for concealing the affair from him and deceiving him until the day of the wedding, which was on Saturday, December 9.

"The wedding could have happened yesterday (Saturday) but the bride revealed that she had another person somewhere. She had not told me about him before. So the wedding did not happen because of what she said," Rono stated.

After the wedding was cancelled, Rono announced that he decided to dump Chepkoech for what was termed as a reckless action, though he wished her the best in her life and on her journey to find another husband.

"Another thing, I have decided to leave her and let her go to succeed in her life or to find another husband. Even though she said it unintentionally, I have forgiven her and if she comes back, I let her go with a clean heart and wish her prosperity completely," Rono added, seemingly fighting back his tears.

"She was to become my wife and her father played a key role in helping us plan this marriage. She however came to me a day before the wedding and informed me of this other guy."

He lauded the father-in-law for telling him the truth despite that being the hard option. Meanwhile, the groom's mother condemned the lady's behaviour and asserted that she should never be part of the family.

She pointed an accusing finger at the 23-year-old for complaining that she was too young to tie the knot, arguing that Chepkoech had appeared happy up until when she cancelled the wedding at the eleventh hour.

"She complained she was not ready and we agreed but I will not allow her to come here again since she claims to be young," she fired.

Chepkoech on her part had set the record straight by revealing that it was the church leadership who urged her to cancel the wedding.

"We were supposed to celebrate a wedding in Kapsoyo. We had diligently planned this occasion for two months, pooling funds in a WhatsApp group to cover the expenses.

"Unfortunately, the reverend advised us to postpone the event, and we did not know what to do. Both of us shed tears," she said, pinning blame on the church in part.

Chepkoech then dismissed claims that she had abandoned her man by cancelling her wedding, stating that she was at home waiting for what would transpire next.

The church had initially faulted Chepkoech for refusing to submit her documents to process their marriage certificate, as the pastor had informed congregants that attempts to have her reconsider her decision and move ahead with the wedding plans bore no fruit.

The saga spilled over to social media platforms with a section of netizens claiming that she had run away. Quarters criticized her for dumping the groom when he had already paid the bride price and argued that her abrupt decision cost the organisers Ksh50,000.

The wedding was initially slated to take place at Kapsoiyo Africa Gospel Church (AGC) in Bomet on Saturday, December 9 with Pastor Clement Chalulot expected to preside over the event.

Initial reports depicted in a screenshot from the wedding WhatsApp group claimed that the 23-year-old bride-to-be, Nelly Chepkoech, called off the wedding hours before the D-day, with the pastor informing congregants that attempts to have her reconsider her decision and move ahead with the wedding plans bore no fruit.

Africa Gospel Church in Bomet County. /AFRICA GOSPEL CHURCH KENYA

Pastor Clement also faulted Chepkoech for refusing to submit her documents to process their marriage certificate.

“The communication from the presiding reverend that the bride had changed her mind halted everything and brought the entire plans to a halt," he said.

"The bride refused to hand over essential documents such as her ID. She also displayed a reluctance to continue with the wedding as initially planned even though the groom assured us that all was well."

The pastor termed the situation as unfortunate but noted that the decision did not have an adverse effect as only Ksh50,000 was spent from the total wedding budget.

Pastor Chalulot, at the same time, said a group of emissaries had earlier been dispatched to reconcile the two families, but the lady stood her ground and refused to be part of the discussion.

The groom's family was left enraged since they had already paid the dowry and handed over three cows and other valuables to the would-be in-laws in line with marriage traditions.

Following the botched event, hundreds of villagers who had milled around waiting for the big day were treated to free mursik and other perishable foodstuffs that were prepared for the big day as efforts to return the dowry got underway.

The saga spilled over to social media platforms with a section of netizens claiming that she had run away. Quarters criticized her for dumping the groom when he had already paid the bride price.

However, the bride set the record straight by revealing that it was the church leadership who urged her to cancel the wedding.

"We were supposed to celebrate a wedding in Kapsoyo. We had diligently planned this occasion for two months, pooling funds in a WhatsApp group to cover the expenses. Unfortunately, the reverend advised us to postpone the event, and we did not know what to do. Both of us shed tears," she said, pinning blame on the church in part.

Chepkoech then dismissed claims that she had abandoned her man by cancelling her wedding, stating that she was at home waiting for what would transpire next.

"I would like to tell Kenyans on social media to stop spreading rumours, I'm still at home and I have not left, I'm waiting for the day we will be called.

"I'm waiting for that day, the pastor has not said the wedding was cancelled so we are waiting for the day we will proceed with the wedding. It was not cancelled, it was postponed" she said.

She was backed by her father who slammed Kenyans on social media for jumping into baseless conclusions.

Setting of a wedding held at a beach. /THE WEDDING MISSION

I mean, have you ever heard anyone say, “When I first saw you, I knew I wanted to open a Trust fund and start saving for our future children. Investments were the first thing I thought of when my eyes met yours.”

Personally, the only thing I would be thankful for is that you are a tall dude!  Once the honeymoon phase is over, you realise Mr Tall Dark and Handsome spend money like money grows on trees, and you realise you might need to open up a secret bank account if this relationship ends up with you guys getting married. 

You have heard of Love Languages. Now presenting to you the financial love languages.

Financial love languages are identified by the behaviours that represent individual financial systems. What we value differs from person to person, so it's important to understand your partner's financial love language to build healthier and long-lasting relationships.

Once these behaviours are understood, couples can improve communication and establish a collective financial value system.

What is your financial love language? Check out the list to know;

Saving as a Form of Caring

Are you the kind of person that wants to protect your family from financial hardships or do you save for emergencies? Whatever the case, financial security is such a big deal for you. 

You like to save for a rainy day and it's important for you to feel secure, to know that whatever life throws at you be it your car breaking down or if anything in the house needs fixing you are able to protect and provide for yourself and your family.  

It is important for a saver to be able to help their loved ones now and in the future. This might not seem or even sound romantic or even compete with a surprise candle-lit dinner but according to Jacent Wamala, a licensed marriage and family therapist turned money mindset coach said in a past interview with self.inc, 

“Maybe it won’t translate into going on expensive dates or wanting to do extravagant financial outings. But they are saying they want to have that safety net and be prepared for when life happens.” 

Imagine someone saving for a future with you. They are thinking of retiring with you and making sure nothing stands in the way of you two growing old together. Sounds like a pretty romantic thing in and of itself.

Earning Money

If you never get to see a lot of your better half because they are always working believe it or not but that may be their financial language of love. 

With the growing inflation we are experiencing, we have to work twice as hard to provide for ourselves and our partners.

Perhaps your partner grew up in a household where their folks had to work hard to cover the bills and in turn, he is doing the same. Maybe he got that side hustle so he can afford that kitchen upgrade he promised you three years ago. 

According to Jacent Wamala, earning money is a love language. You want to make sure your family is taken care of and that you can provide at a basic level. 

Some people may perceive earning money as a financial love language because they believe that providing financial stability or material resources for their partner is a way to demonstrate love, care, and support. It can be seen as an expression of commitment and a desire to contribute to the well-being and happiness of their loved ones.

Thinking Long Term

Investing has some level of risk, but someone thinking long-term might enjoy seeing their money grow over time. They are thinking ahead to what they can build long term.

According to Blackenterprise, they might try their hand and invest in the stock market, education, retirement, business opportunities, or even people.  

The best way to communicate with someone whose financial love language is investing is to discuss transactions or opportunities as investments. They are not interested in throwing away money, they want to talk about how to grow money.

It's good to talk about where you see investments because they will understand that and will resonate with that. For instance, if you would like to attend a pricey conference next month, you could say something along the lines of “We could do a lot of networking for our business if we invest in this Ksh30,000 conference".

Spending

We have savers and then we have spenders. Unlike savers, spenders easily part with their money.

According to Investblue.com  spenders are more likely to spend money on experiences and items that bring them joy. They are known to devote resources to spending quality time with their partner. This can take the form of vacations or frequent dates.

“This person might seem more spontaneous, impulsive, and flexible. They live in the here and now. And because they love you, they want to enjoy rich, memorable experiences with you,” says Wamala.  

According to Blackenterprise, true spenders can be rebellious when they feel financially deprived or restricted and the best way to communicate with a spender is to not judge them but instead give them parameters of spending. For instance, instead of telling them, we can’t buy it and that it is not in our budget, tell them, we have Ksh5,000 to spend this month. 

Giving 

Are you with someone who you have concluded has a philanthropist's heart? Someone who finds joy in giving.

For most people, giving can be an expression of love. Someone whose financial love language is giving gives their resources, time, and money.  

However, giving can also signify insecurity. When someone gives money or gifts to someone in exchange for emotional connection or to be liked for instance.

The best way to communicate with a giver is to praise them for their giving spirit as Blackenterprise puts it. Usually, givers simply like to feel appreciated.

Protecting

Are you the kind to worry and think of the worst-case scenarios happening to you or your family? Accidents? fires? You name it. You may have gotten life insurance or disability insurance with your family members as beneficiaries. 

In spite of the fact that it doesn't seem romantic, doing this might guarantee that your loved ones have adequate money in the event that the worst should happen or you pass away. Imagine the love of your life taking care of you even in death. (hopeless romantic sobs) 

It’s not impossible for people with two different financial priorities to have a good relationship, it just requires communication and a bit of compromise.

Whether your financial love language led you to get insurance, a joint bank accountant, or a vacation in the Maldives, understanding your other half’s financial language would go a long way in helping you work toward shared long-term financial goals.

It would help in having more effective financial conversations and save you from opening that secret bank account. When both couples appreciate and value the other's financial language, finances, like love, can be a lovely experience.

This article originally appeared on Money254. Money254 helps consumers and business owners to search, compare, and apply for financial products in Kenya.

The event was held at the rural home of Maina in Murang'a County, with Gachagua being the lead negotiator.

As such, the second-in-command donned the traditional brown attire shirt embroidered with tiny white shells as he spearheaded negotiations at the wedding, commonly referred to as ruracio.

Gachagua's style bore some similarities to some male MPs who came out in support of their colleagues during the negotiations.

DP Rigathi Gachagua's outfit during the traditional wedding of Mathira Member of Parliament Eric Wamumbi and Muranga Woman Representative Betty Maina on November 18, 2023. /IVY CHELIMO

As for the women lawmakers who graced the event, they wore African print dresses with brown patterns.

President Ruto showed up for the event donning a dark grey fedora hat and carrying around a traditional cane, keeping his casual wear given that he was on a working tour of Kirinyaga County earlier.

"Love ultimately Wins. Eric and Betty, congratulations on your Ruracio today.

"I joined President William Samoei Ruto, hundreds of leaders and Kenyans from all walks of life, at the traditional dowry ceremony of Mathira MP Hon. Eric Wamumbi and Murang'a Woman Representative Betty Maina today," stated Gachagua when he shared photos of the event on his social media platforms.

"Congratulations and God's blessings as you start a new chapter in your life. We sing and dance on your Big Day."

Among lawmakers in attendance from across the political divide included Nominated MP Sabina Chege, Nominated Senator Karen Nyamu, Embakasi East MP Babu Owino, Kapsaret MP Oscar Sudi and Langata MP Phelix Odiwuor (Jalang'o).

Also present were Mumias East MP Peter Salasya, Mwala MP Vincent Musyoka and South Mugirango MP Silvanus Osoro, among other leaders.

The traditional ceremony carried huge significance given that this was the first time under current political circumstances that two sitting Kenyan MPs had tied the knot.

Wamumbi and Maina met in 2021 and started dating during the 2022 campaign period. Maina was a director at the Athi Water Development Agency before he resigned to contest for the seat.

It is their second attempt at marriage having tied the knot before, and enter this union with two children each from their previous relationship. Wamumbi had lost his first wife after her body was discovered in Hohwe Dam on May 25, 2020.

During a past interview, Maina disclosed that she had been married before but had to leave the marriage, citing that she entered it at a young age, admitting that they were too impatient when they decided to split.

President William Ruto and DP Rigathi Gachagua attend the traditional wedding of Mathira Member of Parliament Eric Wamumbi and Muranga Woman Representative Betty Maina on November 18, 2023. /DPPS

DP Rigathi Gachagua dances with Nominated MP Sabina Chege during the traditional wedding of Mathira Member of Parliament Eric Wamumbi and Muranga Woman Representative Betty Maina on November 18, 2023. /DPPS

MPs Peter Salasya and Felix Odiwuor (Jalang'o) at the traditional wedding of Mathira Member of Parliament Eric Wamumbi and Muranga Woman Representative Betty Maina on November 18, 2023. /DPPS

Set up at the traditional wedding of Mathira MP Eric Wamumbi and Muranga Woman Representative Betty Maina in Muranga County on November 18, 2023. /ERIC WAMUMBI

Kudate in response to an application filed by Tuya seeking upkeep and child maintenance, began by claiming that the CS had chased him out of their matrimonial home in Kileleshwa, Nairobi when she was appointed to office in 2022 by President William Ruto.

He revealed that they were legally married having observed all traditional marriage rites, further confirming that they sired two children who in his side of the story, have not been neglected as purported by Tuya.

Former Narok Member of County Assembly (MCA) Stephen Ole Kudate. /FILE

“As the head of the family, I was a man of means who provided adequately, and she knows that I am jobless, but with the little I have, I effectively play my parental role,” he said.

According to Kudate, he was deliberately denied by the CS from seeing the children and excluded from participating in their children's welfare.

Furthermore, the former MCA sensationally claimed that Tuya had been having a romantic and sexual relationship with her official driver, a matter he said he would base on during his cross-examination of Tuya when the matter is heard.

“The sexual relationship between Tuya and her official driver is a mask for other sexual relationships with other high-ranking individuals in the society,” he went on.

CS Tuya moved to court in October this year seeking custody of their two children and Ksh525,000 in upkeep, claiming her estranged husband was being violent to her and the children, as well as treating domestic workers with contempt.

Kudate however denied the claims, accusing Tuya of being verbally violent and unruly, and thus asked the court not to grant the orders sought by the CS, arguing that he is in a better position to have custody of the minors

He claimed that their mother is never at home to interact with them, alluding to her series of trips made both within Kenya and abroad, adding they have been forced under the care of domestic employees who include drivers.

“I have taken care of her. She is out to frustrate me and wreck my life just as she did to the first husband from Kajiado, who took her for her Masters degree in Law in the United States after which she abandoned and dumped him,” he lamented.

“Her myriad of local and international trips are subjecting the children to loneliness and neglect. They lack parental care and guidance and a father figure as they have been forced to live with strangers, drivers, house helps and relatives because she has scarce time with them."

Court papers revealed that Tuya agreed to marry Kudate despite the knowledge of the existence of another wife when he was thriving as the Majority leader of the Narok County Assembly.

Kudate claimed to have provided for all the children, denying rejecting his duties as a parent and accusing Tuya of restricting his access to the children even to treat them to vacations after closing school.

“She has gone to the extent of denying me access to children to take them for a holiday when schools are closed,” he slammed.

He expressed willingness to take a DNA test to establish the paternity of all the children involved.

According to Kudate, the two have a divorce matter pending in court. Tuya accused him of failing to meet his obligations since they split in October 2020.

Winfred Mueni, a married woman, was charged after her 30-year-old lover, Titus Njoroge Kimani, died at Baba Dogo estate in Ruaraka, Nairobi on September 22, 2023.

She was deemed to have committed the unlawful murder of Njoroge who became unconscious before he was rushed to a hospital where he was pronounced dead.

Winfred Mueni in court on November 14, 2023, over the mysterious death of her boyfriend. /NATION

The ordeal all began after the two parted ways at a club the previous night where she had gone to find out whether her husband was there, then found him among others who were making funeral arrangements.

When it comes to finances, some people are spenders, while others are savers. But what transpires when these two opposites are together in a relationship?

This week, a post on X (formerly Twitter) by Fatuma Ramadhann which read "I hate the things broke men say and do" sparked massive debate online and brought to the limelight scenarios when one-half of the couple is faced with the huge task of financially maintaining a relationship, especially when his or her lover has experienced the finer tastes of life.

I hate the things broke men say and do

— CHOCO (@fatumaramadhann) October 31, 2023

It certainly comes as no surprise that one of the most prevalent reasons for divorce or separation is financial hardships. It can be a difficult thing to discover that your partner has opposing views about money. 

The tips below will assist you and your partner in resolving your financial differences and becoming more attentive to setting goals that you both want to achieve.

Accept Who They Are

Accepting your spouse for who and what they are is the very first step to navigating a spender-saver relationship. Accept that their spending habits could be directly linked to their personality in that they are ingrained and difficult to modify within the twinkle of an eye.

According to Michelle Perry Higgins, the principal of California Financial Advisors and author of several financial books, it is crucial to understand how your partner sees finances and how they were brought up with money. 

Were their parents economical or extravagant spendthrifts? Was it common for their parents to discuss money issues, or was it a touchy issue? What is their biggest financial fear? Every one of the responses to these questions will impact how that spouse currently handles money in the relationship.

It is important to also realize that if you are the saver, that doesn't mean that your way is the best, the only way, or flawless. You could put your relationship under further strain if you try to change them without first accepting who they are.

Recognize and Appreciate Their Strengths

Having to spend a significant amount of time with your spouse reveals not just their flaws but also their capabilities. Encourage your partner to use their strengths to improve their finances and your relationship.

Even though your spouse might be the spender, you could also find out that they are good with paying bills on time. Therefore, you can allow him/her to utilise that strength and let them be responsible for managing your bills. 

If you choose to focus on their positives, you could make them feel challenged to work on their spending habits as well.

Set a Spending Limit That Allows for Freedom

Agree and commit to establishing spending boundaries for both of you, but leave room for flexibility. Setting limits will keep both of you in control and prevent you and your spouse from exceeding your consented "spending limit."

In this manner, both of you can still buy anything without feeling guilty. Creating a spending limit will allow each of you to spend money without hurting one another.

Get On the Same Page About Big Purchases

It's fine if you don't agree on every single thing when it comes to money, but you will need to sacrifice when it comes to some critical financial concerns. Typically, this would entail agreeing on a general budget together and managing your debt, and your savings objectives which you can both work together to achieve.

If you and your spouse can agree on how much money you would love to save every month as well as how much you are willing to spend, you can offer one another a sense of flexibility in other daily financial choices. 

For instance, agreeing that you will be saving 30% of your income, using 50% on your basic needs and 20% on other purchases can go a long way in simplifying many of your other financial decisions. This also establishes unforced boundaries on how both of you spend without being too hard on either of yourselves.

When you agree on the big issues, the saver will have the satisfaction that comes from being assertive that the partner who is a spender will not prevent them from reaching their essential financial goals. 

This will in turn make the saver considerably more likely to be at ease whenever the spender goes to buy stuff.

Establish Goals Collaboratively

After discussing your future vision, you can then talk about the specific financial goals that you can put in place to help you follow your vision plan and achieve your dreams. You can do that by dividing your main goals into bite-sized chunks which are reasonable and measurable.

Divide your objectives into manageable chunks that are realistic and trackable. Coming up with a common goal will profit you as a couple by allowing you to have a clear intent and commitment.

Take into account where you and your partner would like to be financially in a year or more to evaluate which financial goals you can sensibly set. Ask yourselves where you would want to be in three years, five or ten, your major vacation plans, and whether or not you would consider setting up an emergency fund. 

Keep in mind that the secret to success in reducing financial tension and achieving your goals is to set them together. Collaborate and work together as a team. 

Agree to Disagree on Certain Things.

In a relationship, there is a place for more than a single money mindset. Realize that both of your standpoints concerning money are legitimate. You don't always have to agree on everything. 

However, it is critical to respect your spouse's financial concerns; or else, you may not be able to devise a financial strategy that you both are happy with.

If the spender's joy is dependent on being free to spend money and enjoy life, and the saver's joy is dependent on feeling financially stable, it would be great to set aside some cash monthly both for savings and recreational expenditures. 

Doing this will ensure that none of the partners is left out and it makes it easier to also do proper planning. 

Avoid Going to Extremes

As much as you may believe that you are right and your partner is incorrect when it comes to the whole issue of finances and money management, you may need to also implement a lot of caution. 

Don't be too much on your partner.  All these types of spending patterns have advantages and disadvantages and it can be detrimental to your relationship if you have a bias on only what favours you.

Whereas saving money is essential for both of you, entirely slashing spending makes it difficult for both of you as well. All work with no play makes Jack a dull boy so once in a while, go out for that movie date or getaway. 

WRAPPING UP

With the tips above, your key financial goals can be met as a couple, and at the same time, you can still be able to have your light spending moments. If you are willing to compromise and be open-minded, financial conflicts can be resolved whether you have the same money personality or not.

So yes, spenders and savers can live together in perfect harmony.

This article originally appeared on Money254. Money254 helps consumers and business owners to search, compare, and apply for financial products in Kenya.

In a statement on Thursday, November 2, the Judiciary revealed that the CJ is proposing to decriminalize bigamy but this does not mean that the married people will be legally allowed to marry outside the union.

"The bill proposes to decriminalise bigamy. It doesn't make it legal to marry outside the union but is a civil matter that should lead to divorce.

"Bigamy has been in law since 1930 with no prosecutions. It's a personal choice that can be remedied through divorce, not criminal proceedings," explained the Judiciary.

The current Penal Code states that any person legally married and secretly weds outside marriage is guilty of committing a felony and faces a jail term of five years.

''Provided that this section shall not extend to any person whose marriage with the husband or wife has been declared void by a court of competent jurisdiction, nor to any person who contracts a marriage during the life of a former husband or wife if the husband or wife, at the time of the subsequent marriage, has been continually absent from such person for the space of seven years, and has not been heard of by such person as being alive within that time,'' the section states.

The reports claimed that CJ Koome proposed to repeal a series of sections contained in the Penal Code, including Section 171 which covers Bigamy.

Among the unions that were anticipated to be affected by the proposed law included marriages under religious weddings and legally recognised customary marriages. 

The proposed amendments were reportedly viewed as a means of curbing rampant cases of infidelity and cheating, most of which have triggered messy divorces costing couples billions of shillings and their freedom in terms of imprisonment.

The Marriage Act of 2014 on polygamy was assented into law by former President Uhuru Kenyatta, following its passage in Parliament in March 2014 with the majority of MPs supporting it being male while female MPs opposed it.

Divorce these days is like a way of life, compared to the boomer generation where divorce cases were uncommon. In other words, couples can even call it quits amicably at the start of romantic and intimate matters.

The number of divorce applications in the Judiciary has been on the rise in recent years as evidence of marriage not being a bed of roses. In two years since 2020, a total of 10,338 couples sought to separate due to various grounds informing a divorce. 

However, women happen to be different, and in the Generation Z era, women these days expect more from men trying to court them, particularly those in their youth. Therefore, a coffee date for a first date, despite being one of the cheapest options, may not suit well for some of them.

A Kenyan woman named Cindi Munene sparked a massive debate on X (formerly Twitter) when on Wednesday, October 31, she expressed her disgust at men asking her out on a coffee date, a drink she believed she could make right from her house.

"Idk (I don't know) why men are comfortable asking for a coffee date. You wanna see me over some hot water? Bffr (be for real)," she wrote in Gen Z lingo.

Idk why men are comfortable asking for a coffee date. You wanna see me over some hot water? Bffr

— Cinderella???? (@CindiMunene) October 31, 2023

Despite her standing by her proclamation, stating that she would rather have a good date where she can order a full chicken, scores of netizens, including fellow women, differed with her sentiments.

"I actually like low-pressure dates like coffee. I don’t want to dress up and do the most if I'm not sure I’ll like the person, it will feel like a waste of outfit and time, ama?" Jemena weighed in.

"Lol unless I know that I enjoy spending time with you, the first date should always be coffee or drinks. I cannot sit through a dinner with a boring/uninteresting/cringy person even if it's free food," another user stated.

User Auntie Wa Harrier shared details of a conversation a friend of hers had with a man who invited her to a free public event at the Kenyatta International Convention Centre (KICC) in Nairobi on October 28 from 1 pm to 7.30 pm, which she declined.

Wewe atleast you were invited for "coffee"
Si my pal juzi was invited to attend that free car show pale KICC????????????
She even thought ikona tickets until the guy excitedly said "nooo it's actually freeeee"

Baby girl alijam..the group chat was HOT that day.????????
Wacha nipost convo https://t.co/3aGDYPEOiX pic.twitter.com/EQxiN4GtZo

— Auntie wa Harrier (@wairishhh_) November 1, 2023

Anyungu Wanyugu believed that Munene was using her sentiments to measure her worth by the quality of first dates men were willing to invest in her.

"What happens when we all spiral out of the age of first dates? What will your worth be? It’s a tough economy, very few good men in their mid to late twenties can actually afford coffee for two," he wrote.

Viral Tea can authoritatively contradict Munene's sentiments and share our verdict of one of our journalists being at a coffee date recently:

What Are Coffee Dates & Their Benefits

Casual yet classic, coffee shops located across Nairobi are not only great for morning caffeine hits, afternoon pick-me-ups, and freelance work settings, but believe it or not, they also act as great date locations to meet someone for the first time.

Why you might ask? Both low-key and cosy, coffee dates can be the perfect way to get to know each other or spend quality time together cheaply in a low-profile, no-pressure setting. Let’s face it, good coffee is something that we can all generally get on board with.

Other than being very affordable regarding the high cost of living in Kenya, coffee dates are an easy ‘ground’ to 'strike while the iron is hot.' They are a great way to enjoy great coffee and (hopefully) excellent conversion with your potential or current partner. 

They are also a good way to gauge how interested you are in the other person in a low-pressure environment without investing a lot of time into a date. That is, if you’re not feeling it, there's no love lost. 

If you have recently moved into a new location coffee date is an ideal way for coffee lovers to explore the best of the best coffee spots that are right on your doorstep - and if you enjoy the company of your date, that’s a bonus! Most cities and towns are bustling with cool coffee spots to sit back, sip, have a bite and relax.

You can easily prolong or cut the date short depending on how it's going. Most coffee dates will only last an hour or two - after the date, you can continue onto dinner or an activity, plan to pick up another time or call it a day.

Picking the Perfect Coffee Date Location

Now you’ve decided on the coffee date, it's time to determine where you want to go. From the location to the spatial dynamics and the vibe, there are plenty of factors to consider when picking the best coffee spot for your date. According to Bumble:

1. Consider opting for a location that is a convenient distance from both you and your date to avoid any lateness.
2. Avoiding bustling and always busy coffee chains could be a good place to start - instead, opt for something tailored to your date's interests or near a park or recreational spot that you could wander into afterwards.
3. For an ‘artsy date’ consider opting for an independent coffee shop that comes with accessories such as exposed brick, ceramic mugs, and pared-back interiors. Book lovers may want to head to a bookstore or library coffee shop, to enjoy a brew whilst comparing notes on their favourite authors.
4. Choose a spot that is on the quieter side and has a lot of seating. 
5. Opt for an area with plenty of coffee shops, in case your chosen one is a bit busy.
6. Get there early and find a good people-watching spot or a balcony spot where you can catch a glimpse of people and the surroundings, which further adds interest to the conversation.

The couple walked down the aisle and exchanged vows to seal their love at St. Austin Catholic Church in Riverside, Nairobi in front of family and friends in attendance, including Mudavadi and his wife Tessie, who acted as witnesses and presided over by the priest.

Maryanne's entry was decorated with songs and ululations. Flanked by her parents, she walked down the aisle with flowers lighting up on the pathway to match the theme of the wedding.

High-profile politicians were also present at the church wedding, including CSs Kipchumba Murkomen (Transport) and Moses Kuria (Public Service) who were among those who shared photos from the white wedding. 

Prime Cabinet Secretary Musalia Mudavadi's daughter Maryanne weds long-term boyfriend lawyer Nyaga Karanja on October 28, 2023. /MOSES KURIA

Also in attendance was Kikuyu Member of Parliament Kimani Ichung'wah, who is also the Leader of Majority in the National Assembly.

"Earlier today, I joined the family and friends of Prime Cabinet Secretary, Musalia Mudavadi during the wedding ceremony of his daughter Marryanne Mudavadi at St. Austin's Catholic Church in Nairobi," stated the CS on his social media handles.

Maryanne was dressed in a shimmering white gown and a veil that perfectly covered her face. Her parents stood by her side as they pronounced blessings on the newlyweds.

On his part, the groom wore a velvet tuxedo suit as the wedding attendees showcased a variety of attire ranging from semi-casual dress code to formal suits.

The church they exchanged their vows in was enormous and beautifully decorated with yellow and white flowers. The wedding theme was yellow and white for the young couple. 

Mudavadi, who also doubles as the CS for Foreign Affairs, was all smiles as he led the daughter to the altar.

On Saturday, August 19, the couple tied the knot in a flashy traditional ceremony popularly known as ruracio, at her father Mudavadi's Mululu home in Vihiga County.

The lovebirds had been keeping details of their relationship a secret for a while and were dating for some time prior to the ceremony.

The glamourous wedding that oozed class and elegance saw the colour green dominate the African-themed wedding as the groom's men, who included Davidson Wakairu, the son of Jubilee Vice Chairman David Murathe, donned emerald green attire from the shirt to the pants.

The man and woman of the moment would steal the show, with Nyaga donning a black outfit head to toe with a touch of green, overflowing scurf-like coat detail. Maryanne on the other hand wore a lace-green dress which accentuated her curves.

Guests complimented her appearance by dotting signature tawny brown dresses with white front buttons beloved by Central Kenya women during Ruracio negotiations.

The couple's wedding brought the sleepy village of Mululu to a standstill as flashy cars and thousands of guests mesmerised the villagers as they arrived for the event. From the decor to seats and plates, glasses and cutlery, the wedding is said to have cost the two families an arm and a leg. 

Nyaga, a Kikuyu, married Maryanne, a Luhya, adding to the increasing scenarios of tribes intermarrying each other.

Maryanne has a glittering education and work experience. She graduated from the University of Sussex in Brighton, England with a Bachelor of Science in Psychology in 2018 before acquiring a Masters degree in Human Resource Management a year later from the same university.

CS for public service Moses Kuria (middle) with Transport CS Kipchumba Murkomen and Kikuyu MP Kimani Inchung'wah (right) during the wedding of Musalia Mudavadi's daughter Maryanne on October 28, 2023. /MOSES KURIA

Speaking to the press on Saturday, October 21, Mary Wanjiku, the deceased's mother, revealed that the lover had met her claiming that he was returning her lost phone, requesting her to meet with him near Gatundu Police Station.

According to Wanjiku, her daughter, Alice Wangechi, who had recently returned from school, agreed to meet with her lover, but it was during the meeting that the tragic stabbing occurred.

"Two months ago, her phone was stolen and she reported the matter to the police. So, when she received the call from her friend, she was excited and eager to retrieve her phone," she explained.

According to court documents obtained by Viral Tea, the CS, through law firm Daniel Ondabu and Company Advocates, lamented that owing to the abusive and erratic nature of her estranged husband, Stephen Ole Kudate, she, her children and the domestic workers have been living in mortal fear of their lives.

Tuya therefore wants the Children's Court based in Nairobi to issue an Antimolestation/Protection Order in favour of the aforementioned parties against Kudate, who is a former Majority leader of the Narok County Assembly.

"That this Application be certified as urgent and service of the same be dispensed with in the first instance. That owing to the Respondent's inordinate delay in entering appearance and or filing his response, the matter be certified as ready for hearing and dispensed with at the earliest in the interests of justice and safety and well-being of the Applicant her, children and domestic workers.

"That direction be given herein as to the date and time and place of hearing of this cause. That the costs of this application be in the cause," read the notice of motion in part.

The CS further expressed her willingness to proceed with the hearing of the matter at the earliest in the interest of her children.

She further expressed a strong belief that Kudate is a legitimate threat to her well-being, that of her children and domestic workers, thus the orders ought to be granted in the interests of justice.

According to the CS, the relationship with her husband was frustrating because of the continuous refusal of the her husband to take responsibility towards upkeep and maintenance of the children as well as various incidences of violence, abuse and infidelity.

She said that she has been left as the sole bread winner, providing all of the children's basic needs including food, shelter, education and clothing.

"The defendant has instead adopted a very casual approach to the financial needs of the children, contributing nothing to school fees, clothing and other basic needs," she noted.

In her supporting affidavit, Tuya lamented that despite service of summons upon Kudate on September 1, 2023, and acknowledgement of receipt of service by him, Kudate has not filed and nor served her with any documents nor entered appearance to that effect and instead continued to issue threats against her.

She also accused Kudate of failing to file or serve her with any documents and not entering appearacne to that effect, thus continuing to pose a threat to her safety as well as that of her children.

Tuya therefore wants the court to grant her actual, primary, physical and legal custody, care and control of her two children as well as further orders for Kudate to have limited but reasonable supervised visitation rights and access over the two minors, in the event the court is constrained to grant access and or visitation.

"The presence of the Plaintiff and or a trusted adult member of the family as chosen by the Plaintiff at all times during the Defendant's such supervised access for the safety of the minor children and the Plaintiff's assurance of the minor children's safety," added the documents.

She also wants the court to compel Kudate to pay Ksh225,000, which is half the amount of the school fees (Ksh450,000) needed for the two children.

Tuya also wants Ksh100,000 for the children's monthly entertainment needs, which is half of the Ksh200,000 for the same.

She is also seeking another Ksh100,000 to cater for the expense of maintaining the children and upkeep. 

"That the Court be pleased to issue a permanent injunction directed to and restraining the Defendant herein either by himself, his servants or agents from abusing the plaintiff and their children physically, emotionally, verbally or insulting, ridiculing and issuing threats of whatever nature by any means to the plaintiff and their children or interfering with her work place or any other place of work that she may be engaged and any place she resides or may reside, from going near or calling the plaintiff or interfering with her life," added part of the court documents. 

She also wants a permanent injunction issued against Kudate, either by himself, servants, agents and or/or representatives from accessing her and her children's peaceful enjoyment of her properties namely: residential houses in Kileleshwa Estate, Karen Estate in Nairobi,Naroosoru, Narok South; all being the Plaintiff's residences.

Tuya also wants the court to issue a permanent Antimolestation Order/Protection Order/Non-molestation Order directed to and restraining her estranged husband from accessingher homes, children's school or anywhere else except as shall be designated and supervised by the court.

Furthermore, she wants the court to order Kudate to pay the costs of this suit. 

Kudate was yet to respond to the lawsuit at the time of publishing, coming after they split in October 2020.

However, at Royal Media Services (RMS), tales of couples who work together in the media house giant and are married to each other are commonplace, despite the media itself being one of the world's most rigorous professions, from the long hours to the demanding, high-pressure environment. 

You might be familiar with the likes of Lulu Hassan and Rashid Abdalla, media couples who found love at RMS. Did you know that Citizen TV news anchor Wycliffe Orandi met his wife at the very same media house?

Speaking on Tuesday, September 5 in an interview with Cynthia Mwangi on the Behind The Mic show, Orandi disclosed that he met Sheila Achieng at the last place anyone would dare to look, the Human Resource (HR) department, a few months into his new job.

Citizen TV news anchor Wycliffe Orandi and his wife, Sheila Achieng during their wedding on September 7, 2019. /STANDARD DIGITAL

He told an astounded Mwangi that anyone can brew relationships in any department as long as you have that likeable character, as was his case, assuring that people were just human beings in their positions.

"We met here at work...she used to work in the HR department...if you're a friendly person and people like your vibe and everything, there's nothing you should be scared about...HR is just human beings

"It happened that we got to know each other then plans got underway and she left and I remained here, but I still visit the HR department and I still know a few people there," he revealed.

Orandi tied the knot to Achieng on September 7, 2019, at Christ Is The Answer Ministries (CITAM) church in Karen in a colourful wedding ceremony attended by, among others, close family members, friends and colleagues including; Mike Okinyi, Patrick Igunza and Hassan Mugambi.

The two lovebirds met at the RMS, where Wycliffe worked as a radio presenter at Hot 96, while Achieng was a deputy Human Resource Manager.

Wycliffe Orandi Profile

Orandi is a journalist with a passion for political, social and sports news. He has been in the media industry since 2006 when he graduated from Daystar University with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Communication – Electronic Media – and a Minor in Business Administration and Management.

He started working at Hope FM as a News Presenter, Reporter and Online Editor, before moving to Easy FM (now Nation FM) in 2009 as a News Presenter, and also the News Editor. He then ventured into TV, by joining K24 as a Prime Time Sports News Anchor and Reporter.

Orandi later joined Royal Media Services as a News Presenter on Hot 96 FM, before going back to TV at Citizen TV as a News Anchor. He is also a voice artist who was born and raised in Nairobi and loves watching movies and road trips.

Dating At The Workplace

Psychology experts reveal that one of the reasons coworkers fall for each other is that they spend a tremendous amount of time at work and, if one puts people in close proximity, working together, having open, vulnerable conversations.

Before you act on your feelings, it’s important to think through the risks, and there are quite a few. Of course, there’s the chance that the relationship won’t work out and that there will be hurt feelings on one or both sides.

There are also potential conflicts of interest, a dual relationship principle referred to as an “ironclad rule” in psychotherapy that therapists cannot have any relationships with patients beyond their professional ones. 

The same rule however does not apply between coworkers given that many people are close friends with colleagues, for example, but having multiple relationships with someone creates potential conflicts of interest that can be hard to resolve.

A couple in an office. /FILE

"I always say there is nothing wrong with that...as long as it doesn't affect your work and it doesn't affect you guys as well, everyone stays in their department and you meet after work," Orandi advises.

"If you are mature people, you'll understand each other and know how to work around it. You'll sit down and have a small meeting saying what you don't like and what you like."

Your professionalism may be called into question, especially if people don’t see your motives for entering the relationship as positive.

Some colleagues may think you’re giving your romantic partner preferential treatment or vice versa. Moreover, having a relationship with someone higher up in the organization can create an alternate explanation for why you’re succeeding.

Rules of Dating Coworkers

1. Take it slow by being friends inside and outside the office before you make any moves
2. Know the formal policy by checking the company handbook to find out if there are any policies related to interoffice relationships. Even if there are no explicit policies against it, find out how upper management feels about office romances.
3. Avoid your boss or direct reports, especially if you're thinking about pursuing an office romance, consider your rank or position, as well as theirs. Dating your boss or your direct report can be particularly dangerous for a variety of reasons.
4. Keep things quiet early on. People either don't care, will think it's obnoxious or inappropriate, or will get jealous.
5. You and your new partner need to agree on some ground rules and come up with a plan for how you will keep it professional and stay within written or unwritten rules.
6. Be professional at all times as you may have the burden of overcompensating with professionalism and keeping an artificial distance, which can be an awkward strain
7. Be sensitive and respectful to others. Focus on work and do your job especially if you want to mitigate gossip.

The event featured an ensemble guest list consisting of National Assembly Majority whip Sylvanus Osoro as well as Citizen TV journalists including Managing Editor Linus Kaikai, news anchors Trevor Ombija and Rashid Abdalla and crime reporter Hassan Mugambi.

According to an invite card seen by Viral Tea, the event referred to as a Nikah in Islamic faith, began at 12:00 noon, the card having been used to access the exclusive event.

Citizen TV journalist Ayub Abdikadir (fourth left and bottom left) poses for a photo with his colleagues and friends. /TWITTER

The Nikah is a religious ceremony for a Muslim couple to be legally wed under Islamic law, and is when the couple officially says “I accept.”

It’s a prophetic tradition and the only permissible way that a man and woman can be married. What's more, it’s not permitted for a couple to be intimate without a Nikah, so the ceremony legitimizes the relationship in front of God.

Faisal Ahmed (Citizen TV journalist), Ombija, Osoro and Mugambi took photos with the groom of the day, donning cream white robes.

"We all showed up for a brother on his big day," Ombija posted.

"I take this opportunity to congratulate my friend Ayub Abdikadir on his wedding today," stated Babu Owino, Embakasi East MP, who missed the ceremony.

"The holy book of Q'uran advises Muslims to marry and that marriage is a way by which one leads a virtuous life."

Ayub Abdikadir Rise To The Top

The Citizen TV morning show host was one of the Royal Media Services (RMS) station's headline signings from K24 as RMS was undertaking a raiding spree on three rivals in preparation for the coverage of the August 9 general elections.

Ayub joined Citizen TV around the same time as Serfine Achieng who was poached from KBC... and also moderated the gubernatorial debate alongside him. During the elections, he was deployed for various assignments within and outside the newsroom as the station flexed its might in terms of election coverage.

He currently hosts Citizen TV's breakfast show titled Day Break and became a senior reporter featured in various prime-time news bulletins.

Guests arrive at Ayub Abdikadir's wedding at Ole Sereni. /TWITTER

Citizen TV's Trevor Ombija (left) and MP Sylvanus Osoro at Ole Sereni. /TWITTER

Waithera in a thread spoke highly of the said man whom she happened to stumble upon on a Wednesday evening some few months ago when he parked right next to her and entered a pharmacy in a huff.

Admitting that she was under the influence following her adventures in Tigoni, Limuru, Kiambu County, Kihara beautifully described the man as a well-off individual with fine taste in luxury depicted by the kind of car she indicated he was driving.

A person stalking with his laptop. /FILE

"I'd parked at that new arcade near UNEP on Limuru road minding my business when this gorgeous man parked right next to me and dashed into the pharmacy real quick. He was driving this pearl-white VW (Volkswagen) Touareg and given how he parked, he's used to getting away with things phew!

"5'9 at best, medium build, not dark not light, bald, frameless spectacles (the ones newly monied men get from abroad to make a statement), sexy man," her flowery tweets read.

Though rubbishing the assumption that he was a lawyer owing to his corporate outfit of the day, Kihara added that she memorised his number plate as he drove off, committing not to look him up unless she couldn't stop thinking about him, until...

"Two days later this fool was still on my mind for some reason and I could somehow still remember his number plate so I did this lil invasive but allowable thing okay? I NTSA'd (searched on NTSA website) the number plate and got a name.

"Remember that clean corporate look? yeah he had to have a LinkedIn account so i keyed in his name on linkedIn (fingers crossed) and there he was!" she exclaimed.

Given that she had not used her LinkedIn account for a while, she requested to connect with him and stayed off the app out of anxiety that she did the one thing that was prevalent in her recent past.

Kihara would then message the man on LinkedIn and after he didn't respond, she realized that she had not included her phone number which she promptly did, afterwhich he messaged her on WhatsApp.

"I was stunned! Like, I truly didn't think he'd ever get in touch! Tell me why we did a two hour + phone call (on the first call) and he called again first thing in the morning, has been texting all day and sneaking quick calls uuuugh!" she narrated in seeming disgust.

The thread depicting Kihara's unorthodox methods of winning over a man she clearly had a crush on, quickly went viral with a section of Kenyans online lauding praises on her for her steadfastness in pursuing a man and her relentlessness in finally nailing down a crush.

Many on X, however, were critical of Kihara's methods and expressed fear regarding their data safety especially on government platforms, which were not too long ago compromised in a series of cyber attacks from a hacker group in Sudan.

Some even lamented how easy it is, for example, for someone to simply look you up on the NTSA database, find your name, look up your digital footprint and actually find you, even though the whole process costs Ksh550 on the TIMSVRL (Transport Integrated Management System) portal.

In Kenyan law, stalking is considered harassment and as such falls under domestic violence. Whether online or offline, stalking can also cause fear, constant worrying, and anxiety, and if it continues for a long time, it could trigger a mental illness.

People waiting for services at NTSA offices. /FILE

Waruguru and her husband, Peter Waweru were joined by close friends during their getaway in Dallas, a modern metropolis city in the American state of Texas.

The former Chief Administrative Secretary (CAS) nominee rocked a dazzling pink dress with leg stockings to spice up her look while Waweru donned a black blazer and trousers to match as well as a cream-white shirt.

Former Laikipia Woman Rep Cate Waruguru poses with her husband, Peter Waweru when she was treated to a sumptuous dinner to celebrate her 37th birthday in style. /CATE WARUGURU

In her appreciation post on Facebook, Waruguru appreciated her husband for the romantic gesture as well as the love and support he has given her over the years.

The star-studded event was held at the luxurious Villa Rosa Kempinski Hotel in Westlands, Nairobi County.

The Azimio la Umoja leader, who was out of the country, had flown back to celebrate the wedding anniversary as well as accord Ida a birthday celebration that would forever live in her memory and that of her doting husband.

Raila Odinga with his wife, Ida during their 50th wedding anniversary and Ida's 73rd birthday celebration on August 24, 2023. /RAILA ODINGA

In an interesting fashion, the event was also used to celebrate the birthday of Raila Odinga Jr.'s kid who was turning two years old. Odinga Jr. was alongside East African Legislative Assembly (EALA) MP Winnie Odinga and Raila's grandchildren were also in attendance.

Among the politicians invited to the special event included Narc Kenya Party leader Martha Karua, Siaya Governor James Orengo and Likoni MP Mishi Mboko, Wiper Leader Kalonzo Musyoka, and Embakasi East MP Babu Owino among others.

Siaya Governor James Orengo, Homa Bay Senator Otieno Kajwang and Lawyer Danstan Omari who has acted for many Azimio leaders, were also present.

Popular musicians Esther Akoth (Akothee) and Prince Indah were among the guest performers for the night event that went minutes past midnight.

Embakasi East MP, Babu Owino and Nairobi Senator, Edwin Sifuna, at Raila and Ida Odinga's 50th wedding anniversary and Ida's 73rd birthday celebration on August 24, 2023. /RAILA ODINGA

This is after she, on Saturday, August 19, tied the knot with her long-term partner, Nyaga Karanja, a lawyer, in a flashy traditional ceremony popularly known as ruracio, at her father Mudavadi's Mululu home in Vihiga County.

The lovebirds have been keeping details of their relationship a secret for a while and had been dating for some time prior to the ceremony.

The bride, Maryanne Mudavadi, her lover, Nyaga Karanja, and groom's lineup during the traditional wedding at Mululu in Vihiga on Saturday, August 19, 2023. /PHOTO

The glamourous wedding that oozed class and elegance saw the colour green dominate the African-themed wedding as the groom's men, who included Davidson Wakairu, the son of Jubilee Vice Chairman David Murathe, donned emerald green attire from the shirt to the pants.

The groom's lineup consisted of his brothers, Musalia's sons Michael and Moses as well as Wakairu, who has been best friends with Nyaga for over 20 years.

The man and woman of the moment would steal the show, with Nyaga donning a black outfit head to toe with a touch of green, overflowing scurf-like coat detail. Maryanne on the other hand wore a lace-green dress which accentuated her curves.

Guests complimented her appearance by dotting signature tawny brown dresses with white front buttons beloved by Central Kenya women during Ruracio negotiations.

The couple's wedding brought the sleepy village of Mululu to a standstill as flashy cars and thousands of guests mesmerised the villagers as they arrived for the event. From the decor to seats and plates, glasses and cutlery, the wedding is said to have cost the two families an arm and a leg. 

Nyaga, a Kikuyu, married Maryanne, a Luhya, adding to the increasing scenarios of tribes intermarrying each other.

The veteran politician, who was in attendance alongside his wife, Tessie, was jovial at his daughter's wedding, and at some point, he took to the dance floor to entertain guests.

Mudavadi, armed with a maroon notebook in his left hand and a stylish staff stick in his right hand, danced vigorously to a popular Luhya hit, leaving guests cheering as he and Tessie presented their daughter to their son-in-law.

Nyaga, a lawyer by profession, is reported to have recently developed an interest in politics but it remains to be seen whether or not he would vie for a seat in the 2027 general elections.

Maryanne, on the other hand, has a glittering education and work experience. She graduated from the University of Sussex in Brighton, England with a Bachelor of Science in Psychology in 2018 before acquiring a Masters degree in Human Resource Management a year later from the same university.

She has a license in Entrepreneurship in Emerging Economies from the Harvard Business School and another in Leadership and Organisational Behaviour from the same institution.

She worked as a volunteer in the Mudavadi Memorial Foundation Trust (MMFT) for four months where she helped with office tasks including taking messages, scanning documents and answering phone inquiries.

“Through MMFTF breast cancer advocacy program I guided beneficiaries of the program to health facilities for their continued support. At the community level, I provided advocacy material relating to screening and thereafter,” reads her LinkedIn profile.

She also volunteered at the National Assembly Lady Spouses Association, Kenya (NALSA-K), which sponsors a primary school in Olkalau for children affected by displacement due to various factors.

Maryanne worked as an intern for two companies from May 2014 to January 2022. She now serves as a recruiter at a local bank.

Daniel Munywoki Wambua had petitioned the court to unfreeze the funds so that he can secure them for payment of dowry to marry his future wife.

Through his lawyer, Danstan Omari, Wambua claimed that EACC had incorrectly flagged his account which was set up specifically for dowry payments and to which his family and friends had contributed.

He added that he was compelled by tradition to fulfil his dowry payment promise and has yet to do so despite the celebration because of the respondent's false claim that the dowry payment account is a proceed of crime.

EACC on Thursday, August 10 obtained preservation orders from the High Court freezing the Ksh21.2 million amassed in four months by Wambua, reasonably suspecting him to have acquired and accumulated illicit wealth way beyond his known legitimate sources of income through embezzlement of public funds, conflict of interest, bribery, and abuse of office.

The High Court granted the preservation orders to ensure that the money is not dissipated, transferred, or withdrawn thereby rendering the intended recovery suit nugatory.

The Commission’s strategy for recovery of unexplained wealth or corruptly acquired assets is aimed at extinguishing the motivation for corrupt conduct and ensuring that the corrupt are not allowed to enjoy their loot.

In the last 5 years, EACC revealed that it had recovered and returned to the public stolen assets worth Ksh23.84 billion and averted a loss of Ksh34.5 billion in public funds through the disruption of corruption networks and ongoing transactions.

Currently, recovery cases for assets worth over Ksh42 billion are going on in various courts across the country.

Williamson Omworo had in 2018 sued Beta Healthcare International Limited, the Kenya Bureau of Standards (KEBS) and the Kenya Revenue Authority (KRA) over the quality of the condoms he used while in action.

He accused the state agencies of failing to protect Kenyan consumers from the risks of unwanted pregnancies and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) by branding the consignment of Zoom Condoms with the quality mark of assurance.

Omworo had presented the evidence, being the used condom, in court, but the High Court dismissed it explaining that availing the used packets of condoms means nothing as one can easily collect the from dustbins of entertainment joints any day.

Outside the Milimani Law Courts. /FILE

The court also found that the woman whom Omworo had slept with when the condom allegedly burst did not testify.

"It neither proves that Omworo used the condoms in the packets presented on the material day nor that the condom that burst while allegedly being used by Omworo was in any of those packets," ruled Justice Lawrence Mugambi.

Omworo claimed that he got infected with a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) as a result of using the low-quality condom, which he said was passed onto his wife later on, a matter he believed would not have occurred if the condoms were of good quality.

The wife had later left the union after learning that the husband had been philandering, a break up he later claimed had led to his mental breakdown that made him turn to alcohol, which resultantly cost him his job.

He added that he was a sexually active man and a frequent traveller between Kisii and Nairobi. He claimed that his rights were flouted by Beta Healthcare's supposed market malpractice by pushing condoms he said were substandard and demanded compensation for the amount of losses suffered.

He claimed Beta was responsible for the sale and marketing of 'Zoom condoms' which were described on its website as 'latex male condoms, electronically tested and hermetically sealed for maximum protection'

The Zoom condoms were sold in three different variants, that is, Zoom condoms for maximum pleasure, zoom chocolate scented' to give you that attractive scene to light up your moments' and Zoom regular 'for the man who knows what he wants

He added that he was fascinated by those condoms and would purchase and use them on different women that he had sexual intercourse with within Nairobi, Naivasha, Nakuru, Kericho and Kisii.

He wanted the court to direct KEBS to recall all brands of Zoom condoms currently being sold by Beta Healthcare in the Kenyan market and the condoms to be subjected to verification of conformity to the Kenyan standards or approved specifications in their country of origin or to re-inspect the same at the port of entry.

The court however ruled that “This is a man who admits that he is married. That notwithstanding, he says he cheated on his wife with several women, in different towns in various counties. Can any court rely on the sole evidence of such Character without corroboration?” while terming Omworo as a man whose quality of honesty was shaky.

A past study based on a convenience sample of 177 couples who each used 11 condoms found that 103 condoms (5.3%) broke before or during intercourse and 67 condoms (3.5%) slipped off during sex.

A packet of condoms. /BBC

The highly-anticipated event, whose photos were shared all over social media platforms and seen by Viral Tea, captured Shollei donning a beautiful flowy red dress, and a black clutch bag and accessorised the look with a Maasai neckpiece. 

Horn donned a long, traditional navy blue kaftan shirt, cream trousers, black shoes and a beige hat as well as a traditional cane as an accessory.

Gladys Shollei with her husband, Neil Horn, during their exclusive wedding ceremony on August 7, 2023. /FACEBOOK

The traditional engagement was a testament to the couple's love and commitment, marking the beginning of their journey together.

It was attended by close friends and family, among them lawyer Donald Kipkorir and Health Cabinet Secretary (CS) Susan Nakhumicha.

During an interview with Kiss FM, the Kai Wangu hitmaker claimed that she is still eligible to be with someone else as Arrow Bwoy was yet to pay the required dowry to her parents before tying the knot with her.

Not willing to mince her words, Mukami argued that their relationship was temporary and that focus can be shifted to other individuals elsewhere as a way of exploring their options before deciding whom he or she will spend eternity with.

“I am single as far as I know until the father of my child pays my dowry. It's a fact. I'm not married, he has not paid any dowry to my parents. He is with me on credit.

Collage of Nadia Mukami and Arrow Bwoy. /FILE

"I'm still in the market. We need to tell our men that if you have not paid the dowry, then one leg is here and the other is elsewhere," she said. 

The singer emphasized the importance of traditional customs and the significance of dowry payment in establishing a committed relationship, adding that without the formal acknowledgement through dowry payment, she views herself as only a girlfriend, not a wife.

Mukami challenged Arrow Bwoy to see to it that the dowry he pays should be commensurate with her value in terms of the size of her brand and academic qualifications.

“He should marry me officially. I am free, and if you really want me to say I am married, you have my parent’s address. I am a lady who is very learned and is very high, and I am a brand.

"My father invested so much in me. I did not go to schools where people eat Githeri, so the dowry is high, and he needs to invest in this babe," she went on.

Back in 2022, Arrow Bwoy did an interview where he jokingly said he was planning on taking sugarcane to his in-laws as bride price.

You Can Date But Still, See Other People

Viral Tea takes a look at why Mukami's argument holds water. According to a past report by The Washington Post, being single doesn’t mean you’re entirely unattached and if you’re not in a committed relationship, you are probably talking to multiple romantic interests.

The woman identified as Agrippina Mulupi, a resident of Emukoyani village in Butsotso ward, reportedly lived with her lover for three years and the husband, Boniface Moi Muyeshi, according to villagers, demanded that his competitor be chased away before he could return to his wife.

Mulupi revealed that she had persevered for five years after Muyeshi disappeared in 2006 and opted to enter into a new relationship so that she could support her children.

A photo collage of a Kakamega Couple, husband Boniface Moi Muyeshi (right) and wife Agrippina Mulupi (left) on Wednesday, August 2, 2023. /CITIZEN DIGITAL

She added that her new partner was supportive to the point of helping her buy food and pay fees for her children. Together, they had sired a child whom she stated that the now-former lover is committed to supporting.

"I had forgot and told myself that he had left. I stayed for five years and said I had tolerated enough. I found someone who was not from Kenya but from Rwanda," Mulupi told the media.

"He was helpful in my life and used to take my children to school and pay school fees and even when my child was in college he never lacked anything, the lover was the one who was sending him money. He was also budgeting well for the house."

Mulupi added that the return of her husband came as a shock to her but she had to accept the new reality.

She further noted that she had instructed her lover to leave out of respect for her husband as he was staying in their matrimonial home.

"I was not hiding him, I stayed with him and told him that it was not in a bad way that I was chasing him away, but the owner of the house came back and we had to give him respect because this is his house. The lover listened to me and planned to look for his own house and for sure, right now he is staying at his own house," Mulupi added.

She warned that her husband would not be able to cater to the upbringing of the child whom she sired with the lover/

"I told him I sired a child with him but I don't know if my husband would educate the child. He accepted and said that he would deal with matters regarding the child and he would help me when I lacked. 

"We understood each other and now we should give my husband some respect," she went on.

As a show of a good gesture, the woman embraced her heartbroken 42-year-old husband and publicly declared her allegiance to him, promising to rekindle their memories. 

Patrick Mwangi appeared before the Machakos Law Court on Monday, July 31, having been accused of stabbing Eunice Syokau to death in Mwala, Machakos County.

Mwangi, who was reportedly in a relationship with Syokau, had lured her to the supermarket under the guise of a shopping trip while really, the motive was to kill her.

Patrick Mwangi, who was captured stabbing a woman on July 22, 2023, in a local supermarket in Machakos County. /CITIZEN DIGITAL

The two had reportedly separated for reasons not known in the immediate term, with the Saturday attack viewed as Mwangi's act of revenge.

In the footage, Mwangi could be seen conversing with Syokau as she put the shopping basket down, the two being on an isolated aisle in the supermarket.

Mwangi was cunningly concealing a knife, meticulously removing and returning it to his pocket to avoid detection from other shoppers and supermarket staff.

The attack itself happened in a flash and in a cold-blooded fashion as he stabbed Syokau's chest, gravely injuring her and leaving her to fight for her life.

Journalists based in Machakos confirmed the incident to Viral Tea, which occurred on Saturday, July 22 at around 10.38 am in a terrifying act of violence.

The man, who was reportedly in a relationship with the woman, had lured the woman to the supermarket under the guise of a shopping trip while really, the motive was to kill her.

A screengrab of a man stabbing his alleged ex-girlfriend at a supermarket in Machakos on July 2023. /TWITTER.BENJ

The two had reportedly separated for reasons not known in the immediate term, with the Saturday attack viewed as the man's act of revenge.

In the footage, the man could be seen conversing with the woman as she puts the shopping basket down, the two being on an isolated aisle in the supermarket.

The man was cunningly concealing a knife, meticulously removing and returning it to his pocket to avoid detection from other shoppers and supermarket staff.

The attack itself happened in a flash and in a cold-blooded fashion as the man stabbed the woman's chest, gravely injuring her and leaving her to fight for her life.

After committing the heinous act, the man tried to escape the scene, leaving behind a trail of chaos but was cornered at the supermarket entrance, where he was captured by the CCTV cameras in a helpless state, a contrast to the attempted murderous act he had committed earlier.

Tragically, despite immediate efforts to rush the woman to the hospital, she succumbed to her injuries.

Netizens questioned how the man managed to gain access to the supermarket with a knife amidst tight security where customers are frisked before entry.

Also in question was the effectiveness of the CCTV cameras in major establishments which are largely unattended and only come into use in the wake of a major accident.

The incident added to cases of crimes involving passion in the country which have been on the rise across the country, many of which have been attributed to mental health issues.

Counsellors, medics, and psychologists advise that you can always reach out for help when experiencing any mental health issues. Call Kenya Red Cross toll-free hotline, 1199, for support.

Silhouette of a couple fighting. /iSTOCK

Gatanga sub-county police commander Lawrence Njeru told the press that the pastor, 43 years old Joseph Kariuki Wanjiru, was in the company of a woman who was alleged to be his lover before the incident occurred on Saturday morning, July 8.

A subsequent police report revealed that the woman was a 32-year-old working as Kariuki's colleague in the same church.

"One Joseph Kariuki Wanjiku a k/m/a aged 43yrs old, a Catholic priest at Archdiocese of Nairobi and a farmer at Mangu area checked in at the said hotel together with his girlfriend who also happens to be her colleague at the workplace in Ruai," it read in part.

The couple had spent the night in the hotel only to fall sick the following morning. The priest was reported to have consumed chicken and some liquor at the three-star hotel, all at a cost of Ksh6,000, on Friday night before retiring for the night.

Around 8 am the following morning, the woman was said to have alerted the hotel's management that Kariuki was feeling dizzy and unconscious, which prompted a visit to a nearby hospital.

"They then rushed him to Kenol hospital where he was pronounced dead on arrival while still aboard his motor vehicle Toyota Harrier black in colour," the report further read.

The lady who was accompanied by several workers of the hotel then headed to the Samuru police post where they notified the police about the incident before recording a statement.

Njeru further noted that they found the deceased’s body in the back of the vehicle half-covered with a blanket.

“The body was fresh but had foam coming out of the mouth. We made inquiries and discovered that priests’ bodies cannot be preserved in a normal mortuary so we made arrangements to have it transported to Nairobi, accompanied by our officers.

“We interviewed his companion and she told us she had had an affair with the priest for the last six years,” stated the police boss, who added that investigations were launched to establish the cause of his death.

Further reports indicated that the deceased was a frequent customer for two years and despite having good intentions, had affirmed that his identity and occupation be kept a secret.

The data revealed that 50 per cent of currently married men aged 15–49 who earn cash report that they decide jointly with their wives on how their cash earnings are used, while 43 per cent make such decisions alone.

40 per cent of currently married women with husbands who have earnings reported in the survey that their husband makes decisions alone on how his cash earnings are used and 52 per cent reported that this decision is made jointly.

"The percentage of married women who reported that they make decisions jointly with their husband about how their husband’s cash earnings are used decreases with their number of living children, from 62% among those with no living child to 43% for those with five or more children," stated the report in part.

The percentage of married women who reported that they make decisions jointly with their husbands about how their husband’s cash earnings are used was revealed to increase with the level of education, from 40 per cent among those with no education to 61 per cent for those with more than secondary education. 

The percentage of married women who reported that they make decisions jointly with their husbands about how their husband’s cash earnings are used increases with the wealth quintile, from 44% of women in the lowest quintile to 56% in the highest quintile.

In contrast, the percentage of married men who report that they make decisions jointly with their wives about the use of their own earnings tends to decrease with the wealth quintile. 

"The highest percentage of currently married women who reported that they make decisions jointly with their husbands about how their husband’s cash earnings are used were in Marsabit (85%), Makueni (70%) and Isiolo counties (70%)," added the report.

In comparison, 55 per cent of currently married women make decisions alone on how their cash earnings are used, while 40 per cent decide jointly with their husbands. This is owing to the fact that seven out of 10 (71 per cent) women earn less than their husbands and nine per cent earn more than their husbands.

"The percentage of currently married women who make decisions alone about how their cash earnings are used increases with their number of living children, from 53% among those with one living child to 61% for those with five or more children.

"58 per cent of women who reside in urban areas make their own decisions about the use of their earnings compared with 53% of women in rural areas," added the report.

By county, the percentage of women who decide alone on how their earnings are used is highest in Kisii (79%), Busia (75%), and Vihiga (73%) counties; and lowest in West Pokot (26%), Kitui (31%) and Lamu counties (35%).

Women & Men Owning Assets

The report also went on to reveal the differences between women's and men's ownership of assets, with women's access to land and property with secure tenure being central to their economic empowerment because it serves as a base for income as well as collateral for credit.

In the report, respondents were asked if they own a house, agricultural land, and non-agricultural land alone, jointly with someone else, both alone and jointly, or not at all. Five per cent of women own a house alone and 28% own a house jointly with their husband or someone else while among men, 35% own a house alone and nine per cent own a house jointly with their wife or someone else.

Overall, 33% of women compared with 45% of men own a house either alone or jointly with their spouse or someone else.

"Three per cent of women own agricultural land alone and 22% own agricultural land jointly with their husbands or someone else. Among men, 24% own agricultural land alone and 7% own agricultural land jointly with their wives or someone else.

"One per cent of women own non-agricultural land alone and 5% own non-agricultural jointly with their husband or someone else. Among men, 6% own non-agricultural land alone, while fewer than 1% own non-agricultural land jointly with their wives or someone else. Overall, 27% of women and 34% of men own land (either agricultural or non-agricultural) alone or jointly," added the report.

House ownership for women in rural areas (44%) was found to be more than double that of women in urban areas (17%), whereas house ownership for men in rural areas (55%) is less than twice that for those in urban areas (29%).

This is according to the Kenya Demographic and Health Survey 2022 (KDHS) findings published by the Kenya National Bureau of Statistics (KNBS) on Monday, July 3.

In terms of women, Wajir County was found to have the most number of women who have never had intercourse at 32.2 per cent.

This was followed by Garissa at 31.7 per cent, Vihiga at 26.1 per cent and Mandera at 25.2 per cent, with the top 4 counties, except Vihiga, making up most of the North Eastern region.

A couple in bed. /FILE

Kwale, Isiolo and Kilifi came in fifth, sixth and seventh with 24.8 per cent (Kwale & Isiolo) and 22.4 per cent. Busia, Nyandarua and Kitui rounded off the top 10 for women who have never had intercourse.

For men, the North Eastern region dominated again, with those in Mandera, Garissa and Wajir claiming the top three at 44.7 per cent, 42.6 per cent and 36.3 per cent. Tana River and Kakamega (31.1 per cent and 31 per cent respectively) rounded off the top five.

Busia came sixth at 29.5 per cent, with Siaya, Lamu, Vihiga and Nyandarua completing the top 10.

Men & Women Having Sex Within 4 Weeks & 12 Months

The report in comparison shed light on the percentage of women and men in the country who have had sex within the last month. The top county in this category for women went to Narok at 57.6 per cent while for men, West Pokot emerged top at 69.6 per cent.

Across the country, 48.4 per cent of women and 50 per cent of men between ages 15-49 have had sexual intercourse with a person who was neither their husband, wife, or co-habiting partner in the last month.

Narok County again recorded the highest percentage (43 per cent) of men who had two or more sexual partners in the last 12 months, while Kirinyaga, Kericho and Garissa counties had the lowest percentage with 2 per cent each.

Murang’a County recorded the highest percentage (11 per cent) of women who had two or more sexual partners in the last 12 months, while counties with the lowest percentage are Mandera, Tana River and Kwale counties with less than one per cent each.

Nationwide, 19 per cent of women and 35 per cent of men between ages 15-49 have had sexual intercourse with a person who was neither their husband, wife, or co-habiting partner in the last 12 months.

Protection & Choice Of Partners

37 per cent of women have used protection during intercourse while the male percentage stands at 68 per cent. The percentage of women within the same bracket increases depending on the wealth quintile as 14 per cent interacted with partners from the lower quantile while 22 per cent chose those in the highest quintile.

The event that took place at the Kenyatta International Convention Centre (KICC) in Nairobi witnessed the union of the newlyweds, Nicholas and Judith, who became the first couple to receive their marriage certificate through the innovative digital platform.

At first, the assistant registrar had asked the groom to remove the veil to confirm that the woman opposite him whom he was poised to spend eternity with was his wife, in front of hundreds of pairs of eyes watching in celebration.

Gachagua set the stage for his comical narration of courting Dorcas while giving his speech in front of invited guests during the event held at the Safari Park Hotel in Nairobi.

He jokingly told off National Assembly Leader of Majority, Kimani Ichung'wah who was earlier chest-thumping regarding schooling at Alliance for his high school education.

"President you and I need to reconcile with Kimani Ichung'wah because he has not been very nice to us. He was in Alliance High School.

DP Rigathi Gachagua and his wife, Pastor Dorcas Rigathi, at the National Prayer Breakfast at Safari Park Hotel, Nairobi on June 7, 2023. /DPPS

"Anytime we have an occasion and he is allowed to speak, he tries to intimidate the president and me even though we are his seniors just because he was in Alliance High School," expressed Gachagua. 

The second-in-command however turned the heat on Ichung'wah, boasting to him and the whole crowd regarding his flirting game with Alliance Girls students, which he used to win over Pastor Dorcas.

"Now you, my brother Kimani Ichung'wah, even if you were at Alliance and I wasn't there, respect me a little bit. I'm the one who visited your Alliance, at Alliance Girls, and confused somebody's daughter. Nikaweka box (I won her over) and we are now married for almost 35 years," Gachagua bragged.

Pastor Dorcas did not take his narrative lying down, and as she had already spoken in front of the audience, she sent Senate Speaker Amason Kingi, who was scheduled to give his vote of thanks, to set the record straight on her behalf, thus avoiding breaking protocol.

"Before I move the vote of thanks, allow me to, on a very light note, be the advocate of Pastor Dorcas Rigathi because she doesn't have a right of reply, having already spoken. When the Deputy President spoke while he was standing before us, he stated that "aliingiza box msichana kutoka Alliance (successfully courted an Alliance Girls student) who is Dorcas Gachagua.

"She whispered to me that now that you're going to speak there and I'm not going to speak, please, go set the record straight. According to Mama Dorcas, yeye ndio alimuingiza box Deputy President, so again Alliance wins," addressed Kingi amidst Dorcas and the attendees erupting in laughter.

It is not the first time Gachagua has reminisced on the times he met Pastor Dorcas across different scenarios in their youth. 

On December 16, 2022, while speaking during the 52nd graduation ceremony at the Kenyatta University (KU) in Nairobi where he was the chief guest, Gachagua opened up on a deal with President William Ruto, among others on which university in Kenya they would wind up getting their future spouses from.

According to them, and according to word on the street at the time, any man who wanted a good woman to build a future with had to join KU.

To prove this, he gave an account of how he met Pastor Dorcas Rigathi at the institution and used tricks up his sleeves to romantically win over her.

Nation Media Group (NMG)'s Managing Editor in charge of Audiences and Engagement, Oliver Mathenge on Monday, June 5 announced that he is off the singles' market.

Mathenge took to Instagram to share the exciting news with his followers that he proposed to his girlfriend, who was also his best friend.

The digital media guru and his fiancée, whose name has been withheld for privacy reasons, had travelled to Tsavo National Park for a safari getaway over the weekend where he popped the magic question.

Oliver Mathenge posing with the engagement ring during a proposal to his girlfriend as posted on June 5, 2023. /INSTAGRAM.OLIVER MATHENGE

“And so, this weekend, my best friend became my fiancée. There’s no one else I’d rather do life with because my dreams continue to come to life with each step that I take with you,” he captioned.

He took a photo of the ring tucked inside a little box and overlooking the exquisite sunset rays glistening over the national park brimming with natural beauty and enchantment.

Speaking during the thanksgiving service of Environment Cabinet Secretary Soipan Tuya in Narok, the Head of State lauded Mbarire for her work as the chairperson of his United Democratic Alliance (UDA) party as well as her running of affairs in Embu County.

Ruto noted that during his conversation with the man, he took a glance at his request for Mbarire's number and cornered him regarding his motive, to which the man went on to ask about her relationship status.

Embu Governor, Cecily Mbarire speaking during a church service in Narok County on June 4, 2023. /WILLIAM RUTO

"You have heard that our party chairman is a beautiful woman named Cecily Mbarire and you have heard what she said. So that you plan ahead of yourselves, go and talk to her properly.

"I was seated somewhere and a man asked me to give him Mbarire's phone number. I looked at him and told him whether he would like to vie and he said no. Is she married?" Ruto narrated as he and the crowd burst into laughter.

The President publicly told him off by reminding him that Mbarire was taken.

"Please, that is someone's wife, so you young men leave that story alone, if you're looking for contacts, it is because you want to vie in the elections. Leave alone other things," he rebuked him.

Mbarire is married to businessman Dennis Apaa and introduced him to the crowd during her swearing-in ceremony held at the University of Embu on Thursday, August 25, 2022, temporarily breaking his chain of keeping a low profile.

Ruto's Warning To MPs Rejecting Finance Bill

During the same address in Narok, Ruto dressed down members of parliament who would oppose the government's Finance Bill, suggesting that they vote for the controversial bill in Parliament in an open ballot.

The Head of State expressed his desire in knowing the identities of the politicians who would vote against the Bill, adding that Kenyans ought to know the leaders who oppose the Bill providing youth opportunities yet they were voted for to create the same.

Ruto singled out the Azimio la Umoja coalition over politicising the Bill owing to their stance in the opposition. In his view, every leader agrees that the housing levy proposed in the Finance Bill, 2023, is good for the country.

“Stop all the politicking around the housing levy. Even those in the opposition love the housing plan and if Azimio was in power, they would be saying what I am saying.

“We need to pass this bill so Kenya can develop. There are some suggestions that MPs should disclose how they voted when the bill is tabled in parliament, but personally, I am waiting to see any MP who will shut down that bill,” said the president.

Turning to critics, Ruto stated that “Those telling us to hold back on the Housing levy need to be told Ngojea ngojea huumiza matumbo.”

Further, Ruto pointed out that many of the leaders were benefiting from mortgages drawn from taxes paid by Kenyans through their salaries.

“As a leader, you are already getting a mortgage due to the taxes paid by the people of Kenya. Why would you deny these young people that opportunity? Is it not right for us to know who will vote against the bill?

"Those who are rejecting the bill are only doing so because they had been voted in those leadership positions by the people. I am waiting to hear their explanation on why they will vote against it," he vowed.

Deputy President Rigathi Gachagua on his part warned that MPs who oppose the Finance Bill should not expect any funds for projects such as roads in their constituencies.

“There is a lot of incitement around this whole Finance Bill issue. I was in Kitui yesterday and their MP spoke about cessation and people were clapping. And then soon after he was telling me they need roads, where does he expect the money to build roads to come from?” the DP posed.

This came a day after he exuded confidence that the Finance Bill 2023 will be passed in the National Assembly, noting that the sailing of the bill would be necessary given the works and other responsibilities the government is undertaking.

The grand event that took place at the magnificent Al Husseinieh Palace was an invite-only affair bringing together guests from all around the world to witness the momentous occasion which ground Jordan to a halt.

Its citizens had thronged the venue to witness the royal wedding conducted in Jordan’s capital city, Amman.

Uhuru was captured shaking hands with the groom and bride after the duo tied the knot with the groom all smiles.

President Uhuru Kenyatta greets the bride and groom at the wedding of Crown Prince Hussein and Princess Rajwa of Jordan on June 1, 2023. /4THPRESIDENTKE

The wedding came after nine months of engagement and lots of planning to accommodate the guest list of 1,700 invitees.

Later, the king of the Hashemite Kingdom of Jordan, Abdullah II of Jordan, hosted a dinner banquet for the guests of the wedding of Crown Prince Al Hussein bin Abdullah II and Princess Rajwa Al Hussein.

The wedding was seen as a great opportunity for the Saudi Arabian royal family and the Jordanian royal family to come together.

The bride is a 29-year-old Saudi architect and is familiarly connected to Mohammed Bin Salman who is the crown prince of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. She studied at Syracuse University, a private university in New York, USA.

The groom is a 28-year-old and heir apparent to the throne of Jordan. He graduated with international history from Georgetown University in Washington DC, USA.

Crown Prince Hussein and Princess Rajwa of Jordan at their royal wedding on June 1, 2023. /ZAHRAN PALACE

Jordan’s Crown Prince Hussein bin Abdullah married Saudi architect Rajwa Al Seif on June 1, 2023, in a ceremony attended by royals from across the globe. /DAILY TRIBUNE

The wedding, according to sources close to the renowned anchor, will take place between June 9 and 10 in Kibra.

The sources added that both Mugambi and Mwanaidy have children from their previous relationships, though it is unclear if the couple will live under the same roof.

“The couple have been dating for over a year and are very excited about the two-day wedding. Plans are already underway,” one source was quoted by Nairobi News.

Citizen TV reporter Hassan Mugambi and his fiancée Mwanaidy Shishi pose for a selfie inside a car on May 13, 2023. /INSTAGRAM.HASSAN MUGAMBI

The couple wedded at a private location in Kericho County, attended by, among other high-profile guests, former Cabinet Secretary Charles Keter, and Kenya Defence Forces Major General Mohamed Badi.

Kigen is the eldest child of Gideon and Zahra Moi and has two siblings – brother Kimoi and sister Lulu Moi.

Despite photos of the event shared online that offered a sneak peek into the fete, not much else was revealed regarding details of the wedding.

Kigen Moi (Left), son to Gideon Moi, wedded his wife Rebecca Chepchumba (Right) on Saturday, May 6, 2023. /GIDEON MOI

Reports however indicated that the bride hails from a family that has befriended that of the late former President Daniel Arap Moi for years.

Kigen Moi Profile

Kigen is an alumnus of Bristol University in England and is well-known for his taste in fashion and style ranging from fitting suits to rocking designer outfits on a normal day. In addition, he is also a man of the people and he has, on several occasions, accompanied his dad to public meetings.

In July 2022, just before the August 9 General Elections, Kigen donated boda bodas to associations in Marigat, Kabarnet and Kabartonjo.

Kigen also enjoys playing polo since his old days at university. He plays the sport professionally and in 2014, he beat his father in the sport when his team won 5-2.

In Kenya, the game is for the upper echelons of society because the high cost involved has conspired to put the game beyond the reach of ordinary people.

Kigen is also a known entrepreneur and is the company director of Sosian Energy which develops sustainability-based renewable energy projects across Kenya.

The company was awarded a tender by Geothermal Development Corporation (GDC) through competitive bidding to install and operate 1x35MW Geothermal Modular Power Plant in Menengai Geothermal Field in Nakuru County for 25 years on a Build – Own – Operate (BOO) basis.

The purpose of the Power Plant Project is to increase the power generation capacity of Kenya to enhance socio-economic development and diversify sources of power supply by developing the country’s huge geothermal potential.

In 2017, steel and cement tycoon Narendra Raval bought the majority stake in the geothermal venture through an entity called Sosian Energy in 2017 but sold it back to Moi after incessant delays in building power plants nearly eight years after they won the contract.

Kigen Moi (far right) with friends. /FILE

On Monday, April 24, reports emerged of a 19-year-old man who was caught allegedly stealing women's underwear in Tegeyat village, Mosop sub-county, Nandi County following a series of mysterious disappearances of female inner garments reported in the area.

The report sparked varied reactions on social media, but some users believed that this added to the growing demands from modern-day women in terms of being pleased by their boyfriends and husbands.

However, with the chances of the cost of living going down in the country fading away by the day, current relationships don't really need you to have a huge wallet to show the woman you like that you care about her.

When it comes to knowing how to please your woman, the first thing most men look at is their bank accounts, worried that first off, they don't have enough money to keep their woman happy and that countless information alleges how a woman is naturally expensive to sustain for a man in a relationship due to, as aforementioned, their demands.

Of course, there are such women who equate love with expensive gifts and trips, but it’s not most, or all of them.

Viral Tea consulted popular AI platform ChatGPT as well as other relationship websites and came up with 10 simple ways to please your woman without breaking the bank:

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This is the cheapest way of impressing your girlfriend as not only is it free, but it also requires you to simply pay attention to her when she is talking to you. 

She merely requires a partner who engages in conversation with her, to confide in and trust, and not someone with tens of thousands of shillings. By actively listening to her, you take note of her interests, dreams, and what she likes and doesn't like, and you can use them to plan date ideas between the two of you.

Picnics & Romantic Dinner At Home

With the clamour for the revival of recreational spaces and parks across the country, especially in major cities, it presents you with an opportunity to pack a picnic lunch for you and your girlfriend and head to a nearby park during the weekend for a relaxing and romantic afternoon together.

For those who may have crazy work schedules, however, cooking a delicious meal at home for dinner is an alternative, and you can spice up the mood with candles, soft music and a nice table setting.

Watch a Movie At Home

The popularity that has come with movie streaming and downloading has offered a cheaper alternative for movie nights compared to one at a cinema, and one has plenty of choices to choose from, even from movies and series newly released on streaming platforms such as Netflix.

This, therefore, means that you can create a cosy atmosphere by watching a movie at home with your girlfriend. You can make popcorn or a meal and cuddle together on the couch or bed if living in a bedsitter.

Give Her a Genuine Digital Compliment, Love Letter

You don’t need to compliment her every five seconds to please her, lest she will know when your compliments are fake.

When you feel she looks really beautiful, tell her. If you love the new dress she bought, tell her. Don’t be afraid to give a real compliment when you feel it inside of you.

In addition, a heartfelt love letter can be a meaningful and affordable way to express your love and appreciation for your girlfriend.

In the digital era, it is easier for you to send her that love letter through her Direct Messages (DMs) on social media or through WhatsApp and not have to wait until you meet in person.

Take a walk together

You can take a romantic stroll together in a nearby park or along a scenic trail. You can also take a walk around your residence or hers, whichever either of you goes to.

Walks offer a perfect time for you to connect with each other as well as talk about various stuff, and in case one runs out of ideas, he or she can pick an environment situation as a topic of discussion.

Show Her Affection and A Bit Of PDA (Public Display of Affection)

Like any other relationship, sometimes we forget how much our partners do for us. Maybe she’s the one who cooks and cleans around the house, and if so, show her your appreciation by making her dinner one night.

If she is into PDA, hold her hand and/or give her the occasional kiss on the cheek.

Small Research About What She Likes In Bed

Showing you her care and loving her is one thing. Another way to please her is in the bedroom.

With more open conversations about sex emerging, it's no surprise if she happens to drop a hint about what she likes in the bedroom. This now offers you a chance to do research about it and figure out what she really enjoys.

If there's a sex position she enjoys, look up new techniques to help her achieve an orgasm.

Point To Note

Remember, the most important thing is to show your girlfriend that you care and appreciate her. It's not always about spending money, but rather about the time and effort you put into making her feel loved and valued.

"No, stealing underwear is illegal and unethical, regardless of the reason. It is not an acceptable way to please anyone, including a girlfriend. Relationships should be based on mutual trust and respect, and stealing violates both of these principles.

"If you want to make your girlfriend happy, there are plenty of other ways to do so that are legal, ethical, and respectful. It's important to prioritize honesty and integrity in your actions and relationships," ChatGPT responded to a query by Viral Tea.

Witnesses revealed that the man attacked the woman at the premises at around 8.30 pm by the male colleague who confronted her in a suspected love gone sour situation.

The ceremony was a star-studded event attended by close friends and family, including Lang'ata Member of Parliament Phelix Odiwuor alias Jalang'o, according to photos and videos seen by Viral Tea.

Kameme's former co-host, Oga Obinna, and Sol Generation musician Nviiri Sande - popularly known as Nviiri the Storyteller were among those in attendance at the event.

A menu and a wedding card at the wedding of former Kiss FM presenter Kamene Goro and DJ Bonez on April 20, 2023. /VIRALTEAKE

Idris was arraigned at the Milimani Law Courts with seven charges of threatening to kill Hussein Aila Amaro contrary to Section 223 of the Penal Code. 

She however pleaded not guilty to the seven counts and was granted cash bail of Ksh100,000.

Appearing before Chief Magistrate Lucas Onyina at the Milimani Law Courts, Idris denied the seven charges of committing the said offence by allegedly sending a series of threatening messages through her mobile phone number to that of Amaro in June 2019.

Capital Group Limited's Commercial Director Farida Idris Mohamed in the dock at Milimani Law Courts on Tuesday, April 18, 2023. /K24 DIGITAL

The prosecution told the court that Idris sent Amaro messages threatening to eliminate him alongside another person who is only identified as Swarna in the court papers.

"On the 14th day of June 2019 at 10:14 hours at an unknown place within the Republic of Kenya without lawful excuse caused Hussein Aila Amaro to receive a short message (SMS) through his number from the number of the said Farida Idris Mohamed to wit "Now tell me what the f*ck you will do to me and you see I will finish you and bloody Swarna combined," threatening to kill him," a charge sheet seen by Viral Tea read in part.

She was also charged with sending five other threatening messages (in total) to the complainant on June 14, 2019, and June 15, 2019, with the third count revealing that she allegedly sent an SMS threatening to finish Amaro.

Idris was also charged with a fourth count of threatening to kill Amaro and drag his body on a hot tarmac on the same date when she is alleged to have committed the three other offences.

"I will kill you with my hands and drag your body on hot tarmac until nobody can recognise that...body of yours then bury you before you proceed to hell, threatening to kill him," added the charge sheet.

After denying the charges, Farida, through her lawyer Peter Wanyama, pleaded with the court to release her on lenient bail terms, which she promised to abide by.

"The accused and the complainant were in a relationship for a period of nine years. They broke up in 2019. The said offence was committed in 2019 and the accused is being charged more than four years later. They were in a business with the complainant," Wanyama told the court.

"The allegations of threatening to kill were committed in 2019 when the emotions of the accused person were high due to the separation, it is now four years and everyone has moved on."

The lawyer further informed the court that the parties intended to have the matter settled out of court.

State Prosecutor Anderson Gikunda did not oppose Farida's application to be released on bail but urged the court to give orders to the accused to stop sending further messages to the complainant, adding to the court that the prosecution was not aware of any out-of-court settlement arrangement of the matter as stated by Idris' counsel.

"These are very serious offences from people who know each other well. She is a Commercial Director at Capital FM News and should be restrained from any contact with the complainant or any of the witnesses.

"My client has been chasing justice for the last four years and we are praying that the bond terms reflect those years my client has been seeking justice," Amaro's lawyer Charles Gitonga told the court.

The court ordered the release of Farida on a bond of Ksh300,000 or Ksh100,000 cash bail pending a hearing and determination of the matter. The case will be mentioned on May 8, 2023.

Farida has been working at Capital FM for 15 years holding multiple roles prior to her current role as Group Commercial Director. She was the Project Director for The Koroga Festival and Head of Radio & Digital Sales, amongst three other managerial roles.

Capital Group Limited's Commercial Director Farida Idris Mohamed. /FILE

Deputy President Rigathi Gachagua will lead a team of elders that will be negotiating in the marriage ceremony of Mathira MP Eric wa Mumbi and his lover, Murang’a woman representative Betty Maina.

The two lawmakers who have been living together are set to end the two-year courtship by formally walking down the aisle.

According to Wa Maina, Gachagua was his preferred pick for the lead of the team that will go to Betty Maina’s family for the negotiations.

Mathira MP, Eric Wa Mumbi, and Muranga Woman Representative, Betty Maina, after Wa Mumbi proposed to Betty on April 17, 2023. /BETTY MAINA

“Mathira (Constituency) has respectable men, the Deputy President will lead us when we go to Murang’a (Maina's home),” Wa Mumbi told Inooro TV on Monday, April 17.

Earlier in the day, Wa Mumbi surprised the Woman Rep by getting down on his one knee and popping the million-dollar question "Will you marry me?"

“And out of love, she said yes!” noted Wa Mumbi.

Watching the proposal unfold was Kirinyaga Governor Anne Waiguru, her Nakuru counterpart Susan Kihika, and Nominated Senator Veronica Maina.

“One day at a time sweet Jesus. He makes all things beautiful in his own time. Thanks my sisters for organising this wonderful surprise. My dear Eric, you rock!” Maina wrote after her proposal.

Wamumbi hinted at the marriage ceremony coming sooner than ever, even as she praised Maina, attributing her to his dream wife.

“This week, I will be in Murang'a for preliminary planning before the big day when I will descend on this land of my love in a manner that will make all envious,” he stated.

Maina’s dowry negotiators will include her family as well as Kiharu Member of Parliament, Ndindi Nyoro, who warned Wa Mumbi in March 2023 that they will not have it easy during the negotiations as letting go one of the daughters of Murang'a will be a tall order.

The dowry negotiations will follow Kikuyu customs and traditions which demand that parents and elders of the fiancé and fiancée meet prior to the official wedding. The man is supposed to give dowry in livestock such as goats or cash to the woman’s family.

The two met in 2021 and started dating during the 2022 campaign period. Maina was a director at the Athi Water Development Agency before he resigned to contest for the seat.

It is their second attempt at marriage having tied the knot before, and enter this union with two children each from their previous relationship. Eric had lost his first wife after her body was discovered in Hohwe Dam on May 25, 2020.

French magazine First Mag reported that Abouk was seeking half of Hakimi's assets and fortune but discovered to her shock that he owns nothing, even though he earns millions of shillings with PSG and the Moroccan national football team.

According to reports, the first incident occurred when the officer wanted to access Oliza's hotel upon receiving intelligence that the lover had booked a room with the man.

The officer trailed her to the hotel but was reportedly blocked by a watchman. It was at this point that an argument ensued between the two.

The guards had ejected him from the premises, but the officer was enraged and fired a teargas canister at the joint before fleeing on his motorbike.

Image of a nightclub in Kisumu. /FILE

At around 3:00 am, the officer tracked his girlfriend to the nightclub along Kisumu-Nairobi Highway and instantly walked in while trying to locate her in the sea of revellers who were dancing. 

Minutes later, the police officer reportedly fired another teargas canister which rattled the entire club, and its revellers scampering for safety.

A section of the partygoers had cornered him while he was trying to escape the scene and descended on him with heavy kicks and blows. Fortunately, the officer was saved by his colleagues who were responding to a distress call.

The police officer was rushed to Jaramogi Oginga Odinga Teaching and Referral Hospital for medical attention as authorities launched investigations into the incident.

Teargas is also referred to as a riot control agent and is a chemical weapon that is illegal to use in wars, but legal in many countries if used to disperse crowds and de-escalate protests.

She was speaking at a church service then, describing to her congregants what she does with her husband, Pastor Joseph Munene, anywhere, anytime.

Because she could not describe the act bluntly to her congregants, she opted to demonstrate with 'Twa Twa' to easily explain the act, but little did she know that she would go viral after a video captured her demonstration, which would be shared on social media.

Since then, numerous songs have been done with “twa twa” in their lyrics, after “twa twa” was featured in numerous blog headlines and become part of everyday lingo after the pastor and her husband addressed relationship guidance forums across the world.

Unlike other Kenyans who have trademarked their viral phrases as a means of earning money, Pastor Sue has taken a different approach in encouraging Kenyans to continue using the words to describe sexual activity in a less intrusive way.

“The proposed mark is a symbolic non-linguistic voice tag popularised by (the applicant) commonly denoting relationship intimacy,” she stated in her January 2021 application to KIPI as captured in its February edition of the monthly journal, even though she assured her fans that they don't need to be afraid of using it.

"It’s ownership, not for any other purpose. Not for commercial, not for anything. Do you see the way people say they want to be paid? That is being selfish," she recently told the Nation.

Pastor Sue wants "twa twa" registered as a trademark in one of the 45 classes where trademarks are sought, particularly class 41 which means that, if she is granted the trademark, she will get the right to use them exclusively in activities that are religious or educational.

The class also covers personal training, educational information, plus entertainment and cultural activities.

Speaking on Friday in Nakuru when he closed a workshop on the digitalization of services by National and County Governments on Friday, March 10, Immigration and Citizen Services Principal Secretary Julius Bitok stated that the Office of the Attorney General (AG) lessened the burden of legalising marriages by moving the process online.

This means that Kenyans intending to tie the knot can apply through the e-Citizen platform, which can also be accessible from any device supporting an internet connection, even a phone.

Immigration and Citizen Services PS Julius Bitok with some of the participants at the workshop on the digitization of government services in Nakuru. /CITIZEN DIGITAL

Before their union is ratified, applicants will be subjected to interviews upon completing the application process.

“One of the examples of services that have gone digital is marriages. If you want to get married, you can now apply for a marriage certificate from the comforts of your phone where you apply online, go for interviews and get your marriage certificate online,” Prof Bitok stated.

The marriage application was among the 5,318 services moved to the digital platform for ease of service delivery as promised by the Kenya Kwanza government.

The new process eliminates the headache of couples wishing to register their unions in terms of manually filing paperwork with the Registrar of Marriages at the Office of the Attorney General.

The Registrar of Marriages noted that the system had been pre-tested to ensure that there are no technical hiccups during the application process.

The 3-week meeting, which also involved onboarding the services on the e-Citizen platform, was also attended by digital services platforms providers and telecommunication firms.

While citing convenience as one of the key benefits of digitization, Prof. Bitok noted that the e-Citizen platform will also provide comparatively cheaper services by eliminating travel and time spent through physical visits to government offices.

“One of the key benefits of digitization is that it reduces the cost of services to citizens by the government. For example, instead of taking a matatu from point A to point B and paying 200 to go and the same amount to come back to get services, you can now access the services from the convenience of your phone,” said the PS.

The government is also hoping that the digitization drive will increase the around Ksh80 million daily eCitizen revenue collection by more than ten times to hit Ksh1 billion daily.

President William Ruto had directed the directorate of e-Citizen under the State Department for Immigration and Citizen Services to ensure more than 5,000 services were migrated to digital platforms to ease access to government services.

A screenshot of the e-Citizen platform. /FILE

Mwaro was found dead in her house in Nairobi on Wednesday, March 8. Her body was moved to the MP Shah mortuary.

“We’re still seeking to establish what led to the death of our loved one, Priscah. We are yet to get answers for quite a number of questions,” a close family member revealed to The Standard.

“She might have given up the fight,” her close friend weighed in.

Priscah Mwaro posing for a photo in an Arsenal jersey. /INSTAGRAM.PRISCAH MWARO

Her cause of death was yet to be established though people close to her revealed to the media that she had “gone through a lot in the last three years”.

A spot check by Viral Tea on her social media profile revealed that she frequently posted about KENGEN, where she worked as an administrator since 2010.

She held a Bachelor of Commerce Degree (Human Resources) from the University of Nairobi, where she studied between 2013 and 2015.

Mwaro, who hailed from Port Victoria in Bunyala West Ward, Busia County, celebrated her birthday on Tuesday, March 7, 2023, before the news about her death broke the following day.

She was married to CS Namwamba for eight years, and together they had three children. Theirs was a union to be admired by many as they shared bright moments with their online followers, but as fate would have it, they unceremoniously parted ways in 2019.

Speaking during the groundbreaking ceremony for 6,704 affordable housing units he was launching in Starehe Constituency, Nairobi County, Ruto condemned the harassment of women by their supervisors, especially those working in the informal sector.

Ruto affirmed that he would not tolerate women being exploited, especially in the construction sector, by managers fond of taking advantage of them in exchange for job offers.

President Ruto's response to the #SexForWork BBC expose pic.twitter.com/bmObajURL2

— Marvin Chege (@marvin_chege10) March 6, 2023

"As we have been told here, many women working at construction sites are being frustrated and tormented by their bosses. Some are promising them dates and other undisclosed things.

"These women have come to look for work, not to look for dates. If you are looking for a date, look for it elsewhere," he fired.

At the same time, the President demanded that developers who would work with the government should provide adequate social facilities to cater for women working on construction sites.

"You have also heard that women are being forced to share washrooms with men in construction sites. There must be enough toilets so that women have separate ablution facilities so that we can dignify women working in the construction sites," he added.

The Head of State tasked Lands and Housing Cabinet Secretary (CS) Zacharia Njeru with facilitating the employment of more women in the construction industry.

Ruto's remarks were viewed to be a response to an explosive investigative documentary aired on BBC which uncovered shocking claims of widespread sexual abuse affecting tea farms in Kenya.

The expose which was published on YouTube on Monday, February 20 centred on farms that supply some of the most popular tea brands in the United Kingdom (UK), some of which have branches in the country, with a sexual exploitation clique of male bosses targeting female workers operating within the firms.

One of the companies, James Finlay, which operates in Kenya on Tuesday, February 21, 2023, moved to take action by firing two contractors who were exposed in the feature.

Four managers who were laid bare in the expose have since gone into hiding. Police officers investigating the matter revealed that witnesses and victims had not turned up to record statements.

"We have terminated our agreement with John Chebochok’s company Sislo Holdings. All 300 contractors who were working with us through Sislo have been offered direct employment to ensure their livelihoods are not affected – 98 per cent have accepted," noted the firm in a statement.

"We have also suspended John Asava. Both individuals have been barred from entering James Finlay Kenya."

On the same day, two Members of Parliament (MP) demanded more action to be taken against the perpetrators of the crimes enforced on female tea pickers under a variety of circumstances.

Kericho Women Representative Beatrice Kemei demanded the Committee on Labour to issue statements on several issues, including steps taken by the government to protect the rights of the female workers and ensure that perpetrators are held accountable.

Moreover, Kenyans under the hashtag #SexForWork, coined from the title of the piece, unearthed their narratives on social media regarding how they, or others they know of, have encountered sexual harassment within the workplace and during a job interview process, where one gets a job or even a gig in exchange for sex.

This is what happened on Wednesday, March 1 when one Celine Kariuki, a video creator and brand ambassador, was treated to a dinner costing Ksh56,500 and gifted 300 roses by her boyfriend who was proposing to her to formalize the relationship.

Kariuki took to her Instagram stories to show off the huge bundle of flowers as she was led to a waiting Toyota Landcruiser Prado, with a hotel bellman holding the door for her to enter as the couple drove to their dinner location.

Celine Kariuki shares bill showing how much was spent on her date with her boyfriend on March 2, 2023. /INSTAGRAM.CELINE KARIUKI

According to the bill which she also shared, the couple had ordered five 750-millilitre bottles of still water priced at Ksh600 each and a quantity of beef carpaccio costing Ksh3,500, an ostrich at Ksh3,500, tomahawk (steak) at Ksh9,000, ribeye at Ksh8,000, cremeux at Ksh1,800, baked white chocolat at Ksh1,200, cappuccino and caffe latte each costing Ksh5,000.

The most expensive item they ordered was a Moet & Chandon Imperial Brut Champagne which cost Ksh25,000. This is compared to some online stores which sell 750ml of the drink at about Ksh9,800 and Ksh18,500 for a 1.5 litre.

Taking Value Added Tax (VAT) out of the equation, the couple would have paid Ksh45,472, with Ksh7,275 charged as VAT, 5.5% service charge costing Ksh1,246.96 and 7% service charge costing Ksh1,596.

The bill as well as the date sparked various reactions on social media divided into two sides; Kenyan women wishing they would be treated like Kariuki by their men and Kenyan men being tormented with pressure to win over their women, especially after the cake contained a proposal written: "Will you be my girlfriend?"

"God of Celine Kariuki, it’s me again! Jamani msichana alipelekwa dinner date jana usiku (Yesterday a girl was taken out for a date), they spent Ksh56k. She received 300 roses & the guy was asking her to be his gf officially! P for Pressure," Njambi wrote.

"Love is a beautiful thing, a Kenyan man surprises his girlfriend with 300 roses and Kesh 56,500 dinner. Simping is very expensive," Ranjini Nicholas weighed in.

A peruse by Viral Tea on Kariuki's Instagram profile reveals that she has a penchant for the soft life with a lifestyle that might be comparable to Kenya's rich youth or their counterparts in developed countries.

It is worth it to note that on the following day, Deputy President Rigathi Gachagua revealed the little-known simplicity of his relationship with his wife, Pastor Dorcas Gachagua, complementing her for living an easy-going life as a woman, even in the Generation Z era.

While disclosing how her calm demeanour led to their blissful union, the second-in-command revealed that he does not need to spend too much on his better half, as she herself does not demand too much from him. For instance, the Deputy President only funds her Ksh3,000 to style her hair.

Gachahgua claimed that due to the current economic hardships, women are no longer being pampered with trips to the salon leaving them to cover their heads. 

He further called upon men to take care of their wives by simply giving them the money they need without hesitation, question and accountability in return.

“A woman is about cloth and wallet. If they have money, this head-covering thing will only be worn on Sundays. Other days they will be taken to town and be put in a sauna,” the DP stated during the launch of the Women Enterprise Fund and the second product of the Hustler Fund at KICC, Nairobi.

“You need to take care of your wives. At times just give her Ksh3,000 and do not ask her what she will do with it. I am told nowadays men are asking for accountability even for Ksh1,000.”

Some men have these days taken matters into their own hands by making women pay for their dates given that for years, women have been taking advantage of the dates for freebies.

Speaking during the launch of the Women Enterprise Fund and the second product of the Hustler Fund at KICC, Nairobi, Gachagua complemented his wife for living an easy-going life as a woman, even in the Generation Z era.

While disclosing how her calm demeanour led to their blissful union, the second-in-command revealed that he does not need to spend too much on his better half, as she herself does not demand too much from him. For instance, the Deputy President only funds her Ksh3,000 to style her hair.

“I had to look around before settling on Pastor Dorcas. She is calm.

“In fact, she does not demand a lot from me, I only give her Ksh3,000 to do her hair and she is always satisfied with that,” he added.

Pastor Dorcas had revealed in a previous interview how she met her husband after she bypassed the security surrounding an event he had attended.

"When the President stood, I ran across in line with where he was. I did not know how it happened as it was God's way of doing things. He (Moi) started coming towards me and I bumped into him.

"That is where I met my husband as he was in charge of the delegation," she noted.

It is worth it to note that the two had previously crossed paths at Kenyatta University (KU) in Nairobi years ago, recalling the tricks up his sleeves he used to romantically win over her.

"Back in the year 1987, I took a bus number 45 to hang around here, we would go to KM to hover around there, looking around to spot a spouse in a hall called Ruwenzori, I then found a sweet girl, pitched my case, spoke nicely to her, I even recited a poem to her, and with that, I was able to win her over," he remembered during the university's 52nd graduation ceremony in December 2022.

"I am grateful that this university gave me a wife in Dr Dorcas Rigathi, and I have not been disappointed for the last 33 years, she has not run away and has no single scratch."

Coincidentally, this was the same university where President Ruto chilled around the same spot and masterfully won over his wife, First Lady Rachel Ruto. Ruto and Gachagua had unanimously agreed that KU would be the place where they would wind up getting their future spouses.

“My return here today is momentous and very emotional, the president and I have an emotional attachment to this university, many years ago when we were at the University of Nairobi, there was a common agreement among us that if you wanted a good wife you go to KU, I do not know if that is true today," he revealed, much to the wild cheers of the graduating students in attendance.

"My boss William Ruto also hung around here and sorted himself, you guys do know that the president is a man full of schemes? He also found Rachel Ruto here at KU, our first lady of Kenya,” he concluded.

Gachagua has on several occasions intimated to be a family man in public and has never shied away from advising Kenyans on the importance of family.

The court's Senior Resident Magistrate, Tabitha Wanjiku Mbugua, issued the ruling upon receiving several complaints from men who had sent money to women for fare to show up for their date, only to disappoint in the end.

Mbugua explained that the law on the jurisdiction of small claims courts does not allow her to demand that such women repay the fare for failing to show up for the date after receipt of the money.

An image of Milimani Law Courts. /JUDICIARY KENYA

The man named Jaha-P expressed in the poster that he was mesmerised by the photos of the presenter, who went viral in November 2022 for her encounter with Foreign Affairs Cabinet Secretary (CS) Alfred Mutua at State House.

He further noted that he was ready to propose to her and appealed to Kenyans to help him reach out to her

"Whenever I see Liz Jackson's photos, huwa nakufa nikiwa uhai, sitanyamazia tena (I normally die from the inside, I won't be silent anymore).

Jaha-P's placard publicly proposing to SPM Buzz journalist, Liz Jackson. /WHATSAPP

"I'm ready to propose to Liz Jackson. Please anyone help me reach her? I'm Jaha-P," read the placard.

Jaha P thereafter revealed that he is proposing to be his girlfriend, revealing to this writer that her work ethic, which was what he was looking for in a dream girl, was his motivation to put out a public proposal to her.

Speaking to Viral Tea, the journalist however laughed off his proposal, though she expressed that she would take up his offer on condition that he reveals to her his net worth.

"Can he show me his bank balance first (laughing emojis)," she stated to this writer.

In a statement she posted on her social media pages, Edday laid bare the little-known turbulence that has hit their marriage, one which has subjected her to pain and humiliation.

She expressed how she has been faithful to her husband throughout the 15 years of their union but for the past three years, he subjected her to humiliation on social media and took her for granted.

Samidoh with his wife, Edday Nderitu. /FACEBOOK.EDDAY NDERITU

"It has been exactly 15 years of marriage full of ups and down, it was a humble beginning where little was enough for us, and for the last 3 years it has been nothing but pain.

"I have remained faithful to you regardless of disrespect, humiliation and being trolled on social media, you’ve made me look dumb and taken my silence for granted. I have helped you nature your talent and supported you through it all," she wrote in part.

Edday went on to relay her disappointment towards her husband's behaviour despite supporting his talents, and how it has affected her and their children. She further made it clear that she would not tolerate a polygamous marriage.

"But one thing I have said to you and I am saying here again I will not raise my kids in a polygamy family, especially with a woman who is older than me by more than 10yrs, has no morals and zero respect for my family.

"I have asked God every day to give me the strength to pray for you but today I have nothing to tell God about you, you have dragged and put me and my kids in an ocean of pain may you remember this day," she added.

Samidoh and Nyamu have previously apologised to Edday for their actions, but not much has seemed to change. The singer was yet to issue a response to Edday's sentiments by the time of publication.

Samidoh and Nyamu were spotted together during the burial of Deputy President Rigathi Gachagua's sister-in-law in Gatanga, Murang'a County for the first time since their altercation in Dubai on December 17, 2022, which consequently landed Nyamu in trouble with the United Democratic Alliance (UDA) party.

Nyamu had initially revealed that she broke up with Samidoh after the Dubai drama, which also featured Edday who was alarmed by Nyamu's bold approach to her husband, a matter that ignited verbal confrontations between Nyamu and Samidoh as captured in the video that went viral on social media.

After defending her actions by stating that she was under the influence of alcohol and promising to quit drinking in 2023, she penned a statement shared on her Instagram stories, promising to never again repeat her actions since she is a member of a top government arm.

DP Gachagua on his part had urged Samidoh to clean up his family affairs following the standoff and not to embarrass the country during his world tours as a musician.

"Sort out your issues and when you fail, because you are one of our police officers, we will discipline you. We will bar you from going abroad, or in case you go, you will go alone so that we are not embarrassed," he cautioned.

However, on top of falling in love with a celebrity, the two of you have the potential to make money, and in today's world, being a celebrity couple has the potential for good business.

Viral Tea takes a look at celebrity couples who have minted millions from just being together:

Diana Marua & Bahati

Singer Kevin Bahati and his wife content creator Diana Marua offer one of the most popular examples of couples who happened to fall in love with each other and make money.

Bahati was a popular music star when he met Marua, whose popularity only grew when she started seeing him. The result has been her profile as a YouTuber growing tenfold, bagging numerous influencing gigs and her YouTube channel being ranked among the top 10 performers in 2021 and 2022.

Bahati and Diana Marua. /INSTAGRAM.DIANA BAHATI

Started in August 2019 and currently, with 815,000 subscribers, Marua's YouTube channel is outperforming her husband’s which was started seven years earlier in August 2012. Her channel has so far amassed 138 million views, 66.6 million views short of Bahati's channel which boasts 1.4 million subscribers with 205 million views.

Consistency on her channel has been her major boost assuring her at least 100,000 views per video. In addition, Bahati was the brains behind Marua's rap career under the stage name Diana B, with songs such as Mubaba, One Day, and Hatutaachana, which were purposed to bring more traffic than entertainment.

From Diana’s YouTube channel alone, depending on how active and the nature of the content she puts out in a month, Marua makes at least Ksh230,000 a month. In a good month, the amount surpasses Ksh500,000.

“When I was working for Bahati, a video that Diana shoots gets an average of 100,000 views. That is massive, and if you combine both their channels, those guys would easily make close to Ksh3 million in a month.” JT Mzeiya, Bahati’s former videographer, revealed to the Business Daily.

Diana B and Bahati have also collaborated and partnered with several brands both together and as individuals and have made plenty of money through lucrative deals with reputable brands.

Nameless & Wahu Kagwi

Arguably the country's famous couple, Nameless and Wahu have leveraged well on the YouTube model of payment which is based on watch time hours as well as the number of clicks on a channel and time spent on a particular video counts.

Content creators simply tend to make more money on the platform because of their much longer videos compared to those of musicians, usually a 3-minute video. Nameless and Wahu have featured together in songs such as Back It Up, Feeling, Deep and Te Amo among others on top of their successful careers in music.

“We have just started doing it as a couple because it wasn’t something that was there during our early days. We can’t mention the amount but it is a money-making opportunity,” Nameless, real name David Mathenge, and his wife Wahu stated.

Wahu was in 2022 picked as an ambassador for a popular insecticide brand which launched its national anti-malaria campaign.

Dorea Chege & DJ Dibul

The Maria TV series actress and fiancée Dickson Ndegwa 29, aka Mugithi Deejay (DJ) Dibul, had left the country two Sundays ago for a vacation in Dubai, an all-expense paid trip courtesy of a travel start-up agency.

“December was a busy one for both of us, especially me because it is the month when I make most of my money. We hadn’t spent some quality time together and I thought a vacation to Dubai in February wouldn’t hurt. It’s an all-paid trip by the tour firm which we have partnered with as their brand ambassadors,” Dibul revealed to the Business Daily a day before their departure.

DJ Dibul works at Kamene TV and Kamene FM under MediaMax Networks and Dorea is popularly known as the character name Maggie in Maria. They are the newest and most trending celebrity couple for months, since going public with their relationship in February 2022.

Dorea, who is also a content creator with over 1.2 million followers on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook had been secretly seeing DJ Dibul for six months before going public after reports went rife about their relationship.

They had kept silent on the matter to avoid speculations that they feared might somehow end up denting their respective brands but their tables turned with the announcement of their relationship.

Dorea Chege and DJ Dibul in Dubai. /INSTAGRAM.DOREA CHEGE

“With blogs, you can never trust them, they can easily publish negative stories for the sake of clickbait and that can end up tarnishing one’s brand so we had to take care.

"In the process somehow our relationship became a talking point and we were getting a lot of this traction, brands started approaching us for partnerships and collaboration. That’s when we realised we could make money together because most of the brands kept insisting on having us as a package.” Dorea, the talkative of the two, explained.

Having been in the content creation and influencing space for longer than Dj Dibul, Dorea on individual projects charges not less than Ksh30,000 on advertisement campaigns depending on the type of client and the duration of the gig. For a couple's package rate, it was much easier as they don’t take anything less than Ksh200,000 for any partnerships or collaborations.

So far the love-smitten duo has done several partnerships with brands ranging from smartphones to tour companies, using their fast-growing YouTube channel, The Bulls Family, currently standing at 196,000 subscribers, to push their brand.

Wanjiru Njiru & Ben Cyco

Youtuber, fashion blogger, and founder of Maua Wear, Wanjiru Njiru shares the same sentiments with her husband, gospel singer Ben Kariuki alias Ben Cyco.

Besides influencing gigs, the couple currently hosts a property show, the JoyRide podcast which they started in February 2022 and which has been paying them well.

To maximise the gains, the couple who actively promote their podcast on their respective social media platforms with over 200,000 followers on Instagram alone, have made The JoyRide available on every single streaming platform, be it audio or visual from Boomplay, YouTube or Apple Podcast to tap into a much larger audience.

The podcast is audiovisual, compared to traditional podcasts which offer the audio mode of listening. The couple has also been hosting live podcast experiences in different locations majorly in the universities enabling them to make money from ticket purchases.

More income comes from collaborating with various brands targeting its audience and who in return inject monetary gains in form of sponsorships. Celebrating its first anniversary, the podcast amassed over 3.7 million listeners across all platforms with 1,950 attending the four live experiences hosted in that period.

“We plan to make the live experience bigger and better. Maybe we should go to the stadiums now, I don’t know. I like making money and it’s even sweeter when you make money with your partner. That’s always the tick for me, making money with my partner,” Wanjiru explained.

The two got married in 2021 after over 10 years of dating.

Wanjiru Njiru and Ben Cyco. /INSTAGRAM.WANJIRU NJIRU

Narrating the events that led to her demise, the boyfriend revealed that he and his lover, identified as Brenda Kawira Gitonga, had moved to the bedroom at around 11.30 pm where her mood changed.

She left the room and went to the balcony, and it was at this point that the man heard a loud thud, which prompted him to check the sitting room, kitchen and the other rooms in the house to find out where Kawira was.

An apartment in Kasarani. /FILE

He told police that he then decided to look for her on the balcony only to be shocked to see her on the ground floor. He rushed to the ground floor and sought neighbours for help, afterwhich the woman was rushed to Uzima Hospital but was pronounced dead on arrival.

Police who visited the hospital found Kawira dead with visible injuries. According to the police, the deceased had bruises on her right thigh, her neck, left cheek and lower limb.

Her body was moved to Kenyatta University awaiting an autopsy as police carried out investigations. Meanwhile, the man added that his girlfriend had expressed dissatisfaction with the state of their relationship.

The incident came just days after the tragic death of Christine Rayon Lantel, who jumped six floors down to her death from an apartment block in Kasarani, with police revealing that the woman disagreed with her boyfriend over another woman calling his phone.

Lantel thereafter jumped from the sixth floor of the Amani House apartment located along Thika Road Mall (TRM) Drive in Nairobi County.

Officers investigating the case said the woman and her boyfriend had just arrived from a drinking spree when another woman called the man.

A similar case grabbed entertainment headlines after Armaan Alami alias King Alami survived a fall from the 7th floor of a high-rise building at Lumumba Drive, Roysambu, Nairobi on October 22, 2022. However, she seemed to hold a personal vendetta against her ex-girlfriend, Kenyan singer Natalie Florence, also known by the stage name Noti Flow.

Alami spilt the beans on a blue Volkswagen that Noti had gifted Alami when they were together, dismissing it as a front to gain popularity and keep her name trending on social media.

She was responding to a curious netizen who sought clarity on why she had not been seen driving the expensive car in a while, especially after Alami had lost one of her arms during the fall.

Alami replied that Noti had never given her a car in the first place and that she spent Ksh1.5 million purchasing it for herself.

Counsellors, medics, and psychologists advise that you can always reach out for help when experiencing any mental health issues. Call Kenya Red Cross toll-free hotline, 1199, for support.

On Tuesday, February 14, more than three famous figures across the circles of politics and entertainment have gone down on one knee and proposed to their significant lovers, and vice versa in the case of women.

Viral Tea takes a look at which influential figure has proposed to and has been proposed to and the outcome:

Linet Toto

It was just a day ago when Bomet Woman Representative Linet Chepkorir alias Toto was hit by a lawsuit from two of her county residents over alleged nepotism. Now, she's off the market.

Photos seen by Viral Tea showed her being proposed to by a man identified as Bomet businessman Godfrey Kimutai who went down on one knee and presented what looked like an engagement ring to her.

Linet Toto being proposed to by Godfrey Kimutai on February 14, 2023. /FACEBOOK

Kimutai asked the big question in a room that is aptly decorated with red heart-shaped balloons, white and red rose petals and illuminated with candles as close friends and family looked on. The message "Will you marry me?" was also captured in the background of one of the photographs.

A subsequent photograph showed the couple posing in a warm embrace, as Toto holds a bouquet of flowers after the Woman Rep evidently agreed to tie the knot with her now fiancé Kimutai.

The news of the proposal, which is yet to be officially announced by the couple on any of their social media platforms by the time of publication, came as a surprise to Kenyans on Twitter since the soft-spoken politician has rarely ever been seen in public with her lover.

Toto rose to fame after the August 2022 polls when she clinched Bomet's Woman Rep seat after garnering 242,775 votes to floor other nine seasoned politicians who were in the race, including then Nominated Senator Alice Milgo who came a distant second with 43,180 votes.

She rattled the Azimio la Umoja coalition after she slammed party leader, Raila Odinga for his protest rallies against the President William Ruto-led government.

Eric Omondi

The comedian on the same day proposed to his long-time girlfriend Lynne Njehia, who showcased a ring on her finger he gave her.

You don't have to propose to someone to be engaged to them ahead of marriage. At times, you propose to them to be your girlfriend...or boyfriend, for women who like taking the lead.

Take for instance on Tuesday, February 14 when Jackson Ngechu or popularly known as CMB Prezzo, electrified the mood at NRG Radio studios in Nairobi when he proposed to radio presenter Azeezah Hashim.

In a video seen by Viral Tea, Prezzo was seen interrupting Azeezah who was on her duty to present her with a bouquet of flowers, much to her delight.

Watch the video:

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She was however not prepared for what was to follow. Prezzo revealed a box containing what appeared to be an engagement ring before going down on one knee and popping the big question.

Azeezah then reached out to Prezzo to give him a big hug as her colleagues who were watching and filming the proceedings clapped and cheered on.

In the age whereby celebrities have been accused of interpreting real-life events as staged, Viral Tea could not independently ascertain whether or not the stunt was real.

Dubbed, The Media Messiah, Azeezah is a young, fast-rising Media personality who hosts one of the biggest and freshest morning breakfast shows on radio, the NRG Breakfast Club, every Monday to Friday.

Furthermore, she is a TV presenter on NTV's Teen Republik and on the side, she is a corporate and events MCEE. Owing to her deep and captivating voice, Azeezah is also a voice-over artist.

Prezzo was born in Nairobi in the 80s and grew up in the streets of Eastleigh. He started his music dream way back but only blew up in the early years of the 21st century. 

He is well known for his debut album Naleta Action which was released in 2004 and included hits like Naleta Action, Let's Get Down, Mahangaiko, Leo ni Leo, Mimi na Wewe, Mafans among others. 

Prezzo was widely accepted in East Africa and his popularity heightened by his flossing antics. He is well known for his flashy lifestyle consisting of expensive jewellery, lavish clothing and flashy cars among an array of other fine things.

His love life was said to have been at an all-time high when he went out with the beautiful Sheila Mwanyigha also known as "Nikki" according to one of his fans. This is one subject that he likes to keep under wraps.

In similar reports, comedian Eric Omondi on the same day proposed to his long-time girlfriend Lynne Njehia, who showcased a ring on her finger he gave her.

A collage of Lynne wearing an engagement ring given to her by Eric Omondi. /INSTAGRAM.LYNNE/ERIC OMONDI

These days, it's easier than ever to hook up with someone thanks to the prevalence of apps and websites designed to help people look for a romantic (or purely sexual) connection. In fact, it’s inspired the development and sustenance of “hookup culture,” where single individuals freely look for physical connections without the need for any lasting commitment, romance, or emotion.

If you’re looking to recover from your latest breakup, or if you’re young and just want to experiment a little, hookup culture can be quite inviting. But before you delve into the now-thriving dating culture, it’s important that you recognize some foundational rules.

Viral Tea takes a look at nine simple rules of hookup culture in the modern era:

Only use credible hookup websites and apps

Despite being an array of options online to choose from in terms of hooking up, it is easy to fall prey to malicious websites that expose you to women or men who turn out to be unscrupulous individuals.

This makes social media platforms such as Facebook the most obvious option to stay away from, due to its huge population of users and ease of accessibility. Past reports by investigative agencies, including the Directorate of Criminal Investigations (DCI) have exposed victims who have fallen prey to criminals who met them for casual hookups on social media.

Some websites and apps offer a much richer pool of individuals to talk to; they have better features for ensuring your privacy and safety, and they’re simply easier to navigate.

Do your research, look at reviews, and focus your attention only on the best candidates; you’ll have a much better time than someone who picks one at random.

Don't hook up with the same person multiple times

This does not mean you should miss out on a steamy session. However, hooking up with the same person multiple times may not necessarily be a good idea unless you set up a friend-with-benefits relationship with clear rules.

So you may now be wondering, how frequently should you hook up with them? The answer to that is, it depends.

If all that you are doing in your free time is hooking up with the same person, then you should be on the alert. Also, it is wise to keep the activity with your casual partner limited to the bedroom.

In addition, the moment you sense you're developing feelings for the same person, consider taking a break. Remember, you should be upfront with them with something like, “I don’t think we should see each other anymore" instead of ghosting them, which is ceasing all communication with someone with no acknowledgement, explanation, or further responses as if you’ve disappeared into thin air.

Be direct with your intentions

If you’re in the dating scene specifically to hook up, state that. Oftentimes, the number one problem that kills relationships, even casual ones, is a lack of communication.

Don’t lie about your motivations by saying you’re looking for committed dating or long-term partnerships. You may narrow your dating pool, but you’ll meet more people looking for the same thing.

Talk about what you’re expecting in the bed, and also try understanding what your sex partner likes. Once you both know the sexual preferences of each other, you’d have an orgasm to remember and most importantly, this will make sex more pleasurable and less awkward.

Avoid casual texting and conversations

According to World Hookup Guides, a lot of young people make the mistake of texting casually and talking casually, especially those fond of getting attached too fast.

The only time you should text your sex partner is to decide when to meet and hook up. This means no small talk, texting, or casual conversations; only text to hook up.

The more you talk to a person and know about them, the more feelings you develop, and you'll find yourself liking your partner for more than just sex, a complicated situation especially when the other party doesn't want anything more.

So keep things simple; plan the time, set the location, have sex and move forward.

Keep your Friends With Benefits (FWBs) away from your friends

Introducing your friend with benefits to your friends’ circle defeats the purpose of hooking up. Hookups are all about having sex with no strings attached.

Introducing your FWB to people close to you means you’re letting them into your life. In addition, one of your friends might have intentions of having sex with your FWB in the future.

The more your FWB knows about you, the more they'll know about you, including dark secrets they can use against you. If you prefer keeping your sex life private then you’re giving a random stranger something to use against you.

Respect the wants and needs of others. 

This would simply mean you pay attention to the wants and needs of the people you meet.

If they’re looking for a one-night stand, don’t keep persuading them for more dates afterwards. If they’re looking for a meaningful romantic connection, don’t lead them on if you’re only looking for sex.

The same goes for communication, even though it's important. You should avoid personal questions in an attempt to dig into their personal life, relationship status or anything as prying too much kills your chances of getting some action in the future.

Don’t get jealous. 

This is simple, the person you're hooking up with is not your boyfriend or girlfriend, thus you shouldn't get jealous when he or she happens to court other people.

If you’re entering a casual arrangement, both you and your partner are free to seek (and flirt with) other people. If you catch the person you’re sleeping with on a date with another person, don't get upset because they are allowed to do so.

Use protection

No matter how tempting raw sex appears to be, it isn’t worth it. International Condom Day is celebrated the day before Valentines' Day (February 13) as a way of creating awareness about condoms, hence the importance of using condoms every time while hooking up.

The thing about hookups is that you do not know the sexual history of your partner. This means that there is a very high risk of being infected with Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) through unprotected sex.

Here’s a tip for all the women out there reading this: No matter how much the guy brags about their pull-out game, don’t risk it. All it takes is a single drop of sperm to leave you spending thousands of shillings taking care of a child you did not plan for.

Similarly, here’s one for all the men as well: don’t believe her to be on birth control as some women have developed all manner of sinister tricks to get pregnant. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

Consider skipping the cuddling phase & maintain eye contact

In Ester Perels’ groundbreaking book, Mating in Captivity, she suggested that cuddling makes us feel too close and familiar to a person. If both of you have achieved orgasm then the only reason you should be in bed is for another round.

Cuddling after sex will only make if not both then one of you develop feelings. This is why it is best to skip that phase and only focus on raw sex and foreplay.

In addition, if you want to make your hookups more memorable, then be more passionate in bed.

Small things such as maintaining eye contact during intercourse can make a huge difference. But of course, it also depends on the sex position. If you’re doing it from behind, even then it doesn’t have to be raw sex.

There are a number of things you can do to spice things up such as hair-pulling and spanking, among others. However, keep in mind to ask if your sex partner is comfortable with all of this.

In short, be more passionate during the session. This will make the experience tenfold better for you and your sex partner.

Avoid emotions after sex

The most unspoken hookup rule, especially after, is to not let your emotions take over you. Whether you’re going through a rough break-up or any other tragedy, keep things limited to sex.

It is likely that your hook-up partner is also there for some fun. The last thing they would want is to hear your complaints or tantrums regarding how you feel about the current state of the economy.

Relationship experts even advise against showing emotions even after sex because the chances are that you wouldn’t see your partner the next time after that. If you think that you’re too vulnerable, then avoid hooking up. Once you feel better, only then, get back down to business.

On Sunday, February 12, she announced through her Instagram stories that she is now engaged to Francis Mbugua Mugane, her longtime boyfriend who is a travel, fashion and food content creator based in Amsterdam, the Netherlands.

The two lovers had hosted friends in Nairobi when Mbugua popped the big question, and the ravishingly beautiful diva responded with "Yes".

Viral Tea did spot-checks on Mbugua's IG profile and found a travel, fashion, food and live events influencer who also has a penchant for deejaying and living the dream lifestyle with travels across the world. He is also a gym goer and enjoys watching sports ranging from Formula One to basketball to football, which he is an Arsenal fan.

It is worth it to note that Amsterdam was one of the places Tewa visited and spent a vacation without giving so much as a hint that it was Mbugua she had gone to visit.

Natalie has always been private about her personal life and has explained in the past that she’s learned to be more cautious about what she shares online. She revealed that she’s learned the hard way about the consequences of oversharing and now carefully curates her online presence to avoid harsh criticism.

Aside from her content creation career, Natalie is also a passionate farmer, having picked up the skill from her mother who exports herbs and runs an avocado farm. The determined entrepreneur has put her savings into starting her own avocado farm and is happy with the progress so far.

The lifestyle influencer says that her love language is quality time and values thoughtful and kind partners. She’s also not afraid to set boundaries, as she’s previously shared her dislike of men who are too intrusive, which is why she’s happy to have found someone who respects her space.

Back in August 2022, she dismissed reports that she was engaged after photos on social media had captured her wearing what appeared to be an engagement ring, which further stoked curiosity amongst her followers especially after she stopped wearing the ring for a while.

It is a trend that starts even in high school, especially in Kenya where during certain talent shows, male students showcase their singing or rapping skills which turn them into instant stars and attractions for women, and pull more of them the more they advance their craft.

Bendo Prussia is a rising Kenyan rapper who has been causing a stir on Telegram for years. Despite his fame and success, his online presence has been overshadowed by a series of scandalous videos and photos that have caught the attention of the masses.

For instance, he confessed on Friday, February 10 to sharing a series of videos on social media of him and several women in clubs and during his day-to-day adventures, women he explains he has slept with prior to sharing on his status.

Bendo Prussia during an interview on Friday, February 10, 2023. /YOUTUBE.PLUG TV

Bendo denied having a Telegram account despite his virality on the social media platform, clarifying that the videos he shares end up on the platform through other means while he showcases different women he has hooked up with, every day.

"I'm not aware, I don't even have a Telegram account, I just hear stories that they have seen me somewhere, but what I usually do is when I see a woman, I hook up with her, then I post on my status, then I have no idea how they get to Telegram because every day I change the women.

"You know, when you see a woman, they get worn out...when you're with her and you hook up the first time, you will be bored with her so you exchange with another one," he told Plug TV.

Bendo further opened up on the intrigues of hooking up with multiple women, breaking it down to how after he meets one, another has her eyes on him which ends up in a hookup. The cycle repeats itself with more women until he is faced with no choice but to eliminate some of them in his circle.

"I love women, so when you are seeing one, another wants you, so you have to have two of them in your circle. Then again, when you have two, another wants you, so you find yourself with three women.

"You find yourself with so many women, now when you get bored of the last one, you get rid of your first one and place her in 10th, when the 9th one bores you, you promote her to number 1 then you move to number 8," he added.

The constant changing of women like he changes clothes thus led to his body count, to which he admitted to sleeping with up to 900 women in his life while using protection. He is also categorical about his choice of women and he noted that he prefers the wealthy ones.

"I don't count, but maybe I've hit 800 or 900 women, but I don't count. Those people who steal from my status can count and let me know...but if you're my fan since the first day on my IG that was hacked, you know my body count, I've hooked up with many rich women and I use protection," he went on.

Defending his choices, Bendo went on to state that he doesn't have a preference for broke women, that is any girl who isn't from a well-off family, further explaining that a broke woman drags him down and sets his life and life goals backwards. 

The rapper comes from a humble family, thus he sets the bar high in terms of the women he hooks up with. According to him, he was less fortunate to even be gifted the same toys as other children when he was young.

After completing high school, he decided against dating women who live in the same residence as him (Githurai) as they would call him to buy something for them. This made him set his eyes on wealthy women capable of taking care of themselves and even paying for dates.

"If it's a date, you pay for it, if it's a matter of me coming to see you, you pay for my fare. On a scale of 1-10, I look good, so she cannot refuse to pay the fee. She must pay the fee to roll with me," he stated, arguing that it has become overrated for men to take care of the entire bill during a date.

To prove this, Bendo attached a clip of a woman handing him fare to return home after hooking up with her as he was invited to her place.

"I'm the prize, so when you want to know your worth, the woman must pay for you some things, not every time you take her out.

"She is the one to take you out because you're the one to do the work in the bedroom, not her."

He goes on to add that he has a preference for slightly older women whom he has no problem dating, even married women.

Bendo further explained that he developed an interest in love after he suffered from heartbreak at the age of 13, caused by a girl who made him fail his Kenya Certificate of Secondary Education (KCSE) exams, a matter that made him seek revenge as she was his first love.

He nonetheless hinted at settling down in the future after he gets bored of his charades, making reference to a track released in 2023 whereby he expressed that he wanted to stop hooking up so many times and breaking women's hearts.

He since has a girlfriend whom he claims is slightly older than him and is not Kenyan.

Watch the interview:

Since exploding into the limelight on December 10, 2021, during her public address at the Azimio La Umoja National Convention held at Kasarani Stadium, she has won over thousands of men countrywide, among others which have been instrumental in her rise from the Queen of the North to the Senate seat.

On Monday, January 30, she finally broke her silence on the contentious matter, but the response seemed to have confused many given that they did not get the direct answer they were hoping for.

Hezena Lemaletian during an interview with NTV on January 30, 2023. /FACEBOOK.HEZENA LEMALETIAN

"There are so many men on social media who are asking whether or not this beautiful woman is married..." NTV Swahili anchor Frederick Muitiriri put her on the spot.

Hezena giggled cheekily at the nature of the question which could be seen by many as an icebreaker given the seriousness of the interview that happened prior.

While Muitiriri commented on how men were willing to slide in her Direct Messages (DMs), the senator responded "Just keep throwing those pickup lines. The good thing is it won't be me reading my inbox...the password is out there somewhere."

Psychologists believe that the reason women offer witty responses to being asked about their relationship status is that in their mind they might be weighing their options on whether or not the man who is flirting with them is a suitable candidate.

At times, the "I have a boyfriend" response is a tactic women use to drive away men they don't want to date, whether it is true or not.

Whether a woman is single and wants to be, fresh out of a breakup, or on the lookout for her next partner, it's never fun when a friend or relative swoops in out of nowhere and asks personal questions about her love life. It always seems to happen when she least expects it, too, like in the middle of a great conversation at dinner or via text on a random night. 

"It can be quite frustrating when people ask if you’re 'still single' because the language and way in which it is often asked can communicate that you are 'missing' something or that there is something wrong with being single," Sheva Assar, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist, told Bustle, an entertainment website.

The senator's powerful introduction at the Azimio Kasarani convention, coupled with bold sentiments and ravishing beauty turned her into an overnight sensation.

Lemaletian was born and bred in Samburu County and attended Milimani Primary School in Maralal. She later enrolled at St. Theresa Girls High School where she excelled in her secondary school education and was admitted to the University of Nairobi (UoN).

The outspoken Samburu lady is the reigning Miss Commonwealth Kenya and became the first from the North to win the crown.

She is also the Global Peace Ambassador, A Goodwill, Culture, and Charity Ambassador for the Commonwealth and the Rift Valley Peace Champion being the founder of Pastoralists Sports Initiative which economically empowers the youth through sports and culture to create peace and cohesion.

Lemaletian had in 2022 dropped her ambitions for the Samburu County Woman Representative seat during the August 9 General Elections following extensive consultations with Azimio la Umoja coalition presidential candidate, Raila Odinga and elders from her community.

Here's the video:

'Je, Seneta Hezena 'Queen Of The North' ameolewa?' ????????#KigodaChako @FredMuitiriri pic.twitter.com/doWPSjDEdZ

— NTV Kenya (@ntvkenya) January 30, 2023

Take for instance this female student from the Jomo Kenyatta University of Agriculture and Technology (JKUAT) who received a rather unorthodox surprise from her boyfriend on Wednesday, February 1.

A video seen by Viral Tea and posted by one Eddiest on Twitter went viral and captured the well-built man gripping his guitar and serenading his sweetheart with his melodious voice.

As the young woman was left tickled, beaming smiles on her face, other female students could be seen peeking outside their doors to catch a glimpse of what is happening and some even recorded the proceedings, presumably for safekeeping or for sharing on their own social media accounts.

Watch the video:

Huyu jamaa ameenda pale JKUAT kuimbia dem yake kwa hostels. Love is a beautiful thing pic.twitter.com/N4ppXTbUJM

— African Life (@Eddiest_KE) February 1, 2023

"Huyu jamaa ameenda pale JKUAT kuimbia dem yake kwa hostels (This guy went to JKUAT hostels to sing for his girlfriend). Love is a beautiful thing," Eddiest wrote.

By the time of publication, the post was quoted 219 times, viewed over 69,800 times, retweeted by 151 people and liked by 737 others. It also received 223 comments.

"Hello JKUAT peeps. I am looking for this guy mwenye anaplay (who is playing the) guitar, there's someone who is looking for him," he added, though not revealing the identity of the person searching for him.

Despite the numerous reactions, one user claimed that the man is a musical artist and was singing at the JKUAT hostels to market his own craft.

"Naaah this is a lie, this guy is an artist, and he sings in JKUAT hostels just to market himself and his music, you are so dumb to jump to conclusions. I've been there, and seen him sing," wrote Badgurlriri.

Another user alleged to have paid a saxophonist, guitarist and a singer all at once as well as contracted singer Bensoul to serenade his former girlfriend at her place of work.

With the month of love comes an increase in marriage proposals, relationship proposals, lovey-dovey poems and for businesspeople, an opportunity to mint millions of shillings from Kenyans willing to spend lavishly on vacation getaways, boxes of chocolates, rose flowers among others to impress their significant other...or potentials.

One thing Kenyan men will however want to avoid is taking the same route digital Media Consultant and Marketer, Kevin Mboya did when he travelled from Nairobi to Kwale to surprise his girlfriend on her birthday, making a total of over 1,000 kilometres between the two towns; from Nairobi to Kwale and back.

Mboya revealed on his YouTube channel on Monday, January 30 that he had purchased the bouquet of flowers at City Market before heading to Syokimau, at the Nairobi Terminus Standard Gauge Railway (SGR) station where he boarded a train to his intended destination.

“The whole thing began on Wednesday at 11 am when I left my house to go to town, I went to City Market and bought the flowers. I had already booked an SGR train that was leaving at 3 pm, I boarded the train and along the way, I was thinking about how things would go because I had not told her and we were having issues so I thought I could use that opportunity since the next day was her birthday.

"I travelled well and arrived at 8:10 pm, I spent the night at my friend’s place and the following day," he revealed.

Because the SGR trip concluded in Mombasa, Mboya departed the coastal city the following day towards Kwale, where he showed up at her girlfriend's office armed with the bouquet of flowers for the surprise; she was celebrating her birthday at the time.

He informed a receptionist there that he arrived to see her, at which point he was directed to sit in an area to wait for her.

Hours later, the receptionist informed him that they were closing the office for the day, and fearing that she would not show up, he tried reaching out to her once more and sent her a text on WhatsApp, despite her being offline.

"The next day it dawned on me that maybe this lady doesn’t want anything to do with me. I decided to come back to Nairobi," he went on.

Mboya lamented that she has not responded to his message to date and could not see her status on WhatsApp. Not knowing what had transpired, he explained that he had to return with the flowers because he was unable to find her.

His ordeal which he shared in a post on Twitter sparked an outpouring of mixed reactions online and increased when he became unresponsive for two days on the platform.

Politician cum businessman Alinur Mohamed offered to pay for his one-week vacation to Dubai and Ksh700,000 for his use if he finds him. He would later be surprised by a local touring company for an all-expenses paid trip to Mombasa.

In a near-11 minute video released on his YouTube channel, Mboya uncovered in-depth details of the grand surprise at the coastal county, which began a day before his viral post on Twitter on Thursday, January 26.

According to him, he had purchased the bouquet of flowers at City Market before heading to Syokimau, at the Nairobi Terminus Standard Gauge Railway (SGR) station where he boarded a train to his intended destination.

“The whole thing began on Wednesday at 11 am when I left my house to go to town, I went to City Market and bought the flowers. I had already booked an SGR train that was leaving at 3 pm, I boarded the train and along the way, I was thinking about how things would go because I had not told her and we were having issues so I thought I could use that opportunity since the next day was her birthday.

"I travelled well and arrived at 8:10 pm, I spent the night at my friend’s place and the following day," he revealed.

Because the SGR trip concluded in Mombasa, Mboya departed the coastal city the following day towards Kwale, where he showed up at her girlfriend's office armed with the bouquet of flowers for the surprise; she was celebrating her birthday at the time.

He informed a receptionist there that he arrived to see her, at which point he was directed to sit in an area to wait for her.

"At 4 pm I decided to text her saying I’m around waiting so that we can go home together. At 4:30 pm, I decided to call her because she had not responded to my message.

"She did not pick and after 10 minutes I called again and the number was busy. They were almost closing the office and I was wondering why she was not responding to my messages and calls," he added.

Hours later, the receptionist informed him that they were closing the office for the day, and fearing that she would not show up, he tried reaching out to her once more and sent her a text on WhatsApp, despite her being offline.

“I told myself maybe she doesn’t want to see me or maybe she had left the building with another door. I left and went back to my friend’s place in Mombasa.

"The next day it dawned on me that maybe this lady doesn’t want anything to do with me. I decided to come back to Nairobi," he went on.

Mboya lamented that she has not responded to his message to date and could not see her status on WhatsApp. Not knowing what had transpired, he explained that he had to return with the flowers because he was unable to find her.

“Up to today, she has never texted me back and even now I don’t see her status on WhatsApp, I don’t know what happened so that’s how things turned out. And that’s why I had to come back with the flowers because I never found the person I was supposed to give the flowers to so I had to come back with them.

"I’m yet to hear from her. Maybe one day she will come out and tell me this is what happened, as of now I know nothing," he added.

In another interview, Mboya denied claims that he was using his narrative to chase clout, arguing that the game of love cannot be scripted. He also declared that he would not return to Kwale to look for her.

According to his LinkedIn profile, Mboya is a flexible professional social media manager, article writer, humanitarian proposal writer and social media profile optimizer with over seven years of experience.

He is also a youth leader and volunteer as well as the CEO of Comfy Decor Kenya. He interned at Kenya Red Cross in 2018 after graduating from Maseno University where he pursued Political Science and International Relations with Information Technology.

His ordeal sparked an outpouring of mixed reactions online, with politician cum businessman Alinur Mohamed offering to pay for his one-week vacation to Dubai and Ksh700,000 for his use if he finds him.

The girlfriend who is yet to be identified is yet to respond to Mboya's story by the time of publication.

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In a video shared on his YouTube channel in the early morning hours of Sunday, January 29, Mboya admitted that his 8 hr 35 min journey from Nairobi to Kwale to surprise his girlfriend, who was celebrating her birthday then, had backfired in the end.

He returned to the capital with the same flowers he was meant to surprise her with, further noting that he was emotionally in a bad place and unable to divulge further details on how the show of love went south.

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"I arrived well from Kwale, so four days ago I went there to see her. I went with flowers but I came back with them because it passes a message.

"Right now I'm not emotionally okay in terms of revealing to you all exactly what happened although physically I look like I'm okay but emotionally I cannot say that I'm in a good state of mind to share with everyone who is concerned about me of what happened," he said.

According to Mboya, he went to the coastal county lit up with love but returned with a broken heart, promising to reveal more about the trip, 502 kilometres between the two towns.

"I went to Kwale with love but I've come back with room for more love. Thank you for your concern...more about what happened in Kwale, I'll share it soon," he added, taking poses with each sentiment while looking at the bouquet of flowers in despair.

Many had initially wondered about the whereabouts of Mboya following his last update on Thursday, January 26 prior to this one after he cheered them up with his romantic act, leading thousands of Kenyans On Twitter (KOT) ranging from celebrities to journalists, fellow influencers, government parastatals and media houses to frantically inquire about his whereabouts.

However, when he finally broke his silence, a majority of the comments were composed of netizens expressing their sympathy towards him following the act of love gone sour. Others believed he was clout chasing.

This whole ordeal brings to the fore the narrative of long-distance relationships and how a large number of Kenyans don't believe in their endurance. Studies show that at least 42 per cent of long-distance relationships eventually fail, which occurs after you share intimate things with someone who is part of your life even if they are not physically present all the time.

There comes a time in a long-distance relationship when it lasts for too long. For the first couple of months, you may wish to be with your partner, but there are things you can do with people around you and fun things you can do online with your partner.

Signs Your Long-Distance Relationship Is Failing 

• You feel sad, upset, and miserable more often than you feel happy and fulfilled.
• You or your partner have lost interest in your long-distance relationship.
• You rarely talk with your long-distance partner.
• Your partner is not making any effort to come to see you.
• You rarely visit each other.
• You don’t have a plan for moving in together.
• You don’t share your feelings or intimate things.
• You’re feeling confused about why you are in this relationship.
• You tried fixing the problems, but nothing works.
• Your feelings changed, or you have developed feelings for someone else.
• The sexual frustration is getting too much.
• You stayed in a long-distance relationship for a long time, and now you have drifted apart

Many long-distance relationships fail because couples don’t acknowledge that a long-distance relationship can only work healthily for a short period. When you are in a romantic relationship, you need to have your partner next to you, otherwise, your relationship is friendship.

To fix problems in a long-distance relationship, you have to be at least willing to explore the issues and make some changes. Both you and your partner must be interested in this relationship and in making it work.

For example, if you are fighting because of misunderstandings, you need to work on your communication. If you’re struggling with the lack of physical intimacy, you can visit each other more frequently.

However, if your feelings have changed and you drifted apart, it’s time to reassess your relationship and consider moving on.

Mboya on Thursday, January 26 shared a post on Twitter revealing that he embarked on an 8-hour 35 min journey from Nairobi to Kwale to surprise his girlfriend, who was celebrating her birthday then.

He added that he had not contacted her for the previous 24 hours, with the belief that she forgot that he knew when her birthday was.

Nonetheless, this didn’t stop him from embarking on the 502-kilometre journey to the coastal county, carrying a bouquet of flowers and waiting for her outside her office upon his arrival.

A collage of a bouquet of flowers meant for Kevin Mboya’s girlfriend. /TWITTER.KEVIN MBOYA

“I have travelled all the way from Nairobi to Kwale to come and surprise my girlfriend on her birthday. I haven't texted or called her in the last 24hrs, she maybe thinks I forgot it's her birthday. 

“I am waiting for her just outside her office to surprise her. I hope it goes well,” he wrote, posting the bouquet of flowers on Twitter which went viral and was viewed over 3.5 million times.

His romantic acts won the hearts of many Kenyans who begged for updates on the outcome of the surprise. However, the big shocker was that Mboya had not issued any other update on his account after his tweet.

He did not post a new tweet, reply to another user’s tweet or like another user’s tweet, which left many wondering what transpired after.

Soon, the post got the attention of prominent netizens ranging from journalists, celebrities, and government parastatals who all sought to find out what happened to him.

“Hello Kevin, it has been 18 hours since you went to surprise your girlfriend, we are waiting to know if she surprised you instead,” Nation Media Group’s Leon Lidigu stated.

“Update us buana this is now a matter of national interest,” sports journalist Eric Njiru joined the discussion.

“This is now a matter of National Security. It’s almost 24 hours since we last heard from Mboya Kevin. The whole nation is on a knife edge. I urge the kafmen (government) to send the KDF to Kwale,” businessman Ahmed Mohamed stated.

“Wewe, Kelvin! Do you realize the kind of tension and anxiety you are bringing to us? How can we wait for you to announce the results for 19 hours? Are you Wafula Chebukati?” Enock Bett posted.

Others tagged the Directorate of Criminal Investigations (DCI) among other security agencies to help track down Mboya while others appealed to media houses such as Viral Tea to air out his plight so that more people can find him.

“It seems you have waited for long. Ingia Hapo Huduma Center Kwale tutakuhudumia vizuri (Visit us at the Huduma Centre in Kwale and we shall serve you well). We are open from 7 am to 7 pm,” Huduma Centre tweeted.

Reporting A Missing Person In Kenya

Once a person goes missing, the family has to report to the nearest police station immediately. This is after the family has confirmed that the person is actually missing by checking with relatives and friends.

There is no national database for missing persons in Kenya. However, each police station keeps a register of those who have vanished in their jurisdiction.

“Nationally, we only have a register of wanted criminals and if you commit a crime today, we won’t automatically label you a criminal. Unless you are on our list of wanted persons,” former police spokesman Charles Owino explained to the Nation.

Once a complainant reports a person missing to a police station, efforts to look for them begin immediately, and the police work with the family to try to find any leads. 

“We try to trace his phone, looking at the last person he talked to or was with,” added Owino. However, he noted that investigations are circumstantial, and police only follow hints of the whereabouts of the missing person. 

Officers outside the entrance of DCI headquarters. /FILE

The highest court in the land referred to Article 45 (3) of the Constitution deals with the equality of the fundamental rights of spouses during the dissolution of a marriage.

However, it ruled that in divorce cases, each partner should leave the marriage with property equivalent to their individual contribution in the union.

“That while Article 45(3) of the Constitution deals with equality of the fundamental rights of spouses during dissolution of a marriage, such equality does not mean the re-distribution of proprietary rights or an assumption that spouses are automatically entitled to a 50% share by fact of being married,” the court ruled.

The Supreme Court affirmed that the ruling will establish a new ground for future disputes whereby the sharing of matrimonial property after divorce has been affecting duelling couples.

"What amounts to a fair and equitable legal formula for the reallocation of matrimonial property rights at dissolution of a marriage and whether the same can be achieved by a fixed means of apportionment at a 50:50 ratio should be done in light of the circumstances of each individual case," added the court.

The petition at the apex court arose from a divorce dispute between Joseph Ombogi Ogentoto and his ex-wife Martha Bosibori.

Ogentoto took the matter to the Supreme Court after the Court of Appeal ordered that the house in which he had lived with his ex-wife of 18 years and the rental units be shared equally between them on a 50:50 ratio.

The Friday Supreme Court ruling adds to the landmark rulings that have seen the Judiciary alter a series of policies regarding marriages in the country through court rulings regarding unions and sharing of property.

With different married couples moving to court on the basis of being unhappy with their marriages and seeking their share of property following divorces, the courts have had to make multiple changes to such policies.

On December 28, 2022, the High Court’s Family Division, sitting in Mombasa declared that a woman is entitled to a share of her deceased husband’s estate for cohabitating with him for over five years, even though it failed to prove the existence of marriage under Kamba customary law. 

This is a landmark ruling that saw long cohabitation be classified as proof of marriage in case a dispute arises over the wealth of your spouse.

Another ruling saw the High Court in Nakuru rule that children are not proof of marriage, handing a blow to a woman seeking to be recognised as the wife of a former Nakuru businessman, despite claiming that she had a five-year relationship with the deceased businessman and even had five children.

Justice Joel Ngugi ruled that despite living together or bearing children, a man and woman must satisfy what constitutes a customary marriage before they are considered a married couple. He added that a woman and a man must have the capacity to conduct marriage, consent from both families of the couple and a ceremonial slaughtering of a ram.

Six months prior, the Court of Appeal changed the course of divorces in the country by declaring the law prohibiting married couples from seeking divorce before three years elapsed unconstitutional. According to appellate judges, Gatembu Kairu, Pauline Nyamweya and Jessie Lessit, the Marriage Act limits the divorce period and ties down the newlyweds in a marriage union. 

The court ruling thus upheld the nullification of the law, which barred newlywed couples in a civil marriage from leaving or remarrying before the marriage hits three years. The judges argued that there exist cases where divorce in a civil law marriage may be necessary and justified despite the marriage being younger than three years old.

The judges agreed that divorce should be allowed for situations which are "unavoidable and unendurable" for instance, exceptional hardship. That way, the couple should be allowed to go separate ways to protect the rights of the parties involved. 

Divorce these days is like a way of life, compared to the boomer generation where divorce cases were uncommon. In other words, couples can even call it quits amicably at the start of romantic and intimate matters.

The number of divorce applications in the Judiciary has been on the rise in recent years as evidence of marriage not being a bed of roses. In a span of two years since 2020, a total of 10,338 couples sought to separate due to various grounds informing a divorce. 

Appearing before the Makadara Law Courts on Thursday, January 24, Tabby Ndung’u was sentenced by Makadara Chief Magistrate Francis Kyambia after she pleaded guilty to charges of creating a disturbance and offensive conduct at the Thika Road Mall (TRM) Drive in Kasarani, Nairobi on January 24, 2023.

Ndung'u went on to allegedly insult police officers and dared them to shoot her after she was caught in the compromising position.

The businesswoman based in Kasarani admitted to creating a disturbance in a manner likely to have resulted in a breach of peace contrary to section 95 (1) (b) of the penal code after repeatedly shouting “shoot me” at two Administration Police Service officers along TRM Drive.

TRM Drive in Roysambu, Nairobi. /MARVIN CHEGE.VIRALTEAKE

She also pleaded guilty to offensive conduct contrary to section 94 (1) of the penal code after she insulted the officers with the intent to provoke a breach of peace.

The court was informed that the two officers were on patrol when they found a motorist who had stopped in the middle of a road, obstructing other motorists. Upon approaching the car, they found the couple, Ndung'u and a man seated on the driver's seat kissing passionately, and ordered them to drive off to ease the snarl-up.

However, this annoyed Ndung'u who stepped out of the car and started insulting the officers who are attached to the Critical Infrastructure Protection Unit (CIPU), established to safeguard electricity, banks, government buildings and installations, water points and cash in transit.

The two male officers were thus unable to arrest her as they did not have a female colleague in tow and reported the matter at Kasarani Police Station.

Other female officers were deployed from the station to the scene and eventually arrested her.

According to Section 53 of the Traffic Act: "Any person who leaves any vehicle on a road in such a position or manner or in such a condition as to cause or to be likely to cause any danger to any person shall be guilty of an offence and liable (a) for a first conviction, to a fine not exceeding Ksh50,000 or to imprisonment for a term not exceeding one year."

Section 95 of the Penal Code indicates that, "Any person who - (a) uses obscene, abusive or insulting language, to his employer or to any person placed in authority over him by his employer, in such a manner as is likely to cause a breach of the peace; is guilty of a misdemeanour and is liable to imprisonment for six months."

Kenya's society and culture frown upon public displays of affection. Etiquette, thus, dictates that people should not touch or kiss in public.

A public display of affection refers to the physical demonstration of romantic feelings for another person while in the view of others. Holding hands and kissing in public are examples of such displays.

Any action of intimacy that goes beyond this can only be referred to as indecent exposure. The law also prohibits indecent exposure which is the exposure of one’s private parts in public, an offence which worsens when done in the presence of children.

As stipulated in the Sexual Offences Act, such an offence can earn one a jail term of up to five years.

A couple cuddling outside a car. /NATIONAL TODAY

Often, we have come across intimate images or videos of people we know on social media in compromising situations and this includes prominent people like politicians, celebrities or random people who fall victim to relational scorn or blackmail from those who have had access to their private images.

Just four weeks into 2023, Kenyans have been stunned by images and videos of celebrities alleged to be similar to the likes of Betty Kyallo and Azziad Nasenya, with the lone exception of Georgina Njenga (girlfriend to former Machachari star Tyler ‘Baha’ Mbaya), who had disclosed that her nude video was leaked onto the internet by a man who was studying at Kenyatta University (KU) who seemed not to be happy about her relationship with the actor who is also a content creator.

Whereas Kyallo and Georgina have announced that they promised to take action against the perpetrators, Nasenya chose to directly address her followers in a video on Monday, January 23, advocating for Kenyans to desist from spreading falsehoods about her, especially on such topics, as this can even expose one to cyberbullying.

Collage of Azziad Nasenya and porn actress Destiny Mira. /VIRALTEAKE

“I feel that it's 2023 and I’m over here minding my business and if you are over there minding my business, who is minding yours? We shouldn't be in the business of creating false information around such topics because if you are spreading such information then you’re being an enabler of cyberbullying which honestly is not cool,” she added.

“You should be rejoicing in things that make you a better individual rather than rejoicing in things that you feel are going to lead to the downfall of another person’s reputation.”

But many people are not aware that they can get legal recourse if their intimate images are shared online without their consent.

What is Revenge Porn?

Oxford dictionary defines revenge porn as posting revealing or sexually explicit images or videos of a person on the Internet, typically by a former sexual partner, without the consent of the subject and in order to cause them distress or embarrassment. 

Scholars define revenge porn as the intentional embarrassment of identifiable individuals through the posting of nude images online, done out of motives of revenge for relational scorn. The images are sometimes accompanied by personal information about the subject, including their full name, address and links to their social media platforms or profiles.

Revenge porn is a type of cyber violence against women and girls, which the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organisation (UNESCO) had indicated has been increasing since 2015.

How Kenya Deals With Revenge Porn Cases

The Act makes it a punishable offence to post nude images on the Internet without the consent of the owner with an intent to cause emotional distress. The images are sometimes accompanied by personal information about the subject, including their full name, address and links to their social media profiles.

The Act under section 37 which creates the offence provides to wit; "A person who transfers, publishes, or disseminates, including making a digital depiction available for distribution or downloading through a telecommunications network or through any other means of transferring data to a computer, the intimate or obscene image of another person commits an offence and is liable, on conviction to a fine not exceeding two hundred thousand shillings or imprisonment for a term not exceeding two years or both."

The offence applies both online and offline and to images which are shared electronically or in a traditional way including the uploading of images on the internet, sharing by text and e-mail, or showing someone a physical or electronic image.

The victim, in addition, may also sue the aggressor for defamation as well as breach of privacy. Article 33(3) of the Constitution provides that in the exercise of the right to freedom of expression, every person shall respect the rights and reputation of others, revenge porn violates this law.

In a nine-paragraph statement posted on Instagram on Thursday, January 19, Ntalami expressed that she wanted to clear things up for good regarding a false narrative that she 'denies' her partners.

She added that her previous relationship was riddled with mistrust and the nature of it saw her feeling uneasy to reveal it to the public. In addition, the pressure of the comments she had to provide to the media on the same saw them agree mutually to deny in the event they are approached with questions on the relationship.

"Let me begin with accountability on my part. I’ve learnt from past mistakes with regard to this. I was once in a relationship where due to its nature and a lot of mistrust within it, I didn’t feel confident to publicly confirm it.

Michelle Ntalami posing for a photo. /INSTAGRAM.MICHELLE NTALAMI

"I also felt pressured to have to say what we were to the media. We mutually agreed that if they ask, we’ll ‘deny.’ Something we both did in interviews, not just myself," she stated.

Ntalami looked back and noted that this was something she would have done differently. Other issues aside at the time, she announced that she took accountability for her part in the matter and resolved to do things differently since that period.

She added that in the event that she would be comfortable opening up about her relationships, she would answer with the truth.

"Moving forward, “private but not a secret” is my policy. If I’m comfortable to speak on my dating life, I’ll answer with the truth; yes, no, or the much I can share. (e.g good friends for now, etc)

"If not comfortable, I’ll reserve my right to answer. Anything in between or beyond that is no one’s business," she added.

She made reference to an interview with Milele FM presenter Ankali Ray where she assured that she was just friends with singer Fena Gitu after photos of them together ignited relationship rumours.

"To see some blogs misquote me and use the word ’deny’ for clicks & controversy is wrong. Where is the denial? Why ask questions if you already know the answers? Let’s report stories truthfully.

"Secondly, I have several male and masc-women friends. I request people to stop assuming we’re dating or there’s more to it, each time I’m seen with them or if we share moments online. Then when I clarify the truth, it’s termed as a ‘denial.’ Stop. Until I confirm my relationships, drop the speculations," she added.

Ntalami then revealed that despite her loving privately, she loves loudly, which is what her character comprises. However, she asserted that she does not owe anyone any explanations for her personal life and owes herself a life of truth instead.

She urged her followers to let people be and let the past rest without bringing it up every time she is, for example, seen to be happy and going about her life.

She also advocated for space and grace for people to become the best version of themselves once they know and do better.

"Finally, I may love privately, but I love loudly. It’s who I am. However, I don’t owe anyone any explanation for my personal life.

"What I do owe myself though, is a life of truth. As anyone can attest, I Iive my life authentically & unapologetically. That said, I also value my peace and privacy. When the time comes and I’m 100 per cent sure of my person, rest assured it will be no secret," she concluded.

Men in Murang'a County have an average of 14.1 sexual partners while women have an average of 3.3 sexual partners, for a county with a population of over 1 million, based on data from the 2019 census.

In comparison, the number of men in the county known historically for the Mau Mau uprising, with sexual partners is more than that of the entire country, with the average revealed to be 7.4 over women's 2.3.

The county is also top in the percentage of women with multiple sexual partners, more than anywhere else in Kenya, with a cumulative of 11 per cent. It was followed by 6.5 per cent from Kericho County and 6.2 per cent from Busia County.

Aerial view of tea farms in Murang'a County. /PINTEREST

With these statistics, Murang'a becomes the serial cheating capital of the whole country, a county known for notable names such as Sabina Chege, Mwangi wa Iria, Ndindi Nyoro, Peter Kenneth, Alice Wahome, Irungu Kang'ata among others.

Having multiple sex partners mean having more than one person that you engage in sexual activity with. There are many risks associated with having multiple sexual partners, such as an increased risk of pregnancy and transmitting a sexual disease.

However, some people believe that it’s natural to have multiple sex partners and that it can keep your sex life exciting if you’re not just having sex with one person. It is your personal choice to have sex with multiple people, however, you need to be careful particularly as it carries multiple risks, that is, the more sexual partners you have, the higher the risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection (STI).

There are many reasons why people have lots of sexual partners. This may be from the use of alcohol or drugs, which make you want more sex.

This may also be from the excitement that you get from having multiple partners, or that you feel liberated having casual sex with multiple partners.

Drugs or alcohol increase your chance of having risky sex and making decisions that you wouldn’t normally make in these situations; such as having unprotected sex if your judgement is clouded. If you’re having sex with multiple people, only one of them needs to be infected with an STI for it to be passed between everyone.

You can pass it to your partners, and if they’re all having sex with multiple partners this can be passed to their partners, and so on. You cannot ever be sure whether someone has an STI by just looking at them or their behaviour, so you need to make sure that you are extra careful and don’t take any unnecessary risks.

Among women but not men, the percentage who reported using a condom at last sex with a person who neither was their spouse nor lived with them decreased with age, from 46 per cent among women aged 15–19 to 29 per cent among women aged 30 to 49.

“Of those with more than one partner in the last 12 months, 24 per cent of women and 45 per cent of men reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse,” KNBS report explained.

In the 12 months before the survey, 19 per cent of women had sex with a person who neither was their husband nor lived with them. Only 37 per cent of these women reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse with such a partner.

“Thirty-five per cent of men reported having sex in the last 12 months with a person who neither was their wife nor lived with them, and 68 per cent of these men reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse with such a partner,” it added.

The survey also revealed that women between the ages of 20 to 24 have the highest fertility rate in Kenya, a number established after observing the number of births per every 1,000 women in different parts of the nation.

The sample for the Kenya Demographic and Health Survey (KDHS) 2022 was drawn from the Kenya Household Master Sample Frame (K-HMSF), which is the frame that KNBS currently operates to conduct household-based sample surveys in Kenya. It was carried out from February 17 to July 13, 2022.

Murang'a County was found to contain more women who have more than one sexual partner than anywhere else in the whole of Kenya, with a cumulative of 11 per cent. It was followed by 6.5 per cent from Kericho County and 6.2 per cent from Busia County.

Migori County on the other hand was found to have more men with multiple sexual partners at a cumulative of 28.7 per cent but was beaten to the top by Narok County at 42.5 per cent. It was followed closely by Elgeyo Marakwet at 28.5 per cent and West Pokot at 27.2 per cent.

For women, Nairobi County has 4.8 per cent of women with multiple sexual partners, beaten by its neighbour, Kiambu County with 5.8 per cent. In comparison, Mombasa has a cumulative of 2.1 per cent while Kisumu is 3.8 per cent.

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For men, Nairobi had 18.4 per cent of men with multiple sexual partners, bettered by Kisumu with 19.7 per cent and Mombasa with 20.9 per cent.

The survey further notes that a higher proportion of men (15 per cent) than women (4 per cent) reported having two or more sexual partners in the 12 months prior to the survey. Of those with more than one partner in the last 12 months, 24 per cent of women and 45 per cent of men reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse.

"In the 12 months before the survey, 19 per cent of women had sex with a person who neither was their husband nor lived with them, and just 37 per cent of these women reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse with such a partner.

"Thirty-five per cent of men reported having sex in the last 12 months with a person who neither was their wife nor lived with them, and 68 per cent of these men reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse with such a partner," the report read in part.

The average numbers of sexual partners are 2.3 among women and 7.4 among men. Among women but not men, the percentage who reported using a condom at last sex with a person who neither was their spouse nor lived with them decreased with age, from 46 per cent among women aged 15–19 to 29 per cent among women aged 30–49.

Fertility Rate

The survey also revealed that women between the ages of 20 to 24 have the highest fertility rate in Kenya, a number established after observing the number of births per every 1,000 women in different parts of the nation.

In that age bracket, fertility peaks at 179 births per every 1,000 women. The total fertility rate is higher in the rural areas with 219 births and decreases in the urban areas at 138 births among every 1,000 women.

Following behind is women between the ages of 25 to 28 showing a total of 172 births in every 1,000 women. Of these 200 are in the rural areas while 143 are in the urban populace, a rate that decreases past the age of 28.