For Men: 10 Ways To Attract Women When You Don't Have Money

For years, a lot of men, especially in Kenya have believed that women are attracted to men who have money and would turn down broke men without hesitation, if not place a list of outrageous demands that, in reality, bar non-wealthy men from the dating pool.

Though some say that this is still an issue, the current state of the country's economy has seen the times of men amassing wealth from their ventures dwindling courtesy of punitive taxes and austerity measures that have forced Kenyans to keenly monitor what they spend, dates being one of them.

Take for example, you decide to step out of your house for a walk, at which you decide you need an essential from a supermarket. It is here that you meet a woman you find attractive and gather the confidence to approach her, talk to her and get her number as the two of you leave the supermarket.

Meanwhile, it's January and it dawns on you that you are broke. Moreover, you're met with bills to pay including rent, food, and electricity among others with your next paycheck another three weeks away...keeping in mind that you last got paid before the Christmas period.

At this point, your motivation to text that woman you like from the supermarket drops and you know well that you cannot wait that long as some other Kenyan man or foreigner might have wrapped her arms around her and you become a distant memory.

What do you do? Do you just forget it, and wait until the next great opportunity comes around because of bad timing? Is your nearly-depleted bank account or mobile money account a reason not to even bother? The answer is no.

Dating While Broke (In a Nutshell)

The truth is, at the very beginning of a romantic encounter, money has absolutely nothing to do with building attraction. Any man who says otherwise would not understand what it means to have game and is usually the one reserving a table at a nightclub, purchasing expensive alcohol for all his gorgeous women to drink and wondering why he went home alone and yet he carried a box of condoms just in case.

While financial stability can be a factor in attracting a partner, it's not the only aspect that matters, especially in a tough economy with measures that in 2024 could have more negative effects on your pocket.

Here are some tips for Kenyan men who may be facing financial challenges but still want to attract women:

1. Confidence and Positivity: Confidence is attractive, and having a positive attitude can make a significant difference. Focus on your strengths, be proud of who you are, and project confidence in your abilities and personality.

2. Communication Skills: Being a good communicator is crucial. Listen actively, engage in meaningful conversations, and show genuine interest in what the other person has to say. Effective communication can create a strong connection.

3. Personal Grooming and Hygiene: Taking care of yourself physically sends a message that you respect yourself and others. Good personal grooming and hygiene can enhance your overall appearance and attractiveness.

4. Passion and Ambition: Even if you're not currently financially well-off, having passion and ambition for your goals can be attractive. Share your dreams, aspirations, and the steps you're taking to achieve them as this can demonstrate determination and drive.

5. Creativity and Resourcefulness: Showcase your creativity and resourcefulness. Plan inexpensive but thoughtful dates, engage in activities that showcase your skills or hobbies, and find ways to make the most of what you have. 

6. Humour: A good sense of humour can be a powerful tool. It helps break the ice, creates a relaxed atmosphere, and makes you more approachable. Just be sure to keep it respectful and appropriate.

7. Shared Values and Interests: Building connections based on shared values and interests can help form a strong bond. Find common ground and engage in activities you both enjoy, whether they are free or low-cost.

8. Emotional Intelligence: Being emotionally intelligent involves understanding and managing your own emotions while being attuned to the emotions of others. This can create a deeper connection and make you more attractive as a partner.

9. Helping and Supportive Attitude: Show kindness and be supportive. Being there for someone during both good and challenging times can make a significant impression.

10. Continuous Self-Improvement: Demonstrate a commitment to personal growth. Whether it's acquiring new skills, pursuing education, or actively working on self-improvement, this mindset can be appealing.

Remember, the key is authenticity. Be true to yourself, be respectful, and focus on building a genuine connection as relationships are about more than just financial status; they thrive on emotional connection, shared values, and mutual respect.

A first date for instance is nothing more than an audition for a second date. It might end up in 'one thing led to another' but all you have to do on a first encounter is create an environment where the two of you can get to know each other, which can be a walk around a residential area or a free market fair.

The point is that spending huge amounts of money (that you don’t have) is not going to make things happen any faster as generally, women are more concerned with the traits you have as a person and what they mean for your long-term growth.

According to an article by The Social Man, real women, the kinds that are worth dating, prefer to be treated like people, and something is dehumanizing to them about treating romance as a transaction that is almost as if you’re implying that she can’t pay for her own stuff. Remember, you are her date, and she wants to see what you’re all about, not how much money you’re willing to spend to impress her.

Using Money To Attract Women

Women who rely on men to do this sort of thing for them, generally, are not the kinds that make for healthy relationships. Some men will argue that women are turned on by money and though it may be true, it’s the artificial attraction that is contingent on the fact that the money never runs out.

It’s also the kind of relationship that is constantly put to the test by other men. The fact is, you’ll never be the tallest, wealthiest, most built, most well-paid, so relying on those things to get you laid just isn’t wise.

This is also an unstable way to go about attracting women and could change at any moment. You’re much better off working on yourself as a person, and not worrying about how big the thousands of shillings in your bank account are.

Whether it’s six figures, or two, don’t let it hold you back from spending time with a new woman you meet. It just takes a bit of creativity. Find something to do that doesn’t cost much money and will still give you an opportunity to talk.

It really doesn’t have to be complicated, and if you can’t think of anything, then it’s a good opportunity to understand that this is a weakness on your part.

If you have trouble keeping a woman occupied with nothing more than a good conversation, then this is a sign of a bigger problem. If you’re broke, use it as a way to learn to keep things simple. It will be a useful exercise and force you to get better at just being an attractive choice for her without really having to try too hard.

There are plenty of men out there who are broke but still manage to attract women because they know how to use what they’ve got. They know how to keep a girl interested in the conversation and in them without feeling the need to buy her.

This should be the goal for most men while keeping in mind that when the time is right and you can afford it, it’s okay to spend on a girl you care about.

So next time you find yourself without any cash to spare, don’t be scared, you can still text that woman you met. Who knows, it may turn out to be one of the best dates you’ve ever had.